Assignment 4

Interpersonal Speech/ Assignment 1

PART I

When parents are not living together as in my case whereby I have to live in El Reno and my husband lives in Oklahoma City because we only have one vehicle and that is the place where he works can be so much undermining to the security and stability of our four kids and the entire family at largeIn Foner, N. (2009).This makes the children not enable to access the two very important people in their lives through because they are only able to see them over the weekends only.Parent child contact is very crucial during the upbringing of children because this availability makes the children even to have the same playmates even as the parents and at some instances it also makes the children to even participate in play with the parents and more so in the extracurricular activities, this enables a very strong relationship to be build between the parents and the children which enables them to grow up with a lot of confidence in life which is not the case for our family because the two of us are not always available for our kids bearing in mind that we only meet over the weekends only.However you realize that this relocation is not avoidable because both us need to work for the familyLansford, J. E., Deater-Deckard, K. D., & Bornstein, M. H. (2009).This distance kept by the two of us interferes with the normal day to day contact with the children and it makes the children to be more in contact with the parent they are living with and not the other parent and this incidence may bring about misunderstanding in the family in a case whereby the parent who I living far from the kids may not be able to understand the behavior of the kids because of lack of enough contact with them and this may make them differ in different aspects due to issues of misunderstanding.

Actually when both parents live with their children, there is always a good understanding in the family and at the same time this creates stability and continuity amongst the children which makes them grow with so much confidence in life.

This distance between a parent and the kids also brings about a feeling of the parent who the kids is with is more supportive than the other parent, this may bring about a disagreement in the family and thus this calls for the parents staying with the kids to take it as his/her responsibility to show the worth of the other parent to the kids so that a conflict may not arise in the family.

This distance may also bring forth an issue for example in a case whereby my kids are required to go and spend the weekend with their father thus having to move away from their primary residence over the weekend.This brings about a conflict in the family because it disrupts the social network of the children because they have to live their friends whom they play basketball with this may also disrupt the plans of the kids that you realize they cannot play basketball with friends over the weekend and they may also not be able to attend a friend’s birthday party.This may be so much that it reaches a point whereby the kids feel they do not want to spend time with the friends or the parents, thus this may result to a feeling of loneliness which may bring forth a conflict to the family.

This distance may also be a source of conflict due to increase in financial demands whereby money has to be spend in order to keep the two families moving for example travel expenses have to be met every weekend and also money has to be spent to plan for the weekend visitations, this is an hectic state for example in a case whereby one has to reschedule duty in order to visit the family over the weekend.

This conflict affects me as a person because when my kids have a feeling of loneliness due to the absence of their dad it pains me so much because as a parent I have to sympathize with them and also it has to take so much of my time to talk to them and make them understands why Dad is not always with us and he is only available over the weekends only, this brings forth some psychological discomfort also. Now, at this point we both have separated due to this issue and have had more issues than we have ever had in the 4 years we have been together but we have both decided this is best for us and the children.

At the same time, this issue brings forth conflict and mostly in the case whereby I am required to take care of the financial bills when the other person is not available because you realize that since I am the one with the kids all through I need to cater for all their financial needs because it is me who is available hence this may bring forth some misunderstanding and mostly in a case whereby, when the kids ask for money from their dad, he takes his time to respond, this becomes very tricky and it affects my feelings as a person.

PART II

1. Article II, Section 1, clause 5 of the United States Constitution states“No person except a natural-born citizen, or citizen of the United States at the time of the adoption of this Constitution, shall be eligible to the office of President.” This acts as the basis of the qualifications of presidency in the United States of America. According to this clause the president should be a natural citizen born in America.According to me this clause was meant to exclude some people from vying for this post and, mostly those who are not born in America. Considering the act of multiculturalism been experienced in the world the clause is not a good one because it will lock out persons who can lead America in a great way from participating in elections, for example this clause would have been used to lock out Hamilton from vying for presidency, but after keen consultation it was noticed that there was no sufficient evidence to lock him out of the race. Thus according to me this clause may not be an effective one because it may be used to even lock out candidates who may not be natural born of America and have the potential of becoming good leaders from this very crucial position in any country.

Research has indicated that collectivism and individualism has so much been dominant in the psychological effects of culture over so many years. The difference between these two has so much be broad and has also result to the interest of individuals to focus so much on attention, self-definitions, motivations and emotional connection in various groups as well as the behavioral patterns in various groups.

In societies where people are individualist, people focus so much on making their individual status better and at the same time try to distinguish themselves from other people by been so much competitive, through achievement and exercising power alsoRobins, J. H. (1957). Thus in individualism people are so much focused on their status in the society so much.

2. On the other case, collectivism focus so much on had been interdependent whereby been emphasize so much on their deference to the authority and how harmony should be preserved in the case of their hierarchical relations to the other people. Thus according to collectivism, the status of a person in the society has so much impact on the position of a person in the society.

There is actually a relationship between gender and these two cultural orientations as observed in the US, where women are seen to e more interdependent whereas men are seen to be so much independent. This difference can as well be well illustrated through various studies. This interdepended amongst women is well illustrated in the case whereby women are seen to be more relational and they are not oriented to groups and at the same time study also indicates that women are more individualistic whereas men are so much collectivistic, this supports the idea in America whereby women focus so much on individuals whereas men focus more on groups.

3. In America women are seen to be independent because they have a unique way of identifying them considering their characteristics which may not be changing and this makes them to be termed to be individualistic in nature whereas men who are so much interdependentdefine themselves differently in different contexts and they also have their behavior changing among different contexts thus they are said to be collectivistic in nature. For example, people from individualistic cultures are more likely to mention personal traits when finishing the sentence “I am…”, while people from collectivistic cultures are more likely to list relationships and group memberships.

When informal terms are used in any communication process, they bring about different impression to the listeners or the persons whose the information is been passed to, this makes the people to also understand differently which maybe a key barrier to the communication process. These informal terms can so much be used mostly during a negotiation or problem-solving. Thus it is very important to improve on these words so that there may not be misunderstanding during the communication process.There are several ways in which this communication has to be done in order to avoid ambiguity, for example by making a strong personal relationship to the people you are communicating with, this good relationship fosters a hood will to the people you are communicating with and it enables one to be able to explain much better in case an informal word is used and this helps in reducing misunderstanding on the use of the words and due course it reduces ambiguity also. Ambiguity in the use of informal terms can also be reduced by promoting oneself during communication, this can be achieved by coming out clearly on what message is been passed so that you can be understood better, this makes one to be clearly understood and in due course it helps in reducing misunderstanding.Been more professional can also help in reducing ambiguity when the informal words are been used in the communication process and this can be attained by been more objective in whatever you are communicating and ensuring that one is not been based on the use of the informal words.When none is listening a person should also be keen in order to note the informal words which are been used so that this person can be in a person to take time and understand them better before making conclusion on their meaning, this helps in reducing ambiguity also.Thus it is very important to be in a position to distinguish between formal terms and in formal terms so that one can understand how they are been used in a more clear way,Pandit, I. (1992)..

At the same time when a person is using these informal terms , one should be careful in order not to use words which may also have a meaning which may also be abusive because this can bring about more pronounced misunderstanding which may result to conflict to the people one is communicating to.

According to the theory of similarity people get attracted to person s who are similar to them rather than those ones who have dissimilar characteristics to them, actually birds of the same feather flock together.Actually similarity in attitudes plays a very crucial role in the way a person is attracted to the other.Infact people are attracted to other people because they share similar characteristics.Infact when people have similar characteristics which are important, they are more attracted to each other as compared to those with similar characteristics which are less important. When people have same characteristic there is the belief that these people share so many things in common and they can actually understand each other and at the same time the feelings of one person can as well be accommodated by the other person.Thus this makes the attraction between this people easily achieved.At the same time a person can also be attracted to another person because they are from the same tribe, this will happen so easily because people will have the believe that people from the same tribe have similar characteristics and this will enable them cope very first in their discussions and they will still be able to understand each other very well based on their cultural backgrounds which is so much similar and have things they can share in common.At the same time people who share similar names are also attracted to each other very fast because there is the understanding that these people may have similar characteristics and they can cope with each other very first.

Thus you realize that each person considers all these outlined characteristics before been attracted to each other because similarity goes hand in hand with similarity.

REFERENCES

In Foner, N. (2009). Across generations: Immigrant families in America. New York: New York University Press.

Lansford, J. E., Deater-Deckard, K. D., & Bornstein, M. H. (2009). Immigrant families in contemporary society. New York: Guilford Press.

Robins, J. H. (1957). Collectivism and individualism in power transmission: American Pulley. New York: Newcomen Society in North America.

Pandit, I. (1992). Informal communication in the humanities: A qualitative inquiry.

Anisah Burks

09/25/2017