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Running Head: INFATUATION VERSUS LOVE 1
Infatuation Versus Love
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Introduction
Most people will confuse the term love with infatuation but the two are different yet related
terms since infatuation for a person could finally turn into love. Infatuation refers to the strong
feelings that someone has for the other when they first see them whereas love is the strong feeling
of attachment and care for someone after understanding their good side and their flaws. In some
cases, infatuation will end after some time especially when someone realizes the character of the
person after spending time with them and also realizes any compatibility issues between them and
the person (Kansky, 2018). While infatuation and love are similar in that in both the person has
feelings towards another, the difference between the two is the duration within which the feelings
develop and last, and the expectations that the people have when they develop the feelings towards
each other.
Infatuation versus love
Infatuation and love are similar in that they both show the strong feelings that a person can
have for another. When someone is infatuated, they feel that they have found the right person for
themselves and so it is when one falls in love. When someone meets another person for the first
time, they will notice some physical characteristics and actions that make them want to be with
someone. They end up thinking about them for a long time; this is infatuation, and it is strong, and
some people can even seem obsessed with someone. This happens too when someone falls in love
after knowing someone; they feel that their lives cannot be whole without the other person and will
desire to spend their lives with the other person. Love is so strong that one is willing to ignore the
fault in others and focus on their good side.
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The difference between love and infatuation is that love is timeless whereas infatuation can
last for a noticeably short time. When we love someone, we want to be with them even when they
wrong us, in weddings and marriages people that are in love promise each other forever. It does not
mean that the two people will not have any differences between them, but it means that they are
willing to spend their lives together for a long time (Surti & Langeslag, 2019). When someone
loves another, they cannot think of their lives without them; they feel that the other person is a part
of them. On the other hand, in infatuation, the feelings are just a fleeting moment. You meet
someone and have a strong feeling towards them, however, in infatuation someone does not
imagine living their entire life with the other person they are just attracted to the person at the
moment.
The difference between love and infatuation is that while love is being real infatuation is
the expectation of perfection. When you first meet a person, you will mostly notice their physical
characteristics and appearance. When infatuation kicks in we expect that the people have a
personality that is as good as their physical appearance and has no blemishes. In reality, everyone
has their flaws, and no one is perfect (Kansky, 2018). The feeling of infatuation is thus an illusion
and people will stop having feelings for the other person when they notice any flaw in them. Love
is being real around the person we care for and knowing their flaws. When people are in love, they
are not afraid to display their imperfections around each other or embarrass each other. Even when
the person you love gets older and they lose the appearance that you met them with the feelings
will not fade away.
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The difference between love and infatuation is that love is strengthened by separation, but
infatuation will be broken by separation. When people fall in love, they are willing to spend their
entire life together and even when they are separated by either work or geographical reasons they
always want to be back together. When you love someone, even when they are absent in your life
you tend to think so much about them and want to be around them (Hazan & Shaver, 2017). People
who are in love will hardly be separated by distance unless there are other underlying factors or
issues between the two people. In an infatuation, the feelings that people have towards others are
fueled by seeing them, when people stop seeing the people they are infatuated about for a while
they stop thinking about them, and even the feelings that they have towards them eventually fad
away.
Conclusion
Most people will confuse the feelings of infatuation with love and although the two are
similar the differences between them. The feelings of love and infatuation will seem similar, but
infatuation does not stand the test of time and will eventually fade away. Love is timeliness and
knows no limits, it is knowing that a person is not perfect and wanting to still spend your life with
them. Sometimes infatuation will end up becoming love but not all the time, it will only turn into
love when two people are compatible with each other.
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References
Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (2017). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process.
In Interpersonal Development (pp. 283-296). Routledge.
Kansky, J. (2018). What's love got to do with it? Romantic relationships and well-
being. Handbook of well-being. Salt Lake City, UT: DEF Publishers.
Surti, K., & Langeslag, S. J. (2019). Perceived ability to regulate love. PloS one, 14(5),
e0216523.