Psychology The Role of Listener Assignment

Mels Carbonell

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Chapter 2 : Your Personaliity

Preface: This chapter is designed to describe specific personality types from a public perspective — when individuals are either in their work environments or in settings away from their homes or comfort zones. People tend to have different motivations in public — at work or away from where they live than they have in private — at home or in familiar environments. Review the following insights with a specific person in mind, or find the type that describes your specific Graph 1 personality type. Your “D” Personality Type — Graph 1: “This is expected of me!” DI S C Description: As a “D,” you think or feel that people expect you to be dominant, direct, demand- ing, and determined. You believe that people want you to take charge and accomplish the task at hand. You are more confident than most others. Your fear- less and forward approach sometimes causes prob- lems, but you seem to recover well and keep going. You don’t think that people want you to quit or back down. Winning is very important to you. Success drives you to work harder than most, but sometimes you work too hard for too long. You think that people depend on you to prove things can be done and that you are stronger than those who accept defeat. How Others See You: People see you as confident, stubborn, and determined. You often come across as cocky and bossy. You are also often intimidating and threatening. People tend to either respect or dislike your self-assured attitude. You feel that people are looking to you for leadership and direction. Your Feelings and Thoughts: You often feel impatient with the status quo and want to make changes. You think highly of yourself and sometimes are too proud of your accomplishments. You often feel like you can do anything you put your mind and energy towards. You are overly eager to take charge and be in control. You want to control everyone, but sometimes can’t control yourself. Vision and Passion: You think people expect you to have a lofty vision and serious passion to succeed at whatever you do. You set your sights higher than most people. You prefer to shoot at something and miss, rather than aim at nothing and hit it by chance. You feel that people want to share your passion to win. You tend to be serious about accomplishing tasks. Leadership Style: As a “D” leader, you think people expect you to be bold and brave. You like to lead by example. People want you to be in control and in charge. You like making the difficult decisions that others may avoid. You feel that people expect you to be strong and courageous. You don’t mind the challenges, and in fact, you thrive under pressure. You stand out and rise to the top, especially when people hesitate to move. You think people expect you to be the leader. Following Style: You are a great follower as long as you respect your leader. You think people expect you to be under authority because you believe in chain-of-command. You are expected to obey your leaders, but strongly desire that they recognize your loyalty and efforts. You want to be a leader, but recognize that you have to earn that right. You work harder than most to do more than what is expected and to stand out from the rest of the followers. Respond Best To: You respond best to those who expect more out of you than they do others. You like to stand out and accomplish more tasks than others do. You think people expect you to take charge and tackle the impossible. You respond best when times are tough. You don’t mind challenges or impossible situations. You tend to be stimulated by those who doubt your abilities. Conflict Management: You think people expect you to take a stand or to make decisions. You tend to clash more with those who are like you. At times, you can be very hardheaded and dif- ficult. You feel that people expect you to confront things if they may be wrong. You will stand up against anyone who seems to resist you or your strong beliefs. You don’t mind a good fight, but sometimes you exacerbate a situation with your aggressive- ness. You think people want you to be assertive and authorita- tive. Strengths and Uniquenesses: Your strength is your strength. Some people need your influence and can become codependent upon you. You can be very direct and demanding so that people learn to be overly dependent on you or even afraid of you. You often feel that people want you to be confident and decisive. You are expected to win at all costs. Your uniqueness, or what others see as your weakness, is your overbearing and pushy de- termination to win. You can take success to extremes and fail in other important areas of your life. Overuses and Abuses: You think people expect you to use your power and authority, but sometimes you overdo it. You can get angry and feel like people want you to be emotionally force- ful. You may even go so far as to be physically aggressive. You have the potential to be abusive when out of control. You feel like people want you to be in control, but sometimes you forget that you need to control yourself. Guard Against and Warnings: Guard against being intense and too serious about everything. You feel that people expect you to be on top of everything. You have the reputation of being a “git’er done” kind of person. Be careful that you don’t think people always expect you to win. Learn to lose gracefully and with humility. Don’t feel that people expect you to have an answer or solution for everything. Don’t give ultimatums like, “get in or get out,” or “my way or the highway!” You don’t have to always be the “tough guy.” Be nice and be kind. People will see your greatest strength when you compromise and allow oth- ers to win. Relating Style: As a determined doer, you often think people expect you to relate to them as the stronger one. You sometimes convey superiority and a sense of invincibility which others may either need or detest. You don’t tend to relate to people in the emotional middle. You seem to be at extremes on people’s feeling thermometer. Everyone tends to either love or hate you, or to like or dislike you. You think people expect you to be on top of everything or ahead of everyone. You may think people expect you to be very dedicated and decisive, but you may need to relate on a more personal and sensitive level. Conclusion: You are such a firm and serious individual that you think people expect you to be bold and brave. You hate to lose or let others down. You feel that people depend on you for guidance and direction. Sometimes, you aren’t really sure of what to do, but you go ahead with what you think is expected of you. You often make decisions without enough information, which leads you to take unnecessary risks. You don’t like others to take advantage of you, and you often think people are against you when they don’t move as fast as you think they ought to move. You can be very aggressive and explosive. You think people expect you to take charge and make decisions for them. You have high expectations for yourself and others. You seem to accomplish more than most. You sometimes don’t really know if you work hard because people expect you to do so, or because you don’t know how to relax or rest. Disclaimer: Graph 1-“This is expected of me!” These insights are broad descriptions of your specific personality type. They are NOT intended to be 100% accurate. This is simply a brief overview. Having completed your Uniquely You Personality Questionnaire, be sure to view these descriptions from a Graph 1: “This is expected of me” perspective. If both graphs are the same, your understanding of them will be easier. If both graphs are different, keep the appropriate perspective in mind and interpret the descriptions accordingly. People seem to respond and behave from different perspectives and drives. This profile is purely subjective, based on the DISC Model of Human Behavior Sci- ence, and applies to your more guarded, masked, or controlled behavior, especially in public. Review the insights with your specific personality type in mind, but do not conclude that you are always characterized by these descriptions. This is simply how you tend to behave when you think others are watching, and you want to make good impressions. Your interpretation of this information should take into account your environment, maturity, spirituality, and experiences. They are NOT psychological evaluations nor are they intended to be used as definitive examples of your behavior. Your “I” Personality Type — Graph 1: “This is expected of me!” DI S C Description: As an “I” type, you think people expect you to be inspiring and influencing. You stand out in a crowd because of your gregarious and bubbly personality. You are attracted to people and believe you should be the life of the party. Being popular and well-liked are very important to you. You are expected to shine and show off. You are like a spark plug that energizes and encourages oth- ers to be optimistic and positive. Your fun-loving and outgoing attitude causes you to be more popular than most. You think people expect you to talk a lot and share your feelings. How Others See You: People often like to be around you be- cause you are humorous. You tend to be animated and tell great stories. People find you fascinating and friendly. You show your feelings openly and believe people want you to share your emotions. You are seen as expressive and energetic, but some- times people think you exaggerate. You often talk too much, and people tend to think that you are egotistical. You tend to care more about how you look and come across than others do. You try to be attractive and outstanding by being impressive. Your Feelings and Thoughts: You show your feelings more openly than others. You think people expect you to be honest with your emotions. You sometimes think more highly of your- self than you should. You often compete for attention and want to be admired by everyone. You think people will like you more if you are friendlier than others. You like to be recognized for who you are and what you do. Vision and Passion: Your vision is short-sighted, and it seems to encompass who you are and what you do. You can be very self-centered. Your passion is often to look good and in- spire others. You think people expect you to speak up and share your wisdom or wit. You can be very passionate about your causes, but sometimes you overreact and share too much of your feelings. You tend to be a great presenter or cheerleader, but you often go overboard. You think people expect you to express yourself more than others. Leadership Style: You think people expect you to be an en- ergetic and enthusiastic leader. You are an inspiring leader with a lot of pride in what you do. You want to be recognized for your accomplishments. You feel that people look up to you and want to follow your lead. You also tend to be more verbal than most. You can be too loud and sometimes hyper. You are ex- pected to ignite a fire under those who are dull or disinterested. Following Style: As a follower, you feel that people expect you to be very inducing and interested in people. You are excit- ing and popular, but sometimes egotistical. You don’t like being overlooked. You would rather be involved in group activities. You sometimes think you are expected to be the group’s spokes- person. You think people want you to keep the atmosphere posi- tive and optimistic. You work hard so that people will recognize your efforts. You feel that people are looking at you and that someday you will be the leader. Respond Best To: You are motivated by praise and approval. You respond best to those who recognize your talents and your ability to communicate better than most people. You love the limelight and opportunity to shine. You think people expect you to be creative. Your imagination and ability to inspire attracts others to you. You respond especially well to those who stroke your ego and openly approve of your accomplishments. Conflict Management: You can talk your way out of almost everything. Your charisma and charm are the most power- ful influences during conflicts. You are often hurt or offended when people criticize you. You think everyone wants to be your friend, but you sometimes care more about your interests than others. You can say things that are exaggerated or inaccurate to win an argument. You think people are impressed with your verbal and negotiating skills. Strengths and Uniquenesses: Your strength is standing out in a crowd. You rise to the top and tend to be one of the most popular in a group. You communicate better than most people and can be very encouraging. People think you have one of the best personality types. Your uniqueness, or what others may think is your weakness, is over enthusiasm that often causes you to talk a lot. Overuses and Abuses: You sometimes tend to be too op- timistic and trusting. People often talk you into doing things because they know you want to please them. Your need to be well-liked and popular sometimes causes you to go along with the crowd. You think people need for you to be emotional and loud when responding to important things. You are expected to be expressive, which may cause you to either say things that might hurt others or cause you to sound stupid. You sometimes use your words and emotional responses as weapons against those you think are opposed to you. Guard Against & Warnings: Guard your tongue and heart. Your feelings never seem to be neutral. People usually don’t have to wonder what you are feeling. Your emotions are often very positive, but when you are discouraged you think people expect you to let them know. You should control your exag- geration and need for approval or acceptance. Don’t let your feelings trap you. Instead, control your emotions and your need to be seen or heard. You have the natural ability to influence people for good. Never use your charisma for wrongdoing. Relating Style: You relate well to most people. You think people expect you to be “most likely to succeed” because of your friendliness. You can talk to just about everyone. You know no strangers. Everyone seems to be your friend. You re- late best by seemingly wanting everyone to be happy. You think people expect you to always be “up,” but when you are down, you usually don’t mind everyone knowing it. Your relating style is often in high gear with lots of energy and excitement. Conclusion: You have what most people would call “per- sonality plus!” Your attitude may be, “if you have it, flaunt it!” You love standing up and speaking out. Most people like you, but you sometimes think people expect you to look better than others. You can think too highly of yourself and struggle with pride. You usually have difficulty being quiet. You communi- cate better than most, but you sometimes don’t know when to shut up! You tend to also be more creative than others and love the spotlight. You think people expect you to entertain them, and you are a “natural” when it comes outshining others. You are very active and people-oriented, especially in front of a crowd. Disclaimer: Graph 1-“This is expected of me!” These insights are broad descriptions of your specific personality type. They are NOT intended to be 100% accurate. This is simply a brief overview. Having completed your Uniquely You Personality Questionnaire, be sure to view these descriptions from a Graph 1: “This is expected of me” perspective. If both graphs are the same, your understanding of them will be easier. If both graphs are different, keep the appropriate perspective in mind and interpret the descriptions accordingly. People seem to respond and behave from different perspectives and drives. This profile is purely subjective, based on the DISC Model of Human Behavior Science, and applies to your more guarded, masked, or controlled behavior, especially in public. Review the insights with your specific personality type in mind, but do not conclude that you are always characterized by these descriptions. This is simply how you tend to behave when you think others are watching, and you want to make good impressions. Your interpretation of this information should take into account your environment, maturity, spirituality, and experiences. They are NOT psychological evaluations nor are they intended to be used as definitive examples of your behavior. Your “S” Personality Type — Graph 1: “This is expected of me!” DI S C Description: As an “S” type, you think people expect you to be more sensitive and submissive. You like blending in with the crowd because you feel that others want you to be still and quiet. You can be very loyal and friendly on an individual basis. You act like people want you to be more withdrawn and reserved in public. You often think you need to serve humanity and do what you are told, rather than challenge others and do what you want to do. Your humble spirit and quiet demeanor makes you well-liked. You are not very outwardly friendly, but you have many friends. People like you because you are not overbearing or confronta- tional. You think others want you to be pleasing and easy-going. How Others See You: People see you as very steady and stable. You tend to be misjudged as being boring and dull. You think people don’t want you to be as loud as others. Your quiet and often reserved response makes you sought after as a good listener. People recognize your dependable attitude and trust- worthiness. Your Feelings and Thoughts: You often feel inadequate and unworthy. You think people want you to be more humble than others. You tend to think you should be more security-oriented than most. This means you can be more insecure and not willing to speak out or be noticed in a crowd. You tend to be crippled by fear when you have to speak to large groups. You can be very timid and soft-spoken when put on the spot. Vision and Passion: Your vision and passion is helping others. You think people want you to serve others and help people with their problems. You sacrifice your time and energy for those needing your services. You feel that people need you, but you often wait to be asked to help before volunteering. You work long and hard without needing much recognition. You think people expect you to be a true friend and faithful servant. Leadership Style: Most people don’t consider your type as leaders, but you can be a great leader. Your style is more laid back and easy-going. You think people expect you to be a quiet and kind leader. You don’t feel that people want you to be pushy or bossy. You prefer sacrificing and working alongside others. People expect you to serve with them. You can be a great source of encouragement to others, but you seldom are recognized or appreciated like you should be. Following Style: You seem to be the perfect follower. You do what you are told to do. You think people just want you to help in any way possible, without causing trouble or challenging others. You feel very comfortable being told what to do and fol- lowing the crowd. You don’t mind working by yourself, but you prefer working with small groups or another individual. You tend to be the most faithful and loyal follower of all the types. Respond Best To: You respond best to people who believe in you. You think people want your help in ways that others cannot or won’t give. You are not very confident in yourself, but can be very motivated when others believe in you. You tend to respond well to accolades and rewards. You don’t respond well to those who intimidate or push themselves on you. You prefer kind and sensitive requests for help. You are very sacrificial and some- times have blind loyalty. You often seek positive reinforcement or affirmation for what you are doing or seeking to do. You also tend to allow people to take advantage of you. Conflict Management: You are probably the least likely of the types to have conflicts because you expect people to appreci- ate your kind, nice, and caring attitude. You avoid conflicts by agreeing and supporting those who intimidate you. Surprisingly, you can act very stubborn and difficult when people attack your close friends or relatives. Your loyalty sometimes overrides your desire to please. You can be very strong against people who threaten your security or family. You tend to make peace faster than others, and you can be extremely supportive of those you love and follow. Strengths and Uniquenesses: You are strongest as a dear friend and obedient follower. People respect your loyalty and encouragement. You tend to be the best of the types at listen- ing. You don’t need a lot of stroking or approval. You are very patient, loving, and kind. However, you sometimes allow people to take you for granted and sometimes even abuse you. Your uniqueness, or what others may think is your weakness, is that you can be too soft. Overuses and Abuses: You are sometimes too patient and kind. People think you are very easy-going and that they can take advantage of you. You often feel like going the second and third mile with people. This makes you vulnerable to those who are obviously stronger and determined to get their way. Your willingness to carry other people’s burdens makes you think people need more than you can humanly give. This often burns you out. You sometimes sacrifice so much that you can’t take it any more and go the opposite way. You sometimes end up doing the contrary. You end up getting hurt or disappointing the very people you love the most. You often disappoint yourself by al- lowing others to take advantage of your loyalty and dedication. Guard Against & Warnings: Guard against thinking people expect you to sacrifice. Your service, whether at home or at work, needs to allow time for yourself, family, others, and a variety of things. Do not get into the rut of doing the same old thing forever. Learn to take risks. Get out of your comfort zone. Speak out. Let your hair down. Have more fun. Relating Style: You relate well to most people because many people are like you. You think people want you to be more passive and people-oriented. You don’t like the crowd as much as you prefer individual friends and small groups. Your people skills focus more on individuals than the masses. You generally like people, but you think others expect you to be more one-on- one, rather than large group oriented. Conclusion: You think people expect you to be the nicest and kindest individual possible. You feel that others want you to be sensitive, loving, and sacrificing. You sometimes are a little vulnerable, and people may try to use you or take advantage of you. You tend to desire being behind the scenes and to support others whether or not it is possible. Your caring and gracious service makes you a jewel, even if people don’t recognize you. You think people want you to be meek and quiet, but you should be more outgoing and expressive. You can learn to take charge and improve your aggressiveness once you see the long-term benefits of helping others. You think people want you to be be- hind the scenes, but serving others sometimes requires that you step out and take charge. Disclaimer: Graph 1-“This is expected of me!” These insights are broad descriptions of your specific personality type. They are NOT intended to be 100% accurate. This is simply a brief overview. Having completed your Uniquely You Personality Questionnaire, be sure to view these descriptions from a Graph 1: “This is expected of me” perspective. If both graphs are the same, your understanding of them will be easier. If both graphs are different, keep the appropriate perspective in mind and interpret the descriptions accordingly. s profile is purely subjective, based on the DISC Model of Human Behavior Sci- ence, and applies to your more guarded, masked, or controlled behavior, especially in public. Review the insights with your specific personality type in mind, but do not conclude that you are always characterized by these descriptions. This is simply how you tend to behave when you think others are watching, and you want to make good impressions. Your interpretation of this information should take into account your environment, maturity, spirituality, and experiences. They are NOT psychological evaluations, nor are they intended to be used as definitive examples of your behavior. Your “C” Personality Type — Graph 1: “This is expected of me!” DI S C Description: As a “C,” you think people expect you to be cautious and calculating. You feel that you should be more competent than others. You are uncomfortable when people are not compliant and they don’t go by the book or rules. You think people want you to be precise and almost perfect. You tend to be more conscientious than others. You think people like things to be completed correctly and right the first time. People expect you to be the planner and or- ganizer of projects. You also feel like you are expected to have answers for nearly everything. How Others See You: People see you as a critical thinker. You feel that they want you to be accurate and knowledgeable. You are respected more for your finished products, but some- times you frustrate others for taking too long to complete your tasks. You can be moody and fussy at times, but people seldom fault you for being serious about the details. You don’t feel that people expect you to be very friendly. You tend to be passive and task-oriented. You think people want you to do one thing at a time and do it to perfection. Your Feelings and Thoughts: You tend to think people ex- pect too much out of you when it comes to getting the job done and getting it done right. You can be too hard on yourself and others. This sometimes strains your relationships. You feel that people expect you to do all the analyzing and thinking for them. You often experience anxiety, and you worry too much about the details. You need to think more positively and optimistically. Vision and Passion: You feel that people expect you to have a clearer vision than others when it comes to accuracy and com- pliance. You think people expect you to be their conscience and the enforcer of right and wrong. You are passionate about qual- ity work, but sometimes you let pressure get to you and let your passion blur your vision. You don’t seem to have a lot of close relationships with people. You are often seen as too intense about the task, rather than caring what others feel. You need to be more loving and understanding when people or systems fail. Leadership Style: Your leadership style is quality-oriented. You think people expect you to be a competent leader with emphasis on completing the task correctly. You feel that people expect you to do excellent work. You can be too hard on your- self and others. You sometimes suffer from depression because of your high intensity and commitment to correctness. You are a great planner, but tend to be a poor player. In other words, you tend to prepare better than most, but you don’t have much fun working with people. You seem to be too serious. You think people want you to be totally about getting the job done right. Following Style: You feel that people want you to be a compliant follower who abides by the rules. You are every leader’s dream come true when you perfect and correct the dif- ficult problems that come along. You can also be every leader’s nightmare when you frequently criticize every flaw you find. You sometimes let your keen eye and mind for the details get in the way of group harmony and happiness. You think people ex- pect you to be the quality control person. Your following style is often loved or hated depending on how you control your persis- tence for perfection. Respond Best To: You respond best to those who appreci- ate your standard of excellence. You feel that people want you to believe that a job worth doing is a job worth doing well. You tend to excel in an atmosphere that promotes accuracy. You respond best when you are encouraged to do things competently. You don’t care as much about pleasing people as you do about the quality of work. You don’t like pressure from others about getting the job done. You like encouragement to get jobs done well. You don’t respond to a lot of hype, noise or cheer leading. You prefer that people outline and explain exactly what needs to be done, and then allow you to do your job. Conflict Management: You tend to experience more con- flicts than most people because you think people expect you to be accurate and correct. This causes others to resist your recom- mendations and attitudes. Some people seem to not like the way you approach things because you seem not to be very sensitive or relational. You often tend to be too caustic and to the point. You feel that people want you to be honest and straightforward. You don’t worry very much about being popular. You think people just want you to be right. This causes a lot of conflicts. You should be more kind and compromising. Choose your battles wisely. Strengths and Uniquenesses: Your strength is thinking people want you to do things well. You feel people want the best out of you, and you strive to meet their expectations. You tend to work long and hard at solving problems. Your unique- ness, or what others may think is your weakness, is caring more about fixing things than you care about building relationships. People tend to find you hard to get to know or to get close to you. Don’t let what you think people expect of you to hurt your friendships with them. Be more sensitive to other people’s feel- ings, rather than their opinions or the quality of your work. Overuses and Abuses: You tend to think people expect you be nearly perfect. This is great when others need your quality of work, but it can be trying when you have to relate to people who are not like you. You may think people expect more out of you, but keep in mind everyone is not like you. You can also become picky. You may believe that you should be more de- manding about doing tasks well. However, sometimes you need to consider the importance of relationships. You can be so hard on others that you accomplish the task, but lose a friend or ruin a relationship in the process. Guard Against & Warnings: Be careful not to think people expect you to be right about everything. You feel people want the best out of you, so you expect more out of others. This often leads to depression or moodiness. People often wonder what is bothering you. Others tend to think you are mad at someone. Monitor your feelings and learn to relax. Be more warm and fuzzy. Tell a joke. Be happy and don’t worry. Improve your people skills and be more conscious of how people feel about you and your work. Relating Style: You relate well with those who share your passion for perfection. You think people want you to fix whatev- er is broken, or at least try to fix the problem. You tend to excel in the ability of finding flaws, but you sometimes turn people off with how you respond to problems. You feel that people want you to relate to them on the basis of solving problems or analyti- cally thinking through issues. You often relate well to those who think and act like you, but you still have the most difficulties with those just like you. People seem to look up to you while respecting your broad knowledge of things, but are turned off by your “know it all” attitude. Conclusion: You stand out when it comes to evaluating a problem or getting a job done well. People respect your think- ing skills, and they come to you to solve problems. You feel like people want you to be more intense and serious about tasks. Sometimes you feel like everyone is depending on you to im- prove things. This can cause you to be moody. You sometimes don’t think people want you to relax or let your hair down. You are task-oriented when it comes to doing one thing at a time, and when it involves doing it right the first time around. You don’t think others want you to be people oriented or concerned about your popularity. You also think that people expect you to be more passive and do things slower, rather than jump into things without first thinking them through. Disclaimer: Graph 1-“This is expected of me!” These insights are broad descriptions of your specific personality type. They are NOT intended to be 100% accurate. This is simply a brief overview. Having completed your Uniquely You Personality Questionnaire, be sure to view these descriptions from a Graph 1: “This is expected of me” perspective. If both graphs are the same, your understanding of them will be easier. If both graphs are different, keep the appropriate perspective in mind and interpret the descriptions accordingly. People seem to respond and behave from different perspectives and drives. This profile is purely subjective, based on the DISC Model of Human Behavior Sci- ence, and applies to your more guarded, masked, or controlled behavior, especially in public. Review the insights with your specific personality type in mind, but do not conclude that you are always characterized by these descriptions. This is simply how you tend to behave when you think others are watching, and you want to make good impressions. Your interpretation of this information should take into account your environment, maturity, spirituality, and experiences. They are NOT psychological evaluations nor are they intended to be used as definitive examples of your behavior. Your “D/I” or “I/D” Personality Type — Graph 1: “This is expected of me!” D I S C DI S C Description: As a “D/I or “I/D” / D,” you think people expect you to be both determined and inspirational. You feel that others want you to be active and extroverted. You tend to be task and people oriented. You believe people want you to take charge and do a lot of things at the same time. Peo- ple expect you to be in control and decisive. You like challenges and making things happen. You also feel that people depend on you to influence others to help get the job done. You can be very impressive and communicate well to groups. People want you to induce and excite others to act. You are expected to drive and impact others to accomplish tasks while creating positive atmo- spheres. How Others See You: People see you as a dynamic doer. You tend to stand out in a crowd. You think people expect you to accomplish tasks by inspiring and influencing them. You tend to be recognized for your optimistic and outgoing personal- ity. You feel that people want you to succeed and move forward by encouraging others to be involved. You tend to make great impressions on crowds, but you sometimes seem a little proud or egotistical. You can come across as too busy or as impatient. People sometimes criticize you as a crowd pleaser, or as a poor support person when you are working behind the scenes. Your Feelings and Thoughts: You tend to think people expect you to tackle difficult tasks by gathering help from others. You seem to feel that you are counted on to motivate others to get involved. You don’t tend to take “no” for an answer. You think people expect you to be aggressive and assertive through your willpower and communication skills. You often feel very confident in yourself and think you can accomplish just about anything you set your mind to do. You tend not to worry much, and you believe people are counting on you to move forward or win. Vision and Passion: You feel that people expect you to be the ultimate visionary. You tend to dream big and work hard at accomplishing tasks. You are very passionate about your work. You think people want you to be in charge. You often enthusi- astically express your passions. You tend not to let difficulties hinder your efforts. You find ways to work around barriers. You can be a tireless workaholic. You visualize goals better than most people and enthusiastically pursue them until you succeed. You feel that people depend on you to influence and impress oth- ers to reach the highest goals. Leadership Style: Your leadership style is more obvious than most people’s. You think people believe you were born to be a leader. You sometimes think you are invincible and unbeat- able. You can be too hard on others. You often think people expect you to be pushy and bossy. You lead by example, but sometimes expect too much from others. As a rule you don’t come off as gentle or sensitive. People often think you expect too much and don’t understand others’ needs. You feel people expect a lot out of you, and you want to fulfill their expectations. Following Style: You tend to be a great follower if you think people expect you to obey those over you. As long as you trust and respect your leaders, you often make a perfect subor- dinate. You don’t tend to be content as a follower though, and you eventually want to become a leader. You often seek opportunities to lead and quickly rise to the top. You feel that people expect you to take charge and often outshine your leader. You need to be more careful and humble about following, or you will become known as rebellious and incapable of leading. Respond Best To: You respond best to those who listen to your ideas and provide you with opportunities to accomplish great things. You think people expect you to stretch the bound- aries and break out of the limitations that hold others back. You feed off people’s loyalty to you, but you want to continually impress them. You like people who need you to motivate them. You think people expect you to challenge and change them. You can become dictatorial and overbearing once you believe people are willing to blindly follow you. You often respond best to those who seem weaker than others and depend on you for guidance. You think people want you to impress them with your verbal skills. You sometimes even believe all the complimentary things people say about you. Conflict Management: You tend to manage conflicts strongly and convincingly. You think people don’t want you to be afraid in clashes or divisions. You may even be the cause of conflicts because of your stubbornness and controlling de- meanor. You tend to be a good negotiator, and you often talk your way out of problems. You are not afraid of a good fight, but you sometimes think people expect you to win the argument. You often succeed, but sometimes lose a friend or loyal follower. You aren’t a good listener or compromiser. You hate to lose or give an inch. You feel that people expect you to take charge and solve problems your way. If things can’t be your way, you expect people to find somebody else to do the job. This tends to lead to more problems and drives good people away. Strengths and Uniquenesses: Your strength is in your belief that people expect you to work hard and influence others to labor with you to accomplish the task. You feel strongly about being in charge and encouraging others to help you succeed in what- ever you do. You believe that people expect you to win, and you communicate confidence that causes others to get involved. Your uniqueness, or what others may think is your weakness, is thinking people want you to be independent and in charge. You sometimes don’t listen to counsel and resist opposition by writ- ing it off. Your charisma can be your downfall. Overuses and Abuses: You often think people expect you to be more enthusiastic than the average person while pursuing your dreams. You can articulate your goals in ways that im- press others to follow. You often overuse your authority and the trust people put in you. Others often feed your expectations by blindly obeying your commands. You sometimes think people expect you to be infallible and that you can do no wrong. You may even abuse your influence and control over people. You can be inconsiderate of people’s feelings and not care about the consequences of abusing their weaknesses. If you control your strengths, you can do things that others never dream of doing. Guard Against and Warnings: Once you recognize that you can be your own worst enemy, you can accomplish tasks which seem impossible to most people. You think people believe you can walk on water because of your decisiveness and way with words. You should monitor your confidence and influence. You need to be accountable to others who care enough to confront you and are not afraid to challenge you when you are out of line. You also think people expect you to strongly defend yourself and your ideas. At times, you may even struggle with anger. You can get so mad that you may say things that are outrageous and hurtful. Guard your feelings and words. Learn to respond kindly and wisely. Relating Style: You tend to relate from a distance. You think people don’t expect you to get very close to them. You don’t have a lot of deep friendships. Your intimacy is reserved for just a few people. You love the crowd, and the masses tend to worship you. You relate on a group basis and as a distant, benevolent dictator who communicates love through words. You feel that people want you to relate to them like a king would relate to his servants. You sometimes yearn for closer and more trusting friendships, but you fear betrayal. You tend to be vul- nerable to relational failures because of your lack of accountabil- ity. Conclusion: You are one of the most dynamic and deter- mined types. You get the job done, or you influence others through your verbal skills to accomplish the tasks for you. You are a dreamer with great communication skills. You often think people expect you to succeed at whatever needs to be done. You seem to lack compassion, but are not shy about sharing your passions. You don’t get bogged down in the details. You think people want you to be a quick decision-maker. You don’t worry much and believe people expect you to be optimistic and posi- tive. You are not shy or sheepish about challenging others. You feel that people are looking for you to lead by example, and not to be as critical or fault-finding as others may be. You like to look at the bright side of things and focus on the solutions, rather than the problems. You prefer to influence a crowd rather than an individual. You consider yourself more active and extrovert- ed, and you often think your personality is the best one. Disclaimer: Graph 1-“This is expected of me!” These insights are broad descriptions of your specific personality type. They are NOT intended to be 100% accurate. This is simply a brief overview. Having completed your Uniquely You Personality Questionnaire, be sure to view these descriptions from a Graph 1: “This is expected of me” perspective. If both graphs are the same, your understanding of them will be easier. If both graphs are different, keep the appropriate perspective in mind and interpret the descriptions accordingly. People seem to respond and behave from different perspectives and drives. This profile is purely subjective, based on the DISC Model of Human Behavior Sci- ence, and applies to your more guarded, masked, or controlled behavior, especially in public. Review the insights with your specific personality type in mind, but do not conclude that you are always characterized by these descriptions. This is simply how you tend to behave when you think others are watching, and you want to make good impressions. Your interpretation of this information should take into account your environment, maturity, spirituality, and experiences. They are NOT psychological evaluations nor are they intended to be used as definitive examples of your behavior. Your “D/S” or “S/D” Personality Type — Graph 1: “This is expected of me!” D I SC DI S C Description: As a “D / S” or “S / D” type, you think people expect you to be both dominant and submissive. This may sound like you are passive- aggressive, but the “D / S” or “S / D” type can be perfectly normal. There are others who may go to extremes and overdo their good traits and get labeled by therapists as abnormal. Your type is, perhaps, the best exam- ple of an achiever pattern because you think people expect you to have a lot of drive and determination. Furthermore, you have a lot of stick-to-it-ness and steadiness. You tend to think people want you to be a dreamer and a hard worker, but you also have the patience and sensitivity to persevere when the situation gets rough. Most strong-willed people are often here today and gone tomorrow, but you tend to be more supportive as a servant type who patiently waits until most of the problems are solved. How Others See You: Others see you as very flexible but sometimes confusing. You often think people want you to take charge, but there are times you don’t mind being in the back- ground doing whatever needs to be done. People don’t see you as the cheerleader type (talking too much) or as the researcher type (planning too long). You tend to be expected to have the balance of steel and velvet. You can be strong and soft at the same time. You feel that people want you be serious and soft and get the job done with the support and cooperation from oth- ers. Your Feelings and Thinking: You often feel that you have two different motivations pulling you in opposite directions. You tend to think people want you to be in charge, but you sometimes feel that you are expected to just be a servant work- ing behind the scenes. These unrelated influences make you a respected and sought after type. People recognize your confi- dence and humility. You often feel that people want you to work alongside them, rather than talk people into doing things. You think people expect you to lead and serve in terms of teamwork and gentle cooperation. You sometimes give mixed messages by biting someone’s head off and then apologizing and asking for forgiveness. Vision and Passion: You can be very passionate about your work. At other times, you can be completely laid back and seemingly unmotivated. You think people expect you to have a clear vision of what needs to be done. You sometimes don’t seem to act on that vision and you may move too slowly. You feel that people want you to visualize the impossible tasks, but for you to do it while wearing kid gloves. You have a passion to accomplish tasks, but not to hurt anyone along the way. Leadership Style: You think people want your leadership style to be a true servant leader. This type of leader is some- one who points the way with the heart of a servant. This style seems to come easier to you than others, but you sometimes aren’t articulate or careful enough with your words. At times, you tend to be too passive and quiet. You often feel that people don’t need you to be hyper or excited, or that you don’t need to be so cautious and calculating. You feel that people want you to be demanding, but in a kind way. You tend to be direct, but more sensitive than other leaders. You often see what needs to be done, then slowly and patiently work through small groups to reach your goals. Following Style: You can be a great follower due to your loyal and obedient side, but you also have a direct and demand- ing side that sometimes makes you resist others. You often prefer to be in charge, but you can easily be submissive and let others tell you what to do. You don’t think people expect you to be talkative or entertaining. You also aren’t expected to be picky or precise about the details. Respond Best To: You seem to respond best to those who need someone to tell them what to do, but with a kind heart and understanding spirit. You don’t think people expect you to gen- erate a lot of fanfare and excitement. You respond best to those, like you, who see what needs to be done, and then quietly tackle the challenges in small, sweet, and slow steps. People like your sensitive and understanding way of gentle persuasion. You tend to appreciate those who think you should be in charge, but in- clude others in the decision-making process. Conflict Management: You are one of the best types to solve difficult conflicts. You have the strength to say “no,” but the caring heart to change your mind. You can be tough as nails, but as sweet as honey. Some people may find this hard to be- lieve depending on which side of the fight they stand, but you think people expect you to have emotional and willful balance. You tend to be a stubborn negotiator but also a tender adversary, knowing when to stand strong and when to back down. You might benefit from being more expressive and excited, as much as you are cautious and calculating. Strengths and Uniquenesses: Your obvious strengths are in your fortitude and forwardness, combined with your steadiness and need for security. You don’t like trouble, but you can stand firm when trials come. Your uniqueness, or what others may see as your weakness, is your seemingly contradictory responses. You can be very strong about something; however you may people want you to be flexible, but still willing to stand firm. If necessary, they expect you to give in for the good of the group and make everyone feel good. Overuses and Abuses: You think people expect you to be perfectly balanced between being strong and soft, winning and losing, or moving forward and stepping back. These are great qualities, but they can be very frustrating. You can go to ex- tremes. You can be too strong and not soft enough. You may also be too driven and impatient. On the other hand, you may think people expect you to be too compromising and not forward enough. Under pressure and stress, you can abuse these tenden- cies by allowing your emotions to control you, rather than taking control of your feelings. Guard Against and Warnings: Be careful to assume that people don’t want you to be animated and articulate. Your natu- ral tendency is to be quiet and soft-spoken, but you may need to let your hair down and act like a clown. People are often impressed by this kind of surprising behavior. You may get into a rut and be seen as too serious or shy. Balance your outgoing and inspiring side with your researching and mentally deep side. Express your feelings more openly, and demonstrate your intel- lectual thinking more outwardly. Relating Style: You think people expect you to be unrespon- sive at times, but approachable at other times. People sometimes find you hard to read. You can give the impression of being too busy, but you often think people expect you to be accessible and caring. You seem to relate well to the powerful and to the ser- vants. You may need to be more responsive verbally and intel- lectually. People who need to hear your thoughts or understand your logic desire that you be more communicating as well as studious. Conclusion: You have great balance between being active and being passive, along with being people and task oriented. You think people want you to be determined when accomplish- ing tasks, but more sensitive when working with people. You like to command crowds, but also relate well to small groups or individuals. You feel that others expect you to be both strong and soft, but not hyper or picky. You may need to reduce your strengths and improve your “uniqueness.” Be more articulate, enhance your communication skills, and take more time to re- search and develop plans and processes. This will improve your results. You have tremendous qualities that make you sought- after and respected, but don’t neglect those areas that may need improvement. Continue to be a “velvet covered brick.” Work on being more enthusiastic and excited outwardly, while spend- ing more time researching and planning your work. Disclaimer: Graph 1-“This is expected of me!” These insights are broad descriptions of your specific personality type. They are NOT intended to be 100% accurate. This is simply a brief overview. Having completed your Uniquely You Personality Questionnaire, be sure to view these descriptions from a Graph 1: “This is expected of me” perspective. If both graphs are the same, your understanding of them will be easier. If both graphs are different, keep the appropriate perspective in mind and interpret the descriptions accordingly. People seem to respond and behave from different perspectives and drives. This profile is purely subjective, based on the DISC Model of Human Behavior Sci- ence, and applies to your more guarded, masked, or controlled behavior, especially in public. Review the insights with your specific personality type in mind, but do not conclude that you are always characterized by these descriptions. This is simply how you tend to behave when you think others are watching, and you want to make good impressions. Your interpretation of this information should take into account your environment, maturity, spirituality, and experiences. They are NOT psychological evaluations nor are they intended to be used as definitive examples of your behavior. Your “D/C” or “C/D” Personality Type — Graph 1: “This is expected of me!” D I SC DI S C Description: As a “D / C” or “C / D” type you think people expect you to be both dominant and competent. You tend to be very task-oriented. You don’t feel people expect you to be people-oriented or relational. You tend to be more concerned with completing the task and doing it well, as opposed to entertaining a crowd or talking to an individual. You seem to prefer working and thinking, rather than caring and sharing. You sometimes come across as project-oriented and that people can be a bother. You feel others expect you to care more about form and function, rather than feeling and fellowship. You are both active and passive. You are outgoing when it comes to getting the job done and you are reserved when it comes to getting it done right. How Others See You: Others often see you as distant and unresponsive or they tend to see you as in control and compe- tent. You often think people expect you to show your confidence and compliant attitude. You seem to demonstrate an unusual drive, combined with the ability to reason and think things through to logical conclusions. You are often seen as one who is in charge and knows what you are doing. You seem to give the impression of demanding excellence and due diligence. You often feel people see you as a dominant, but comprehensive doer who completes difficult tasks well. Your Feelings and Thoughts: You tend to be more intense than others when it comes to accomplishing tasks. You of- ten feel like people expect you to take charge and improve the process or results. You don’t feel timid or shy about getting involved. You also don’t think people expect you to entertain everyone or create happy environments. You feel your mission is often straightforward and challenging. You aren’t expected to be popular with the crowd and buddies with individuals. You think people want you to be results-oriented. Vision and Passion: Your vision is often clear cut and focused on finishing well. You feel people expect you to be in control so that the mission is completed the best possible way. You tend to be very passionate about chain of command and competency. You see yourself in charge or wanting to be and able to complete the task better than anyone else. You don’t seem to blindly get involved and casually do your job. You think people expect you to attack problems and fix them the best way humanly possible. You don’t want to be popular or well- liked for being friendly. You tend to be more committed to tasks than you are to relationships. Leadership Style: You feel people expect you to be a direct and detail-oriented leader. You tend to lead through control and you delegate tasks to those competently capable of completing the job well. You don’t come across as being very friendly or easygoing. You think people want you to be firm and thorough enough to do tasks almost perfectly. You don’t tend to be satis- fied with the status quo or just getting jobs done. You demand that whatever you or others under you do it is done with excel- lence and quality. You often lack enthusiasm and excitement. You sometimes seem to lack optimism and positive attitudes. People often think you are too hard on others or too negative about the progress.