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Given the negative consequences of parental abuse and neglect that are outlined in the textbook, what interventions do you think would be beneficial to provide for children who have been maltreated to help them to overcome the trauma they have experienced?

When one has been abused or neglected as children it never leaves, that feeling of wounded, deprived, and wronged by those we love and trusted. The hurt can be especially deep if those who caused pain were our own parents.  If these hurts are not resolved, they continue to affect subsequent relationships. Individual affected need to fix their past before they move forward or else this will keep traumatizing them for a very long time. When one has gone through this neglect and abuse the pictures never get out of their mind what they do to forget this is as follows:

· Find new relationships with people who give us the things we didn’t get from our damaged parents.

·  Attach ourselves to people who remind us those who hurt us and fix them as a way of vicariously repairing our damaged parents.

·  Change our parents so they will finally give us what we needed when we were young

These three are short term solution but the individual needs a long term solution they have to go back to the moment they were abused in order to detach the trauma and pain: Memories of these events are painful, so we tend to avoid thinking about them too deeply. Or if we do think about them, we focus on certain parts at the expense of others, precluding a complete picture of the events. Thus we have an incomplete and child-like view of the harms experienced, and any mental “solution” to the problem is likewise incomplete and without the benefit of being properly vetted by our mature higher mind. The child mind wants to rewrite the story and change the ending. An individual should revisit the painful memory as a starting point. What happened? They should write down everything that happened. What did you think would happen at that time? What would you have wanted to happen? How did you interpret this event? How did it make you feel, about yourself? Who do you blame for what happened and why? How do you feel toward the other people involved? How did this event affect you in the future? How does it affect how you feel about yourself today? How did it affect your relationships in the past and today? What sorts of things cause this memory to pop up for you?

Write for at least twenty minutes. To best connect with the experience, write in the first person present tense as if the events are happening now. After you write about it, walk away and give yourself a break. Revisit what you wrote, alone or with a supportive, trusted person. Think through the experience using your adult mind. How does that change your perception of the event?  The next day, discard what you wrote, and write about the whole event again. Add more details if you can.  As you repeat this process, observe how your perspective on the event shifts. What changed? What did you learn? This will help get rid of the pain and the traumatic picture one is experiencing

Why do you suppose that actively engaging families in a helping alliance, and encouraging them to accept services, helps reduce their likelihood of child maltreatment?

Helping alliance helps reduce or avoid maltreatment because there are more parties involved in raising and guiding the child, the Barden of doing so will be reduced as the work is shared out. Several examples of family alliance include:

Alliance of Dad + Daughter

Daughters who align themselves with Dad may get a good go-between for themselves and Mom, but the conspiratorial closeness they exhibit with Dad may make Mom resentful and jealous.

Alliance of Mom + Daughter

The alliance between mother and daughter is a natural one despite their conflicts, particularly during adolescence. Sharing the same gender and identifying with one's mom is a strong reason to become allies. On the other side of the coin, situations when Moms align themselves with their daughters can get sticky for several reasons:

· An alliance can pit one sibling against another when there is more than one child, particularly another daughter.

· Usually Mom aligns herself with the child she can manipulate the most.

· Sometimes the mother-daughter alliance is formed in order to present a united, confrontational, and protective front where Dad is concerned.

· In some cases, a mother forms too close of an alliance with a daughter, and turning her into a friend at too early of a age and confiding in her inappropriately.

Alliance of Sibling + Sibling

The coalition formed by cooperative siblings is called "sibling axis." This type of alliance inside the family gives siblings leverage with the older generation, namely Mom and Dad. It's the old story of strength in numbers.

Alliance of Mother + Son

A mother may form an alliance with a son for some of the same reasons she created one with her daughter. However, as we shall see shortly, a son is viewed and treated differently by his mom. This may particularly affect the quality and intimacy of the alliance as well as the determination whether or not to select a son because expectations of him are less when compared with daughters.Family alliances are between one members of the family with a different member this will always prevent maltreatment or neglect among the member in that alliances are formed between members of the family with strong bonds hence no mistreatment.