Written reflection on relationship Development
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L10RelationshipDevelopmentclassrevised.pptCommunication in
Developing Relationships
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Stage Model of Relationship Development (Knapp & Vangelisti, 2005-2014)
- 5 stages of coming together:
1. ______________
a. ritualistic & formal
b. follow prescribed behaviors
c. make first impression
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Stage Model of Relationship Development (Knapp & Vangelisti, 2005-2014)
- 5 stages of coming together:
2. _________________
a. use small talk to find common ground/similarities
b. generally pleasant, relaxed, uncritical
c. most relationships do not go beyond this stage
3. _________________
a. longer stage & greater commitment to relat.
b. defined the relationship (“best friend,” “dating”); movement from “I” to “we”
c. physical contact starts, increased self-disclosure
d. social support to one another
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Stage Model
- 5 stages of coming together:
4. ______________
a. coupling (Davis, 1973)--fuse into single social identity/others recognize you as a couple
b. adopt bhvrs, manners, beliefs of the other & adopt common property
c. intimacy--physical & self-disclosure
5. ______________
a. public commitment
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Turning Point Approach
(Baxter & Bullis, 1986)
- Map one’s relationship using significant relational events/turning points to determine its development
- Can be much more “individualized”
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Stages of Gay Relationship Development
(McWhirter & Madison, 1984, 1987)
- Stage 1: ___________ (yr. 1)
Unification of couple, lots of time together, high limerence & sexual activity, attempt to equalize relationship
- Stage 2: ___________ (yrs. 2-3)
Homemaking, find compatibility, declining limerence, ambivalence
Kurdek (1994) most stressful stage b/c less family support and less “wisdom” passed down re: successful marriage
- Stage 3: ___________ (yrs. 4-5)
Re-emergence of individual, establish traditions/customs, deal with conflict, take risks
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Stages of Gay Relationship Development
(McWhirter & Madison, 1984, 1987)
- Stage 4: ____________ (yrs. 6-10)
Establish independence but reach new balance of dependence/independence, interpersonal synchrony
- Stage 5: ____________ (yrs. 10-20)
Increased trust, no desire to “change” the other, close friendship, bored w/each other
- Stage 6: ____________
“retirement” stage: financial security allows time for each other, health concerns, issues of accomplishment & meaning in life become important
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Stages of Interracial Relationship Development (Foeman & Nance, 1999)
- Stage 1: ______________
Their own, their partner’s, their collective racial group’s, & their partner’s racial group’s
Attraction & sensitivity
- Stage 2: ______________
Develop proactive & reactive strategies (i.e. insulate from harm, respond to Qs, avoid racially hot issues)
- Stage 3: ______________
Self-sustaining bhvrs (i.e. view racial configuration as positive source of strength, reframe exp. for culture at lge)
- Stage 4: ______________
Ind. difs. in pace, children
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Summary:
Models of Relationship Development
- Stage Models
Knapp & Vangelisti Stage Model of Relat. Development
McWhirter & Madison Stages of Gay Relat. Development
Foeman & Nance Stages of Interracial Relat. Development
- Turning Point Approach
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