Interpersonal Communication essays

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4/18/2011

Communication Journal

How you Take it

Sometimes people say things that others take the wrong way. My chapter advisor for my sorority shut down our house for three weeks. To find a way to hang out with each other the girls decided that it would be a fun idea to pitch a tent in front of the fraternity houses. While making the Phi Mu Mansion, some one posted on facebook “were just stickin it to the man.” This was not suppose to be a strike or a defiance towards our chapter advisor, but she took it that way. She asked us if we did not want her to be our advisor because if we do things behind her back then it’s pointless for her to be here for us. Some things that are said can hurt even though they were not meant to.

Why are You Mad

Sometimes text messaging can cause fights because someone can not see the emotion of the person on the other side. The other day I was texting my boyfriend about him moving to Lafayette. My texts were short and did not say much because I was not happy about him moving. He asked my a few times what was wrong but I just veered the conversation in another direction. Then he asked if I was mad at him for moving, and I told him that I was not mad just upset that he was leaving. Watching what you say while texting is a good idea because anyone can take it in the wrong way.

Ooooops!!!!

Sometimes people have slips of the tongue that can lead to further arguments. One night me and my boyfriend were laying in bed having a minor argument and I said something that he followed up with “why are you always on my back Lindsey (one of his exs).” I asked him what he just said with a chuckle and then he started saying im so sorry I did not mean to it was an accident. I just blew off the fact that he called me her name but I asked him why he said it. He said that she always was on his back and never gave way for anything and I was acting like her. Thank God I just forgave him because I did the same thing the next week. Some times people say things that they just don’t mean too.

Words Hurt…

Sometimes things are said that really hurt a person. One day I was in a meeting for my sorority and someone told me that I was a disgrace for the chapter. She did not mean for it to sound bad but it did. I took this to heart and it did not feel all that great to be called a disgrace. People really need to be mindful of what they tell others it can really damage someone.

Taking it Out

People in certain circumstances may take their frustration out on the wrong people. The other day I was frustrated and tired. Instead of just going and taking a nap I decided to stay and talk with my family. As I got more tired I became fussy and snapped at my mom. It was not really towards her I just did not feel all that great. I guess that I need to watch who I take my frustration out on.

Here we go again

When someone says something in a tone that is not flattering it can be taken to be rude. The other day I was talking with a friend about a fight me and my boyfriend had and she said under her breath “here we go again.” This did not feel good so I just ended the conversation and walked off to go to class. It really hurt that she did not want to hear what I had to say. I know I would have listened.

I’m riding solo

A person might take what you are saying in a different way then what you meant. The other day I was riding in my car and the song solo came on. I was on the phone with my boyfriend at the time and I started singing. When I said I’m riding solo he thought that I meant I was single when all I meant was that I was in my car by myself. We got that cleared up fast. Sometimes I just need to watch what I say in front of him I guess.

Wow I didn’t think…..

One day people will fully understand what the other person was trying to say, but I guess today is not that day. The other day my friend and I were sitting down talking and I told her that I was excited for her to graduate. She thought that I was ready for her to leave. She followed my statement with “Wow I didn’t think I was such an inconvenience.” I then said no I am happy for you, you finally get to go out and get a good job like you want. If only people understood instead of over reacting.

Wrong Number!!!

People sometimes accidentally text the wrong person without checking who they sent the message to. The other day my friend was trying to text me about a problem she was having. She sent her whole story and even got feed back. The next day she heard someone else talking about it and came up to me and asked why I told people. I just asked what she was talking about and told her I never got the message. She then realized that she sent the text to someone who has a big mouth. She said she felt like such an idiot after. She now checks who she is sending the message to before she sends it.

TMI

Sometimes people just give too much information. I was talking to a random person in one of my classes one day about boyfriends and such. She then proceeds to tell me about her sex life and I looked at her funny. She asked what the problem was and I told her I just met her and did not want to hear about that. She apologized and said that she did not think that I would have a problem with it. Guess she was wrong.