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Emotional-Social Intelligence Self-Assessment Part One For each item, rate (1-7) how well you are able to display the ability described. Before responding, try to think of actual situations in which you have been called on to use the ability. Low ability High Ability 1 2 3 4 5 6 7

1. Identify changes in physiological arousal _____ 2. Relax when under pressure in situations _____ 3. Act productively when angry _____ 4. Act productively in situations that arouse anxiety _____ 5. Calm yourself quickly when angry _____ 6. Associate different physical cues with different _____

emotions 7. Use internal “talk” to affect your emotional states _____ 8. Communicate your feelings effectively _____ 9. Reflect on negative feelings without being _____

distressed 10. Stay calm when you are the target of anger from _____

others 11. Know when you are thinking negatively _____ 12. Know when your “self-talk” is instructional _____ 13. Know when you are becoming angry _____ 14. Know how you interpret events you encounter _____ 15. Know what senses you are currently using _____ 16. Accurately communicate what you experience _____ 17. Identify what information influences your _____

interpretations 18. Identify when you experience mood shifts _____ 19. Know when you become defensive _____ 20. Know the impact your behavior has on others _____

Low ability High Ability 1 2 3 4 5 6 7

21. Know when you communicate incongruently _____ 22. “Gear up” at will _____ 23. Regroup quickly after a setback _____ 24. Complete long-term tasks in designated time _____ 25. Produce high energy when doing boring work _____ 26. Stop or change ineffective habits _____ 27. Develop new and more productive patterns _____

of behavior 28. Follow words with actions _____ 29. Work out conflicts _____ 30. Develop consensus with others _____ 31. Mediate conflict between others _____ 32. Exhibit effective interpersonal communication _____ 33. Articulate the thoughts of a group _____ 34. Influence others, directly or indirectly _____ 35. Build trust with others _____ 36. Build support teams _____ 37. Make others feel good _____ 38. Provide advice and support to others, as needed _____ 39. Accurately reflect people’s feelings back to them _____ 40. Recognize when others are distressed _____ 41. Help others manage their emotions _____ 42. Show empathy to others _____ 43. Engage in intimate conversations with others _____ 44. Help a group manage emotions _____ 45. Detect incongruence between others’ emotions _____

or feelings and their behaviors

Part Two Review your responses. The following charts indicate which items reflect which competencies. Intrapersonal _________________________________________________ Self-Awareness Managing Emotions Self-Motivation

1, 6, 11, 12, 13, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 7, 9, 10, 7, 22, 23, 25, 26, 14, 15, 17, 18, 13, 27 27, 28 19, 20, 21

Interpersonal ______________________________________________________ Relating Well Emotional Mentoring ______________________________________________________ 8, 10, 16, 19, 20, 8, 10. 16, 18, 34, 35, 29, 30, 31, 32, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 44, 33, 34, 35, 36, 45 37, 38, 39, 42, 43, 45

Organize your responses as follows. For each of the five competencies, count the number of responses for which you scored 4 or lower using tic marks in the left column. Count the number of responses for which you scored 5 or higher using tic marks in the right column. Intrapersonal _________________________________________________ Responses of Responses of Competency 4 and lower 5 and higher _________________________________________________ Self-Awareness Managing Emotions Self-Motivation Interpersonal _________________________________________________ Responses of Responses of Competency 4 and lower 5 and higher _________________________________________________ Relating Well Emotional Mentoring Study your patterns and identify which competencies you want to improve.