GRA 440: Finding Purpose

To THRIVE

In ---------------Out

Deep ------------Slow

Calm ------------At Ease

As is ------------I’m Here

Mindfulness

The Most Important Question?

The Wisdom of life consists in the elimination of NON-ESSENTIALS LIN YUTANG

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“Remember that if you don’t prioritize your life someone else will.”

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“It’s not about how to get more things done; it’s about how to get the right things done.” G McKeown

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“It is not just information overload; it is opinion overload.” G McKeown

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“a choice is an action”

“We can either make our choices deliberately or allow other people’s agendas to control our lives.”

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“Do Less but Better”

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Three Steps:

1. Explore / Evaluate

2. Eliminate

3. Create / Execute

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Step 1: Explore

Discerning the Trivial from the VITAL FEW

“Right Thing” What? “Right Reason” Why? “Right Time” When?

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Step 1: Explore

“Without Great solitude no serious work is possible.” Pablo Picasso

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Step 1: Explore

Creating Space in one’s life.

Reflective Practice

Meditation

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Step 1: Explore

Clarify the QUESTION

“What question are you trying to answer?”

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PLAY

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To Play Orchestrating short-term or working memory resources

Directing the storage of information in long-term memory

Directing retrieval of information from long-term memory

Monitoring and regulating speed of information processing

Overseeing alternation between pattern and detail processing

Inhibition of reflexive behavioral responses

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To Play

Directing and sustaining attention while screening out interference

Interrupting and returning to an ongoing activity

Shifting cognitive resources to focus on new demands or a new hierarchy of priorities

Regulating social behavior including empathy and social sensitivity

Enabling self-observation and self-analysis

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To Play

Applying hindsight and foresight in processing information

Modifying motor output and altering performance based on feedback

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“PLAY doesn’t just help us to explore what is Essential. It is essential in and of itself.”

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SLEEP

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Prioritize Sleep

Reframe sleep as something that is productive

Aim for 7 to 9 hours a night

Best way to figure : 10 to 14 day go to sleep when your tired and wake without alarm clock

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Prioritize Sleep

Expose self to natural light during the day

Exercise

Limit Caffeine intake

Only use your bed for sleep and sex

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SELECT

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“No more YES. IT’S EITHER HELL YEAH! Or No”

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Wisdom of the Heart William M Heywood PhD

Values

Values

Life is without meaning. You bring the meaning to it. The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning.

- Joseph Campbell

Values

A man is what he thinks about all day long.

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Values

What do you want to ACHIEVE in your life?

i.e. self respect, self identity, self worth, social status, success

Values

What do you want to ACQUIRE in your life?

i.e. money, college degree, car, home, spouse?

Values

What will you DEFEND?

i.e. your life, children, parents, friends, reputation

Values

Criteria for a full value Choosing freely from alternatives after thoughtful consideration of the consequences of each alternative

Values

Criteria for a full value Choosing freely from alternatives after thoughtful consideration of the consequences of each alternative

Prizing cherishing, being happy with the choice willing to affirm the choice publicly

Values

Criteria for a full value Choosing freely from alternatives after thoughtful consideration of the consequences of each alternative

Prizing cherishing, being happy with the choice willing to affirm the choice publicly

Acting doing something with the choice doing something repeatedly, in a consistent manner.

Values

Universal Values (Worldcentric)

Cultural Values

Individual Values

Values

Universal Values

Cultural Values (Ethnocentric)

Individual Values

Values

Universal Values

Cultural Values

Individual Values (Egocentric)

Values

Instrumental Values consist, primarily, of personal characteristics and character traits

Values

Terminal Values

those things that we can work toward or we think are most important and that we feel are most desirable.

Values

Instrumental Values

Ambitious (Hard-working, aspiring) Broadminded (Open-minded) Capable (Competent, effective) Cheerful (Lighthearted, joyful) Clean (Neat, tidy) Courageous (Standing up for your beliefs) Forgiving (Willing to pardon others) Helpful (Working for welfare of others) Honest (Sincere, truthful)

Values

Instrumental Values

Imaginative (Daring, creative) Independent (Self-reliant, self sufficient) Intellectual (Intelligent, reflective) Logical (Consistent, rational) Loving (Affectionate, tender) Obedient (Dutiful, respectful) Polite (Courteous, well-mannered) Responsible (Dependable, reliable) Self - controlled (Restrained, self discipline)

Values

Terminal Values

A world at Peace (free of war and conflict) Family Security (taking care of loved ones) Freedom (independence, free choice) Equality (brotherhood, equal opportunity for all) Self-respect (self esteem) Happiness (contentedness) Wisdom (a mature understanding of life National security (protection from attack) Salvation (saved, eternal life)

Values

Terminal Values

True friendship (close companionship) A sense of accomplishment (a lasting contribution) Inner Harmony (freedom from inner conflict) A comfortable life (a prosperous life) Mature love (sexual and spiritual intimacy) A world of beauty (beauty of nature and the arts) Pleasure (an enjoyable leisurely life) Social recognition (respect, admiration) An exciting life (a stimulating active life)

Values

Personal Values Instrumental Values - Preferred methods of behavior to achieve end goals Terminal Values - Goals that we work towards and view as desirable

Societal Values - Values that account for society order and guide behavior

Universal Values - Value or worth for all humanity

Values Exercise

1.When was a time that you were happiest?

2.When was a time that you were most proud?

3.When was a time you felt most fulfilled or satisfied?

4.When was a time that you felt wronged?

5.When was a time that you stood up for something or defended something?

BELIEFS

Beliefs are the stories we tell ourselves to define our personal sense of reality. It’s how we make sense of the world around us.

Reasons We Believe Things Evidence Tradition Authority Association Revelation

How to Look Closer at Core Beliefs Sensory - What do you witness with your senses?

Evaluation - How do you prioritize information to be worthy or believable?

Emotional and Bodily Responses - How does your body and emotion correspond?

Response - What is your response in words, deeds, actions, or thoughts?

Belief System Exercise 1.Journal Your Internal Dialogue

Which beliefs are limiting?

Which are negative?

Which are positive?

Which ones have more weight?

Belief System Exercise 2. Practice Mindfulness to Be Aware of Your Emotions

How easy is it for your to be present and aware of emotions as you are experiencing them?

How often do you check in with yourself?

Reflection Question

How do your values and beliefs impact your decision making?

Step 2: Eliminate

Which means to say NO to the trivial.

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Step 3: Execute

“To create a system that removes obstacles and makes execution easy.”

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“What do I feel deeply inspired by?”

“What am I particularly talented at?”

“What meets a significant need in the world?”

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Voice of Judgment

Mindfulness