Organizational Leadership
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Thomas Francis University • Course G381 • Segment 1
—Douglas R. Kelley, PhD, CH, CSL
Updated: October 2, 2015
Upon Completion of this Segment, You Will Know:
How to embrace your own personal growth.
How to raise the Personal Net Asset Value of yourself and your team.
Elements of an effective team.
The differences between teams and groups.
How to train your team.
How to coach your team.
The importance of coaching and feedback sessions.
The Ownership Attitude vs. the Entitlement Attitude.
Why and how to document employee behavior.
How to conduct team member performance reviews.
The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches,
but reveal to them their own.
—Disraeli
ne of the primary roles you play as a leader and manager is to train and coach your em-
ployees. This segment discusses general coaching and training techniques while the next
segment will discuss specific difficult behaviors and discipline issues.
Continuing education should be a part of your team culture. If you don’t train your team, it will
be very difficult for them to work together cohesively. On the other hand, effective training will
make you and your team stand apart and will enable you to be far more proficient performing your
work. Remember, leaders replicate themselves and they do this by training and coaching.
However, in order to be an effective trainer and coach, you need to make sure that you train and
develop yourself first. What are you doing to develop you? I love the advice I picked up somewhere
along the line to “spend 15 minutes each day learning something new.” Fifteen minutes is not a long
time; it makes learning and development simple, and if it is simple, we are more likely to do it.
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As a manager, can you spend 15 minutes a day learning something new in your field? Or 15 minutes
a day learning about how to be a better leader (as you are right now)? Or 15 minutes a day learning
about something else that will help you to be a better, more knowledgeable manager and leader?
Fifteen minutes a day learning something new can be easy if you get into the habit. I regularly
visit several websites each day to keep up on news in various fields. I invariably find something intri-
guing and then do more research online. This easily swallows up 15 minutes (and longer, if truth be
told!), and I always learn something new that I can apply to my life, business, or writing subject
matter.
Fifteen minutes a day equals almost 100 hours each year of time invested in your own development
as a human being and leader. People who spend time refining and developing themselves tend to go
more places in life, attain higher positions in business, and earn a higher income. Can you imagine
how it will help you to deliver greatness to your field?
The objective here is to raise your personal net asset value as well as that of your people. In the
financial world, mutual funds carry a “net asset value” or NAV; it is much like the share price of an
individual stock. A mutual fund’s NAV will rise and fall with the market just as stocks do because
mutual funds are made up of many individual stocks (and/or bonds). Obviously, the higher the market
goes, the higher a mutual fund’s NAV will go and the more money you will make. But if the market
falls, so does the value of a mutual fund’s NAV.
Continuing education and personal growth are just like an ever-rising bull market. The more you
learn the higher your personal net asset value or “PNAV” goes. But the beautiful thing is that it never
falls. In other words, the more you learn, the more you know; and the more you know, the better
you’ll be at what you do—not to mention becoming a more effective leader and manager. Once you
learn something new, it can stay with you as long as you wish.
I readily admit that working on yourself is not always the easiest thing to do—it requires consistent
effort. This is why few people are really serious about improving themselves. They will spend thou-
sands of dollars on “things” and virtually ignore the very thing that will propel them further and
higher in all aspects of their lives and relationships. They just haven’t seen the benefits yet. And
while personal growth takes effort, that effort is well worth it when you consider the broader view
of happiness and fulfillment in life. Motivational speaker Charlie “Tremendous” Jones said, “Your life
will be the same in five years except for the books you read, the tapes you listen to, and the people
you walk with.”
What I’m really talking about here is to have an attitudinal bent toward growing as a human being.
If you have such an attitude, you will attract like-minded people into your “circle” and it will be
easier for your employees to follow your healthy example. Having a positive and healthy “growth
attitude” will also help you to cull your team of unhealthy employees because negative people are
effectively repelled by positive people. Like attracts like in human relationships; Unhealthy people
attract more unhealthy people and push away healthy people. Conversely, healthy people attract
more healthy people and push away unhealthy people.
So, as a leader, can you find a few minutes each day to learn something new? Will you make a
commitment to yourself and continue your personal development by training yourself first? It doesn’t
take much to make a big difference as long as it is consistent and habitual.
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Segment 1 Supplemental Audio: 3 Keys to Personal Development
NOTE: Before proceeding to the next section, please listen to the audio above on
the Course Page for a supplemental discussion of this section. This audio is part of
the course.
ELEMENTS OF AN EFFECTIVE TEAM
The concept of a “team” is different than the concept of a “group.” Even though I’ve used the
terms “team” and “group” interchangeably in this course (and will continue to do so), I’m going to
“split some hairs” for the moment and define the differences for this section.
Technically speaking, a “group” is a collection of people who work individually toward a common
goal and answer to a leader who deals with any performance or personnel issues that arise. Group
members don’t necessarily help one another to perform individual tasks or to reach goals. The group
mentality is “me” rather than “we.” Groups may contain dozens or hundreds of members.
On the other hand, a “team” is a collection of people with complementary skills who work together
toward a common goal with a shared vision. While there may be a team leader, teams are typically
self-directing and mutually accountable. Team members also help one another to get the job done.
The team mentality is “we” rather than “me.” As a general rule, teams operate best with between
four and 12 members.
As you can see, it is difficult to distinguish much significant difference between “groups” and
“teams.” Perhaps another way to look at the differences is to think of a team as a family working
together toward a common goal. With a family, each member works together, helps each other, and
isn’t afraid to voice opinions when necessary. They work together well because they know each other
well and have complementary skills. They also share a common purpose and vision. The family team
will often have a father or mother as the “team leader.”
A “group,” on the other hand, is a collection of people brought together for their individual abili-
ties to fulfill a specific goal. Each one does what he or she is supposed to do, but doesn’t necessarily
help out another member. Individual group members are not generally accountable for the end goal,
whereas on a team they are accountable.
To sum it up, team members work together to accomplish a goal; group members work individually
to accomplish a goal. Teams usually take time to develop whereas groups don’t. As a manager, you
should strive to combine the best of both worlds. Following is a list of combined elements from both
that seems to work well:
Members work together toward the team’s mission, vision, and objectives.
Members assertively relate to each other.
The strengths and weaknesses of members complement each other.
Each member is trained for all positions to the extent possible (cross training).
Each member is part of the decision-making process to the extent possible (shared leadership).
Each member pulls his or her own weight (The Two Most Important Relationship Questions).
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The team is kept as small as functionally possible.
The manager is the Team Leader and the final authority.
Keep the above elements in mind as you determine how big your team will be and who you will
hire. It’s best to invite only those individuals who satisfy a specific need and who fit your team. Think
of open positions or areas of need on your team as holes, and then seek to fill those holes with
competent individuals. Once you’ve filled all the holes, you no longer need employees.
HOW TO TRAIN YOUR TEAM
Training can take a number of forms and can happen in a number of ways. The most obvious
manner is direct teaching. This usually occurs at team meetings, onsite demonstrations, and such. In
order to make training effective, you will need to assess your team to discover areas of need. This is
usually not that hard; you will typically notice when things don’t run smoothly. Even if things are
running smoothly, you will still want to schedule routine training to further enhance your team and
their abilities.
And don’t forget about the importance of training your employees in life-skills. If you want better
employees, teach them life-skills such as relationship and communication techniques. This is why the
TFU Degree Program goes to such lengths in the areas of self-concept and relationships. I wholeheart-
edly recommend that you require employees to get personal growth training from time to time. It
keeps them on the right track and provides a foundation for future training.
Understand that the training process can take weeks or months, depending on how active you are
as a team. It has long been known that people go through four phases when they are learning some-
thing new. I will first discuss these four phases broadly, and then apply them to a specific scenario:
1. Unconscious Incompetent: The person doesn’t know that they don’t know what they are
doing.
We see this trait often in society when people say or do things without thinking. Far too many
people don’t really stop to think about whether they know how to do something effectively
and often end up performing shoddy work or acting irresponsibly. What’s more, many don’t
care to learn how to do things effectively. Unfortunately, we see this trait among many par-
anormal startup groups who end up doing more damage to the client than if they hadn’t “in-
vestigated” at all. They can’t seem to comprehend the concept of “Do No Harm.” These are
the kind of people you want to avoid inviting to join your team in the first place. Use the
screening techniques from Course G380, Segment 4 to identify prospective members who dis-
play careless, reckless, or irresponsible tendencies. These types of people are the hardest to
train because they lack the fundamental and necessary trait of common sense.
2. Conscious Incompetent (many people begin a new position at this phase): The person
knows that they don’t know what they are doing.
Most of your new team members will be at this stage when they join. Your job is to get them
to the next phase by filling in the blanks on research standards, protocols, equipment usage,
etc., and giving them the opportunity to practice and demonstrate their new found skills.
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3. Conscious Competent (the best place to be): The person knows what they are doing, but
they have to think about it.
The paranormal field requires a diverse knowledge and skill base because researchers don’t
often see quite the same phenomena on every case. Therefore, this phase is probably the best
place in which to stay in order to avoid complacency. With training, your members will have
a good foundation of routine matters, but they will also be able to assess each case on its own
merits without thinking each case is the same.
4. Unconscious Competent (this can lead to complacency): The person knows what they are
doing without thinking about it.
To be fair, there are many aspects of paranormal research that requires this phase (such as
equipment usage and research protocols), but in the broader sense, we must never think that
we’ve learned it all. For example, if after conducting numerous investigations we begin to
think that we can get a comprehensive understanding of the client’s claims from a phone call
alone, then we’ve likely become complacent. Various cases may have similarities, but no two
cases are exactly alike. Certain aspects of our research require this phase, but being an Un-
conscious Competent in other aspects can undermine our effectiveness.
Now that I’ve applied these four phases in the broader sense, let me discuss how they apply to
training your team on specific items. If you’ve hired the right type of person to your team, he or she
will already be at the second phase of learning: Conscious Incompetent. Since the new employee is
aware of his or her lack of knowledge, training is easier. When training, use the model of, “Tell them;
Show them; Let them; Give Feedback.” For example, explain how to do a certain task, show them
how to do it, watch them as they practice, and give feedback (coaching).
This model can be adapted to just about any training/coaching need. For example, suppose you
need to train an employee to be a customer service rep. Since this will involve a lot of customer
interaction, you want to make sure this person knows how to handle phone calls and customer ques-
tions effectively. First you “Tell them” by explaining what you’ve learned in this area. Then you
“Show them” and “Let them” by doing some role playing using a typical call-scenario, and then you
“Give feedback.” Once you are satisfied that the employee can handle the position competently, you
again “Let them” with real customers and follow up with feedback as necessary.
Make training an important part of your team meetings and a mandatory part of your team philos-
ophy.
Cross Training Your Team
No good leader or manager would ever place all of his or her “eggs in one basket,” so to speak.
Therefore, it is critical that you cross train your employees so that each one is at least able to ade-
quately perform all necessary tasks. At least two employees should be trained and capable of per-
forming critical tasks. Regardless of the employee, things change from time to time in everyone’s
circumstances, not to mention the possibility of an accident or other event the precludes the primary
employee from performing the task. Cross training your employees will save you potential headaches.
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HOW TO COACH
To “coach” literally means to “train,” however, it also carries the connotation of enhanced train-
ing after the initial training has been done. A more accurate definition of “coaching” is to “develop.”
Coaching is an ongoing process of impromptu as well as scheduled training designed to enhance the
skill level of employees.
A coach’s primary tool is the skillful use of questions, but kind, direct remarks are also in order at
times. An example of a direct remark might be, “I noticed that you are walking when using the Tri-
Field Natural meter. That model actually works best when it is stationary. You may want to keep that
one next to the transmitter and use the K-II meter to walk with.” Notice how I “softened” my words.
Different circumstances require different approaches. One situation may lend itself to using ques-
tions, while a direct remark may be a better choice in a different situation. I could have also framed
a question to deal with the same issue as in the previous paragraph, for example, “I noticed that you
are walking when using the Tri-Field Natural meter. Are you trying something new?” Perhaps the new
employee replies, “I’m doing a baseline sweep of the transmitter for EMFs.” You could then follow
up with a direct remark, “That model actually works best when it is stationary. It reacts when phys-
ically moved and it is a DC meter as well, which means it picks up on natural EMFs. You may want to
keep the Tri-Field still and use the K-II meter to get your baseline reading. Since the K-II is an AC
meter, it’s better suited to man-made EMFs. Does that make sense?” Notice the initial question as
well as the tag on question at the end to elicit a response.
Another coaching opportunity occurs when an employee asks you a question of which he or she
ought to know the answer, or could easily look up the answer. This was briefly mentioned in Course
G380, Segment 2 as reverse delegation. A general rule of thumb that you should employ in this kind
of scenario is: When a team member asks a question, never answer his or her question unless it’s a
crisis or emergency. I’m not referring to mundane questions here; I’m referring to questions that
involve training issues. Don’t directly answer the question unless there is a good reason. Instead, ask
a question or series of questions that leads the member to the correct conclusion on his or her own.
By employing the skillful use of questions at the appropriate time, you will actually help your
employees to grow and learn to think for themselves. We don’t want to build a team of automatons
or mindless followers. We want to build a team of like-minded people who are self-sufficient and who
know how to make things happen. Instead of answering every question, encourage your employees to
embrace the concept of “look it up first; ask questions later.” Of course, human nature is at work
here in that asking questions without making any effort to find the answer is taking the path of least
resistance.
When people ask first without making any effort to find the answer, it taxes your time needlessly.
Again, I am speaking generally here; there will be times when you should answer their questions
directly. But choose wisely so that you are not overloaded and they learn to find answers on their
own. Here’s a practical example of how you could handle an employee asking you a question the
answer of which he or she could look up:
EMPLOYEE: How do I upload a file again to the server?
YOU: Have you checked the video tutorial on how to do it?
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EMPLOYEE: No.
YOU: You can find it in the library section of the company’s website. It will show you
exactly how to do it. Let me know if you have any questions.
EMPLOYEE: I’m not sure I can find the video in the forum.
YOU: Have you looked?
EMPLOYEE: No.
YOU: It’s in the library section under “video tutorials” and I’m sure you can locate it
easily. Let me know if you have any questions.
It always amazes me that people will almost spend more time and effort trying to get a quick
answer than if they actually looked it up. People remember things better when they actually do the
task.
Another coaching tool that you should use on occasion is role-playing. It is especially useful in
coaching an employee on dealing with other employees or customers. For example, perhaps a certain
employee didn’t handle a situation with another employee appropriately maybe even saying some-
thing out of turn. Briefly role playing the scenario can help the offending employee to learn how to
handle it better next time. For role playing to work best, each person should stay in character. Role
playing may feel a bit awkward at first, but the benefits are real.
Coaching, Counseling, and Mentoring
Coaching, counseling, and mentoring may sound like different words for the same thing, but there
are some slight differences. As discussed above, coaching primarily refers to an ongoing process of
impromptu and/or scheduled training designed to enhance the skill level of employees.
Counseling is a form of coaching that’s generally performed in a therapeutic or disciplinary situa-
tion. “Coaching,” “training,” and “counseling” are virtually interchangeable because sometimes you
will coach to train and sometimes you will coach to counsel. When conducting training, the trainer
usually talks more than the trainee because the trainer is teaching. When doing counseling, the coun-
selor talks less than the other person because the counselor is asking open-ended questions in an
effort to draw the other person out and seek resolution. Use coaching in the counseling mode when-
ever you need to coach an employee on an important issue related to performance or discipline.
Mentoring encompasses both coaching and counseling, but it goes a step further. Mentors have a
vested interest in the other person that goes beyond the typical relationship. Bob Proctor, an author
and speaker, said, "A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you than you see in
yourself, and helps bring it out of you." Think about someone who mentored you in the past. Didn’t
he or she have a vested interest in seeing you succeed? A mentor often sees him or herself in the
other person and therefore wants to help. Indeed, we have all had many mentors at various times in
our lives (whether we identified them as such or not), and will continue to have them in the future.
Anyone whose behavior you emulate is effectively a mentor for you.
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While you can coach or counsel any employee, you don’t usually mentor every employee. A men-
tor/mentee relationship usually forms because two people “connect” on a deeper level; they identify
with each other and have a lot in common. You are not going to connect or identify wi th every
employee on this level, which is fine. You can still coach every employee to excellence.
COACHING AND FEEDBACK SESSIONS—THE FIRST STEP TO AVOIDING PROBLEMS
In any business or other operation, there is usually equipment that requires maintenance. From
copiers to computers to vehicles to other pieces of equipment, they all require regular attention to
maintain proper working order. This regular attention is known as “Preventive Maintenance” (PM)
and can include cleaning, adjusting, and parts replacement. Just about every piece of equipment
made has a “PM Cycle” with maintenance protocols scheduled according to the time frame and degree
of use.
Years ago when I was in the office equipment industry, I found out very quickly that when we got
behind in doing our PM calls, we ended up spending all our time “putting out fires.” We went from
one crisis to another crisis to another. Then there was no time to do the preventive maintenance
calls because we were so busy taking care of problem calls, which only led to more problem calls.
We then had to work overtime to not only take care of the problem calls that were continually coming
in (which was not good customer service either), but also to get the PM calls back on track. Once the
PM calls were back on track, then we only had the occasional “fire;” the occasional crisis to deal
with. Business was then much easier to handle. So often in life, that which takes a short time to
neglect, takes a long time to correct.
Businesses usually spend a lot of time, effort, and money on marketing, sales, acquiring equip-
ment, setting up websites, establishing policies, and tending to other necessary business. How much
time, effort, and money are you spending on maintaining your people? Your employees along with
your clients are your two most valuable assets. Do your employees not deserve at least as much
attention as the other necessary things with which you deal? Indeed, they certainly deserve more.
Performing regular coaching and feedback sessions with your employees is like scheduled Preven-
tive Maintenance and is the first step in dealing with difficult employees. A lack of regular feedback
and coaching only serves to engender a fertile ground for problems, difficult behaviors, poor perfor-
mance, and negative attitudes to develop and flourish. And then it becomes much more difficult and
time consuming to change these behaviors. Again, what took a short time to neglect, takes a long
time to correct.
How can you implement your own “Preventive Maintenance” Program? Simply by scheduling time
to talk individually with your employees to give and get feedback. How often should you talk? Often
enough to develop your people and coach them for growth. I personally believe that you should
schedule time to talk with your employees at least once a month (in addition to typical everyday
discussions). In any event, make it regular. Coaching and feedback sessions don’t have to take a long
time. They can last from 15 minutes to how ever long you need at the moment. The important thing
is to begin doing them.
As you implement your PM program, let your employees know exactly why you are conducting the
sessions and exactly how they will work. Tell them that you are calling or meeting with them—not to
put them on the “hot seat”—but to simply see how things are going as well as to provide a forum for
helping them to grow.
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A great method for giving and getting feedback that we use in training is the concept of “LB’s”
and “NT’s” which stand for, “Liked Best” and “Next Time.” When giving feedback, you could say,
“Here’s what I Liked Best about how you performed that task…” and then give them your positive
feedback. If there was something they could have done better, tell them, “Here’s what you might
keep in mind for Next Time….” Always use both together starting with LB’s and be sure to explain
the definition of LB’s and NT’s to them too. And don’t forget to bring this feedback session “Full
Circle” by asking for LB’s and NT’s on you and your leadership as well. Leadership means not taking
yourself too seriously.
Perhaps you feel like some managers who say, “I’m too busy and have way too many things going
on to meet with my people as often as you recommend.” If so, remember the advice from our previous
discussion that adds perspective to the matter of “things” and people: Things only matter to the
extent that they benefit somebody. If you completely remove the people element from your business
(employees and customers), will you still have a business? Of course you won’t. Do you see just how
important people are? It is obviously true that things do need to get done. But without people,
“things” would no longer matter and you simply would not be where you are now. Don’t be so focused
on getting “things” done, that you neglect your employees; for they are the source of your success
or your failure as a team and company.
Why not take action now by implementing or refining your own Preventive Maintenance program?
It is the first step to an efficient team as well as in handling difficult employees; for this is where you
will identify and minimize many difficult behaviors. This will in turn strengthen your leadership as
well as your team.
The Ownership Attitude vs. the Entitlement Attitude
In the business world, far too many employees are infected with a sense of entitlement that is
characterized by the attitude of “the company owes me and is here for me, not the other way around;
whatever I take, I deserve.” These types of employees will then proceed to take and take and take,
all the while feeling no ethical dilemma of returning less than they give. This disparity is called the
Entitlement Attitude.
Conversely, every now and then you see a company whose corporate philosophy engenders the
Ownership Attitude which is characterized by an employee taking an active interest in the company
by mentally considering that he or she is part owner of the company. This kind of employee under-
stands that in order for the company to succeed, he or she must consistently give more than they
take. Employees with the Ownership Attitude show initiative, deliver superior customer service, and
almost manage themselves. These types of employees typically benefit from the company’s success
to a greater degree.
Like many things in life, the Pareto Principle works here too. The Pareto Principle is commonly
known as the 80/20 Rule and was suggested by management consultant Joseph M. Juran who named
it after Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto.1 The Pareto Principle states that 80% of the effects come
from 20% of the causes.
While not always an exact figure, the Pareto Principle can be used as a rule of thumb in many
areas. For example, 80% of your team problems will come from 20% of your employees; 80% of your
1 Wikipedia. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/80-20_rule.
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sales will come from 20% of your customers; and 80% of the Ownership Attitude will come from 20%
of your employees.
As a leader, you want to create a climate that encourages the Ownership Attitude among your
employees. You can do this through your team philosophy, regular training, coaching, feedback, and
holding employees to appropriate accountability. You can also create an Ownership Attitude climate
by setting goals that require you and your employees to stretch a bit. One way is to encourage them
to become authorities and experts in the field (if applicable) by being active, writing articles and
books, lecturing, etc. Of course, most of your employees will not have the desire to do any of this,
but they can still display the Ownership Attitude by performing their jobs efficiently and showing
initiative where appropriate.
The Ownership Attitude is what separates those who excel and those who don’t.
DOCUMENTING EMPLOYEE BEHAVIOR
The easiest way to track your members’ progress is to document things as they arise. Regularly
document important events, issues, or incidents so that you can address them as appropriate. A
simple way to do this is to have a file in your word processor for each employee. If and when positive
or negative performance issues arise, add an entry to the specific employee’s file listing the date and
a commentary of the event.
A great method that helps when documenting employee issues is: “We met…; We discussed…; We
agreed.” For example:
Mary and I met on Thursday, January 22, 2009. We discussed her lack of efficiency
when setting up for trade shows, specifically, taking too many breaks and standing
around while others work. We agreed that she will work faster, take fewer breaks, and
ask if she is not sure what to do next.
Your documenting notes may be necessary regarding legal issues arising from an employee’s be-
havior and can even be subpoenaed by a court. Therefore, document both good and poor behav-
ior/performance in non-emotional terms; state only facts. Keep your comments objective and without
value judgments. For example, instead of writing, “Mary is just too lazy,” write, “Mary needs to
improve on helping with equipment setup at trade shows.” Write as if others will read it, because
they just might and you will want to show by your statements that you as a manager are fair, reason-
able, and consistent.
Remember, “If it’s not written down, it didn’t happen.” Documenting employee behavior is also
a good way for you to remember events especially if the difficult behavior follows a pattern that
erupts infrequently over time. By documenting your employee’s performance on a regular basis, you
will also be able to identify specific coaching areas as well as remember items that need to be ad-
dressed in the performance review.
Finally, your documenting notes are private and for your use only unless requested by an authority
such as HR or the court. This means that you are not under any obligation to share your notes with
employees.
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PERFORMANCE REVIEWS
Another aspect of coaching and training is performing employee performance reviews on a regular
basis. It allows your employees to know where they stand and also helps you and them to identify
areas in which they excel and areas that need improvement. Doing performance reviews promotes
healthy and regular communication between you and your employees. As a leader, it will also help
you to develop your people which will, in turn, enhance your overall team.
The frequency of performance reviews is largely up to you, however, I recommend that you con-
duct them semi-annually. Performance reviews don’t need to take a long time either. Try to conduct
your reviews in person, if possible, otherwise, conduct them over the phone if geographical distance
is an issue. Please note that performance reviews are conducted in addition to your regular feedback
and coaching sessions.
A strong word of caution is appropriate here: Never, ever, ever put off doing a performance re-
view! Ever! Always conduct your performance reviews at the prescribed time. This is especially true
if the employee is in line for a raise. When you put off or delay doing performance reviews, you are
unwittingly sending your employees the message that they are “just not that important.” And if a
potential raise is involved, you are now essentially screwing with their paycheck and you never screw
with someone’s paycheck! The delaying of performance reviews plants tiny seeds of negativity in
employees that can and will lead to further problems and low morale. Show your employees the
respect they deserve by conducting performance reviews on time.
You likely already have a performance review form used in your company or organization. If not,
or if you are developing a performance review form, a sample performance review form is available
in on the course page. You are free to modify this form as you choose. You’ll note that the rating
scale consists of only two criteria: 1: Under Development; and 2. Meets/Exceeds Expectations. Your
goal should be to encourage employees to grow and excel. Your job is to help them succeed in a
positive way, not weigh them down with negatives. Using the 1 - 2 scale allows you to appraise the
employee’s need for improvement in a non-blaming manner. I deliberately avoided the term, “needs
to improve” because no one likes to hear that. However, we don’t mind “developing our skills.” This
is another example of softening your words.
To conduct a performance review, first examine the Performance Review Techniques chart at the
end of this segment that shows what to keep in mind before, during, and after the review. Conducting
a performance review is conceptually quite simple. You simply need to answer The Two Most Im-
portant Relationship Questions in your mind (as discussed previously). To reiterate, they are 1) What
do I bring to this relationship? and 2) What does the other person (employee) bring to this relationship?
Use the Two Questions worksheet on the course page as a guide before you fill out the actual perfor-
mance review form.
Using The Two Most Important Relationship Questions makes your job much easier when appraising
team members in that you praise and commend the employee for the things he or she “brings to the
table,” and use the things that he or she “takes away from the table” as a ready-made development
program for the subsequent period. These two questions are invaluable in determining which areas
are in need of coaching and training, especially if you are having a hard time figuring out specifically
where the employee needs to improve. Incidentally, if you believe an employee needs to improve in
some area, make sure that you are not contributing to the employee’s problem by your own behavior
or attitude.
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Also, make sure you always give credit where credit is due. If an employee deserves a top score
on a review item, then give him or her that top score. Unfortunately, far too many managers are
under the false and demoralizing assumption that no employee should ever receive the highest score
in any area. They reason that if a top score is given, the employee will have nothing left to work on.
Many managers also falsely reason that “nobody is perfect, therefore, nobody should ever get the
highest score.” Both of these lines of reasoning are outright rubbish and any manager who believes
in such absurdities has no clue about human nature.
Consider the true-life case study from one of my past seminar attendees. “Kathy” was a manager
who worked hard and conscientiously at her job. She did not miss a single day of work over the
previous year, nor was she tardy even once. When it came time for her performance review, her
manager wanted to give her a “4” instead of a “5” (the top score) for the attendance section on her
review. When she asked how she could improve in this area, her manager told her that “nobody gets
a ‘5’ because nobody is perfect.” She stood her ground and again asked how she could improve in this
area since her attendance record was perfect. Her manager finally gave in and Kathy received a “5”
for attendance.
Let’s assume, for discussion, that Kathy did not get the highest score for attendance on her review.
What do you think her attendance record would be like for the upcoming year? You guessed it; she
would have had no compelling reason to maintain a perfect record because, frankly, it doesn’t really
matter to upper management. She could have easily reasoned, “What difference does it make to be
here every day? I was here every day for a whole year and I still didn’t receive any real credit.”
In such a case, guess what would have just been planted? A not-so-tiny seed of negativity which
will only lead to further negativity, and all caused by a manager who didn’t understand human nature.
It can be quite demoralizing when an employee has worked hard toward a development goal only to
not receive credit; it may leave him or her with an “I can’t win” attitude. Do not make such a mistake
when doing performance reviews.
The overall point of doing performance reviews is to encourage and develop your people. There-
fore, performance reviews should be an event to which your employees look forward, not dread.
Employee Development Plans
When an employee needs development in a specific area, create a development plan, also known
as a Performance Improvement Plan. Involve the employee in the development plan as well by asking,
“What are your thoughts/feelings on improving in this/these area(s)?”
Show the benefits of improvement in a way the employee can understand. Remember, “A person
convinced against his or her will is of the same opinion still.” Like you, the employee is always asking,
“What’s in it for me? (WIIFM)” Be sure to answer this question.
Also be sure to continue coaching the employee in conjunction with the development plan. Also,
make improvement criteria measurable. You need to know how and when a development goal is
attained.
After working with the employee to develop the plan, gain his or her commitment. It is not over
until you gain a commitment.
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Getting Full-Circle Feedback
Before the performance review is over, be sure to get feedback from the employee on how you
are doing. This can be done easily by using “LB’s” and “NT’s.” Ask the employee what he or she likes
best about your management and leadership. Then ask about areas in which you can improve. Be sure
to put the employee at ease by letting him or her know that you are also trying to improve. This will
make it easy for the employee to be candid.
Make the commitment to regularly train and coach your employees, and you will soon reap the
benefits! Additionally, you will tend to avoid difficult employee behavior, which is discussed in the
next segment.
[See chart below.]
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Performance Review Techniques
1. Before
a. NEVER delay or put off a Review for any reason.
Putting off a Review sends the message, “You are just not that important” to the employee
b. Review employee’s Job Description
c. Begin with the end in mind; have an objective;
know where you are going
Define clear expectations with measurable re- sults
d. Ask yourself the “Two Most Important Relationship Questions:”
1. “What do I bring to this relationship?”
2. “What does the employee bring to this relation- ship?”
e. Don’t take yourself too seriously!
2. During
a. Put employee at ease by creating a safe, positive,
and Win-Win atmosphere
Explain what employee can expect during the
Review
Conduct the Review in a comfortable, neutral setting
Strive for “same-side-of-the-desk” seating—
don’t sit face-to-face with a desk/table be- tween you and the employee if at all possible
Build rapport by using friendly, conversational language and voice tone
Express appreciation and commendation to the
employee for his/her contribution to the team and willingness to grow and improve (if true)
Use “LB’s” and “NT’s”
LB = “Liked Best”
NT = “Next Time”
“Here’s what I liked best about [your per-
formance]…. Here’s what to keep in mind next time….”
Remain fair and unbiased by focusing on:
Performance, not personalities;
Resolution, not blame
Valid, concrete, relevant issues rather than subjective emotions and feelings
b. Communicate
Encourage employee to talk by asking open-
ended questions
Talking should be 50 / 50 or better (you listen more)
Listen carefully and thoughtfully
Don’t say things in such a way that it puts the employee on the defensive (use word soften-
ers)
Be specific on any necessary areas of improve- ment
Focus 10% on relevant past; 30% on the pre- sent; 60% on the future
c. Develop a Performance Improvement Plan (if nec-
essary)
Involve employee in the development plan.
Ask, “What are your thoughts/feelings on im- proving in this/these area(s)?”
Show the benefits of improvement
Make improvement criteria measurable
Reach an agreement with the employee on performance improvement and method, and
then gain his/her commitment
d. Reiterate appreciation and thanks
Build up and encourage the employee
Express your confidence in him/her
Reiterate that your job is to help him/her suc-
ceed
e. Give Credit Where Credit is Due
f. Full-Circle Feedback
Ask employee for feedback (LB/NT’s) on how you are doing as manager
Ask employee for any suggestions on improving as a leader
Really listen to what he/she says and don’t
take offense
3. After
a. Accept and insist on personal responsibility
Follow through on coaching employee for im-
provement
Provide any necessary training
b. Communicate—keep the employee informed
Do regular coaching and feedback sessions if necessary
c. Grow from this experience!
Ask yourself, “What did I learn from this to make me
a more effective leader?”