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Some thoughts in teaching my daughter

The book i choose is Cinderella Ate My Daughter. This author talked some thoughts in teaching her daughter. I am really agree with it and i also want to tell my thoughts in teaching my little girl(s) in the future.

We always say how to educate children. Its practicality is an ordinary heart, a general's love, and an effort to accompany the TA when it is too busy is the best education. At the same time, giving children encouragement, educating children to cherish, and setting an example to be the best family education.

Here we go the first tip, i want my daughter can own the democratic rights in family. I will do my best to avoid the words said as :that’s good for you. Actually i think it is a kind of moral abduction. There were so many parents forced their child to do the things they want to do but they didn’t do when they were young. I have seen many examples like this.

Many parents thought if their child do as they said the will be success. So here comes a problem. How we defined success? What is success? My child can play the piano. My girl can dance. My boy study in ivy. My baby work in government. So what? Are they happy? Some parents show off their children like a perfect thing they made. And they will be more dignified. So i can’t resist to as are your children the tool to make you more perfect? As the luxury in your hand? Of course not.

The define of raise a child successfully is make her happy. Those only came from “not success”. Those things looks like useless but are the beautiful experience of you little girl.

If i have a baby i will do my best to give her freedom consciousness. I will let her do the decision by herself. This will make her grow up as a independent girl. I will give her my advise but i won’t force her to do what i think is right. In some family stuffs i will ask her for advise or help. I will let her to do things by herself. Although sometimes the children may not do well, they will mess up the folded clothes, sweep the garbage everywhere, and sprinkle the rice on the table. But be sure to let your child try it. This is because the children's bones and muscles are not well developed and their movements are not coordinated. If parents think that their children are still too young, they can't do anything. Instead, they have to add a lot of trouble to adults and wait for them to grow up. Gradually children will gradually become dependent, and once they become dependent, these habits will be difficult to correct.

Compared with the growth process of other animals, human growth will experience a longer period of dependence. In infancy, children cannot even distinguish themselves from their surroundings. Children around the age of one year are full of curiosity and joy in the first step of walking independently in life. This is a demonstration of the child's independent ability. As the age increases, children's self-awareness gradually forms. Two-year-old children can begin to use the first personal pronoun "I," which signifies the formation of a child's independent consciousness. Children begin to realize the existence of self, and promote positive interaction with the surrounding environment. It is a crucial period for cultivating children's independent awareness and independence. At this time, parents should take the initiative to create an environment for their children. Under the supervision of their parents, the children should be able to perform tasks that they can do, such as eating by themselves, packing up their own toys, and so on. As children's self-control ability and activity coordination ability are improved, by the age of three to four, children can be trained to wear their own clothes and shoes, and then gradually let their children learn to clean up their beds and dining tables. If we have too high demands on our children, we can easily make children feel frustrated and lose self-confidence. If the demands are too low, we lose the value of exercise. Therefore, only by understanding the general laws of children's physical and mental development and the characteristics of their children, can parents be able to specifically meet the requirements of their children's development level, and gradually increase the children's independence and enhance their independence.

In this process, the child never learns to learn to do it gradually. It is an inevitable law and a necessary process. Therefore, parents should give children more opportunities to create exercise, let go of the children to do it, do not be afraid of the child to do a bad job, do not worry, can not be fully blamed, but can not be replaced by conscious, to consciously develop and exercise the child's self-help ability, at the same time, Let them learn the necessary help in life. For example, when there is a sudden power outage at home, the phone is blocked, the water pipe is stopped, and people get lost. Parents can use this to help their children learn to ask for help, know which departments they should turn to, and what methods they can use for help. For the children to do things independently, as long as it is hard work, the results must be given any recognition and praise, so that children have confidence. Let the child feel "I do it." This feeling is very important. It is the driving force for the independence of children.

I will give my child space to arrange their own time. Arrange time is a necessary skill need to grow from they are small.

Let children know how to take the rough with smooth in unsuccessful life. Did someone ask me to let my child learn? I don't think it is necessary to learn piano, but we must learn more and do more useless things.The most important difference between humans and animals is that everything an animal does is useful to survive and reproduce. People do a lot of useless things such as poetry and painting, such as love and waiting.

If a child is educated and can only learn lessons that are useful for further studies, attending university can only do useful things for employment. Everything is spent to buy a car to buy a house.

In fact, not many children have really succeeded in growing up, and success is life and education is impossible.

Therefore, the most practical education is to let children know how to take the rough with smooth in unsuccessful lives. No matter what kind of sad reminders they encounter, they can be calm and indifferent.

At this time, those "useless" things become valuable. Children grow up without pain and loss. Parents succeed!

Passive parents, let it go; active parents, create nature.

What is this responsible attitude? It means that you have to "help" for your child's growth. The child is introverted and even has some inferiority. Then, bring the child to social communication, encourage her, praise her, and give her confidence. The child has little hobbies and no special skills. Children go to visit musical instruments and dance schools to guide and nurture her hobbies; when children encounter major choices, they are in dilemmas. The analysis of the advantages and disadvantages of the child to listen to, attacking, imperceptibly affect her.

According to the child's personality, they can design and create different environments and growth situations so that they can learn more “useless” things; when they grow up, they understand how to balance their lives, adjust their mentality, and have the ability to face frustrations, challenges, and Not a happy life.

Presumably this mentality of life is a happy life. Seeing knowledgeable, independent, and assertive, I know what I want. When I grow up, I cannot easily be tempted by the prosperous and vanity of the world. Allowing children to "freely explore" and seeing the rich and varied world can build a sense of security.

Giving children the right to choose for themselves, respecting their children’s choices, and developing the ability of children to make their own decisions

In traditional Chinese tutors, we attach great importance to "obedience" and "obedience." I wonder if parents only pay attention to "obedience" but neglect the development of children's personality and independence. Parents are always unaware that children have the ability to choose independently, and always think that their actions are smarter and safer than children, thus imposing their own consciousness on their children, not considering the children’s independence in making decisions and dealing with things. A precious confidence and enthusiasm. Many parents are afraid that children will choose wrong and never give their children the right to choose. However, when such children grow up, they cannot adapt to a highly competitive social life. Therefore, it is recommended that parents should say more of these words: "This is up to you", "This is your responsibility", "Whatever you think, this is your choice." And once the child makes a decision, you must make him aware that he is responsible for the consequences of his choice.

Due to limitations in age and experience, children need help and guidance from their parents when planning their own lives. For example, do not let a person buy clothes until the child has enough knowledge of the quality, style, or value of the clothes; and don't follow until he has a deep understanding of the school's basic curriculum and professional requirements. He is willing to choose the school to attend. In these matters, the children's opinions can be solicited, allowing them to have a say, but they cannot completely listen to him. An effective way is to appropriately limit their choices. For example, if you take your child out to buy something, you can show him two things you choose and then ask him to make the final choice based on quality and price.

Family is the primary place to cultivate the independence of young children. Any child, whether it is only child or not, is due to parental education and the influence of the environment, which has formed different personality qualities and abilities. Independence is also not inherently or naturally formed, but is the result of shaping in nurture.

I will pay attention to the tone and manner of speaking to children. I must listen carefully to the child's speech so that the child feels that you are respecting him. Children do not have to eat hard, so that children do not try to command the tone. Do not scold the children in public as "not to live up to expectations", "stupid" or "not worth it". This will deeply hurt the child's self-esteem. Treating children on an equal footing and respecting their children's personalities is not a child. Facts have proved that children who are fully respected by their parents are most cooperative with their parents. They are friendly, polite, generous, and self-independent. Psychologists think this is a good response for children to be respected. The

Democratic education is conducive to the development of children’s independence. Parents cannot impose their own opinions and requirements on children and deprive them of the opportunity to independently solve problems and develop themselves.

I believe my daughter choose my family is in a hope to own happiness and i also hope she can get it my here. Even though i didn’t have my own daughter but when that day come i will teach her many truth and i really hope she could forgive me when i do something wrong to her. I am the first time to be a mother and i don’t have experience so i also will make mistakes.

People life can be long and short but i only want you have a health life. I hope her live in a wonderful life. And what I said is wonderful, not to be earth-shattering. I just want her to be healthy, happy, and free! Maybe I will not be a good mother, but I believe she will be a good daughter.

Reference

* Xiaosong Gao, I just want educate my daughter have peace in mind drift along, Shuimu Digest, 09-27-2017

* How to cultivate children's independence, 12-19-2016