Interpersonal Communication essays

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April 17, 2011

Communication 205 Journals

Cultural Reasoning         The little boy I stay with is very jealous when I go on a date with a guy. So, one day I asked him what kind of guy he thinks I would find. He said, “ A brown or peach guy. But if it’s a brown one don’t bring him here because we are a peach family.” It was such a cute remark that all I did was laugh and say okay. I didn’t know any other way to answer him at the moment. I figured it was more of a child’s cultural reasoning than racism. Still Confused         I met this guy, Cade,  a few months ago because he wanted me to tutor him in math. At the time he had a girlfriend and I had just recently broken up with my boyfriend. After he broke up with his girlfriend, we became really close and started going place and hanging out together. He was a great guy and I enjoyed being around him. One day, I finally got up the courage to tell him how I really felt about him (over text message). He didn’t answer me until a few days later. He said that I was a great person and he was confused about what he wanted. He thought it was better to not even be friends anymore. I was very shocked and to this day I have no clue why he said that. I’ve learned that if I’m ever in this kind of situation again to confront them face to face. Awkward         A few months ago I went meet a few friends at Yesterdays to listen to the band and dance the night away. I was sitting there watching the band and this random guy, I still have no idea who he was, came up to me, fell at my feet, and handed me a rose. I started laughing and blushing. He got up and left. I felt bad for laughing at him but I accepted the rose. I never seen the guy again. Angry Words         Almost every night my parents call to see what I am doing and see how my day went. One day unparticular, my dad called me to see what I was doing and I was busy studying to a biology test. I kept the conversation short and sweet because I didn’t want to loose my focus. A few minutes later my mom messaged me saying that my dad was mad at me. I had no clue why he would be mad at me, which I told her that. She said because he felt like I didn’t want to talk to him tonight. I explained that I had a test the next day. She even accused me of raising my voice at him, which I didn’t. I got really upset and told her from now on that I won’t talk to either of them unless its face to face. They eventually said they were sorry and that it was miscommunication. Misunderstanding         My sister, Caitlyn, gets almost every story backwards. The other day I was telling her how my softball game went. I told her that I hit the ball over a guys head to the fence and hit my friend, Rob, in. Later that night, my dad called and asked how the game went and asked if Rob was okay. I was very confused as to why he asked that. My dad told me that Caitlyn told him that I hit the ball over the fence and hit Rob on the head. Once I told him the real story he laughed and couldn’t believe my sister got that confused over a simple explanation. From now on I tell stories straight to my parents. Realization         I live with two ladies and their little boy. Every now and then when I answer the phone I say hello and the other person says either, “Shelly Ranea!” or “Hey girl what are you doing.” I very politely tell them that this is Courtney Lane or answer their question. They finally realize that it isn’t Mrs. Shelly they are talking to. Apparently me and Mrs. Shelly sound exactly the same over the phone. I’ve learned to answer the phone and say its Courtney before they start asking questions. Mumbling         I really have to try to speak clearly when I’m in front of people. When I go to my parents house I usually have a lot of stories to tell them. More than once I have to repeat my story because I was either talking to fast or mumbling. My mom hates when I do this because she can’t understand me. My cousin, on the other hand, talks just like me. We can understand everything we tell each other and my mom doesn’t even bother listening when we are talking together. She knows she won’t understand us. Friendly Gesture         I was walking from my statistics class to my communications class when I saw someone waving at me. I stopped and looked around to see if it was me or someone else she was waving at. There was no one around me so I politely waved back. As she got closer, she realized I wasn’t who she thought I was. She apologized and we both started laughing and went our separate ways. Sympathy         My friend, Sarah, and I are the best of friends. We are always listening to each others problems and sympathizing with each other. Two nights before my senior prom, my boyfriend at the time told me that he may not be going with me to prom. I was very upset. I called Sarah and she didn’t even hesitate to come over. We talked for hours and just listened and offered advice. By the time she left, I felt better. I could not have gotten through that situation without her. Argument          During a practice softball game I was playing, a guy on our team was taking then game a little to seriously. He got really mad at a call that was made and I tried to tell him to calm down because it was just practice. He got really mad at me and eventually let. We don’t talk anymore as much as we used to. I’ve learned to just mind my own business next time I am put in a situation like that.