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2/10/2019

Homework-Week 5

Individual Speech Presentation: Final Outline

Title: How to Get a Fresh Start after a Broken Mother-Daughter Relationship

General Goal: Narrative Speech on how to get a fresh start after a breakup with a family member.

Specific Goal: Giving tips on how to get a fresh start after a broken mother-daughter relationship to cut down on clashes.

Introduction: When I was younger, I did not know that my mother is different from other mothers. Until I have become older and have been learned from my friends, I have clearly realized that my mother does not behave like other mothers. At the age of thirty-two, I have obviously seen that I have a mother who cannot love. After years of suffering in this unhealthy relationship, I have to accept the fact that my mom and I can no longer live under the same roof, and we have to live apart. I believe that being an toxic mother-daughter relationship for a long time can infect one’s life or lead to his or her psychological crisis. In this presentation, I would like to look on to this matter and find out some ways of how to get a fresh start after a broken mother-daughter relationship.

Body of the Outline:

I. First, make the first move

A. Decide of what you can do to change the situation:

Don’t wait for the other person to make the first move, said Linda Mintle, Ph.D, marriage and family therapist and author of I Love My Mother, But… Practical Help to Get the Most Out of Your Relationship. Doing so inevitably leaves relationships stuck. “Think about how you feel in the relationship and what you can do to change.”

B. Change yourself

Many think that the only way to improve a relationship is for the other person to change their ways. But you aren’t chained to their actions; you can change your own reactions and responses, Mintle said. Interestingly, this can still alter your relationship. Think of it as a dance, she said. When one person changes their steps, the dance inevitably changes.

II. Second, set boundary

A. When visiting for the holidays, meeting your mother outside.

Mintle commonly sees clients who regret not trying to repair their relationships with their moms after they’re gone. Even when the relationship is negative or unhealthy, there’s still a powerful bond, she said. One way to ease into reconnecting with your mom (or daughter) is by setting clear-cut boundaries. (Boundaries are key for any healthy relationship.)

For instance, when visiting your mom or daughter for the holidays, stay at a hotel. Let her know your boundaries and the minute she starts crossing them, say that you’re going to leave.

B. Talking over the phone more often than meeting in person.

If you’re talking over the phone, Mintle gave this example of asserting yourself: “I want to talk to you and keep our relationship going but if you start to call me names or criticize me, I have to hang up the phone because that’s not healthy for me.”

Asserting yourself with your mother or daughter can spill over into other relationships. If you can create and maintain boundaries with her, then you can do this with anyone else, such as your boss or partner, Mintle said.

III. Third, learn to forgive.

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Conclusion:

When you once thought that you were engaged in a toxic mother-daughter relationship, you should either repair it quickly or cut down on clashes since being in an unhealthy relationship for a long time can infect your life or lead to a psychological crisis. These tips are for you to help balance your life by staying connected with your beloved mother without ruin your identity; making the first move, setting a boundary, and learn to forgive.

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