BOOK EXERSICE

Part-1

1. Summarize what the Balswicks say about the process of relationship empowerment as they begin chapter 6. Pages 104-106

1. Describe Diana Baumrind’s three styles of parenting and their likely results. Page 107

1. Explain the difference between discipline and punishment. Pages 108

1. Discuss the four styles of instrumental parent leadership. Pages 109-110

1. Assess and explain the styles of socioemotional parenting. Pages 111-114

1. Summarize then evaluate what the authors call a biblical model of parenting. Pages 116-119

1. Explain empowering to maturity. Pages 119-122

1. In two or three sentences each, summarize the following:

a. Psychoanalytic Theory, page 128

b. Erikson’s Neopsychoanalytic Theory, page 129

c. Symbolic Interaction Theory, pages 129-130

d. Cognitive Development Theory, pages 131-132

e. Object Relations Theory, page 133-134

f. Social Learning Theory, page 134-135

g. Sociocultural Theory, page 135

h. Social Ecology, page 136

1. Concerning internal tension, what commonality do the authors see in Freud and the biblical picture of the human condition? Pages 137

1. Explain why the church is valuable as an extended family. Pages 139

1. In a couple of sentences each, summarize the various key elements of facilitating healthy growth of children. Pages 139-145

1. How is family spirituality involved in the moral and faith development of a child? Pages 147-148

1. Explain why adolescence is a time of identity crisis. Pages 162-163

1. Why is midlife a time of crisis? Page 164

1. What do the authors see as significant about the interaction of adolescence and midlife? Pages 165-171

1. Explain the launching stage of family life, and summarize the four key transition tasks in the launching stage? Pages 173-176

1. Summarize the challenges of the post-launching stage. Pages 176-182

Part -2

1. What has caused the modern shift in gender roles? Page 192

1. Discuss the evolutionary psychology theory of gender differences. Pages 193-194

1. Summarize the socialization theory. Page 195

1. Summarize each of the feminist theories. Pages 196-200

1. Discuss Volf’s proposal for reconciliation as a solution to the gender role problem. Pages 200-201

1. Explain the Integrated View of Gender. Pages 201-204

1. What do the authors say about the roles of women and men in family life? Pages 205-209

1. Read Proverbs 31:10-31. Discuss the “worthy woman” in this text, often extolled in Christian circles as the ideal wife and mother. In what ways does she NOT fit the common stereotype of a woman in ancient Hebrew culture? What about today?

1. Discuss co-parenting. Pages 209-210

1. Describe the various historical shifts in attitude toward sexuality. Pages 214-217

1. Discuss sexual wholeness in a broken world. Pages 223-226

1. Summarize the six guidelines given by the authors for appropriate sexual intimacy. Pages 226-228

1. Sexual identity has become a significant social and religious topic in our time. Summarize the various Christian views on this subject. Pages 232-234

1. Summarize the seven principles for authentic sexuality in marriage. Pages 235-238

Part3

1. Discuss why communication is the heart of healthy family life. Pages 239-240

1. What factors in recent years have increased the individual sense of alienation and loneliness? Illustrate from your own experience. Page 242

1. Discuss the effects of expressions of love, both verbal and non-verbal. Pages 242-245

1. What keeps some people from expressing love? Pages 246-247

1. What do the authors say about the problem for both boys to learn expressions of love and intimacy? Pages 247-248

1. Explain the difference between how mothers and fathers typically express love toward sons and daughters. Pages 248-249

1. Summarize the discussion on expressing love in marriage. Pages 249-250

1. Summarize and explain what the authors call “a biblical model for expressiveness.” Pages 250-251

1. Discuss four levels of conflict that typically damage family relationships. Pages 254-255

1. What forms of denial often occur in family conflict? Page 255

1. List and comment briefly on the fourteen rules of fair fighting. Pages 256-261

(This answer should be longer than the others)

1. Describe each of the various styles of conflict management. Pages 262-269

PART- 4

1. Describe the difference between authority and dominance. Pages 274-275

1. Describe the difference between orchestrative power and implementive power. Page 276

1. Summarize the four models of family power discussed by the authors. Pages 277-280

1. The authors point out that Jesus Christ and Karl Marx had a certain commonality in their teaching. Explain that. Pages 281-283

1. Summarize the ideal balance of power in a family. Pages 283-285

1. What kinds of events bring stress to families? What is most stressful and why? Pages 287-288

1. What resources help families deal with stress? Page 289

1. Discuss the essence of “coping” with family stress. Page 290

1. Summarize five stages of problem solving. Pages 290-291

1. How do catastrophes differ from other stress-causing events? Pages 292-293

1. What are four ways family members might share the burden of pain? Pages 294-296

1. How can Christian faith potentially help a family through crises? What do the authors say about extremes? Pages 296-297

1. Discuss the numerous causes of divorce. Pages 303-304

1. Describe and explain the typical four-stage sequence of divorce. Pages 304-305

1. What effect does divorce have on children? Pages 305-306

1. What challenges are faced in a single-parent family? Pages 313-318

1. What are the challenges faced by a reconstituted family? Pages 321-325

1. What is a “binuclear” family, and what strategy might help bring success? Pages 326-328

PART-5

1. What do you think the authors mean by “the erosion of biblical truth” in their title of Chapter 19?

1. What is “modernity” and why is it challenging? What is the meaning of “post-modern?” Pages 339-341

1. Define and summarize the four dimensions of sociocultural life. Pages 342-343

1. Explain the dilemmas and false hopes that modernity often brings upon the family? Pages 346-352

1. Discuss whether and how a family might escape the bondage of commodities. Pages 352-359

1. Explain the possible reconstruction of community in relationship to family life. Pages 360-361

1. What is the importance of revitalized communication and consciousness? Pages 361-362

1. What support structures are helpful to ensure solid family life? Pages 363-369.

1. Traditionally, most churches have taken a very hard stand on the subject of divorce and remarriage, even forbidding remarriage and denying membership to people with “tainted” marital backgrounds. In a previous chapter (pages 311-312) the authors make a statement on the Christian approach to divorce. Discuss how Christians and churches as communities should respond to divorce, both among their members and those seeking membership. (This answer should be longer than the others)