3 PAGES EACH ASSIGNMENT-BENTLEY-GU 101

GU101 Student Success

Assignment W6 (60 points)

“Self advocacy”

As a college student, you need to find time to study and complete your assignments.

However, the rest of your life continues as if you have not just gotten busier.

For example, a student, Tammy, was pursuing her master’s degree. Because her

husband had supported her when she earned her bachelor’s degree, she thought that

circumstances would be the same during her master’s degree; however, it did not

happen that way. She still did all the cooking, all the grocery shopping, and she was

having trouble trying to finish her homework with the kids running around. Finally,

frustrated, she blew up at her husband. After she calmed down and they really talked to

each other, her husband shared that he thought that because she had already earned a

degree, she knew what to do and would not need any help. Tammy shared that it was

because her husband supported her by taking over some of the things Tammy normally

did that she was able to complete her first degree.

Families (support systems) may not intuitively know what the college student needs.

Tammy was self-advocating, having the “I need” conversation with her husband. In her

case, she needed a quiet area to study four times a week for two hours, help with the

kids during study time, and some help with cooking and cleaning when projects were

due. She found that by sharing what she needed, her family (support system)

understood her needs and were better able to meet them.

What are your needs? For Part 1 of this assignment, you are going to have an “I

need” conversation with your support system (family, friends, whoever will be

there to support you). This involves the following steps:

 First, write a list of the main points you want to cover in your conversation – what

is it that you really need to make this college journey a positive experience? You

want to explain what you are doing, why you are doing it, and what you need

from this person.

 Second, point out the “win-win” in the situation – how does your support person

“win” when they help you to meet your needs while you are a college student?

Also, be ready to answer questions your support person may have for you.

 Third, during the “I need” conversation, pay attention to the verbal and nonverbal

cues your partner is giving you. Be able to interpret those signals appropriately

so you have a productive and meaningful conversation.

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After having your “I need” conversation, for Part 2 of this assignment you will

write a paper about your experience. Your written assignment is to address the

following points, using at least 750 words:

1. Provide your “I need….” list. Explain the points you wanted to cover in the

conversation.

2. Recap your “I need…” conversation. With whom did you have the conversation?

Did you cover your main points? Why or why not?

3. Reflect on your emotions. How were you feeling during the conversation?

4. Analyze your support person’s response. How did the person respond to your

conversation?

5. Anticipated results: Do you believe you will get what you need? Why or why not?

6. If you were to have the “I need” conversation with a second person, would you

change anything given your experience with the first conversation? Why or why

not?

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Use Microsoft Word to prepare your assignment.

Remember to include the following information at the top of your paper:

 Your Name

 GID Number

 GU101

 Today’s Date

Here is the grading rubric for this assignment:

MEETS OR EXCEEDS EXPECTATIO NS (7 TO 10 POINTS)

DOES NOT MEET EXPECTATIO NS (2 TO 6 POINTS)

SAFEASSIG N ALERT: PLAGIARIS M (1 POINT)

ABSEN T (0 POINT S)

“I NEED” LIST; EXPLANATION

The list contains relevant and actionable items that the student and partner can negotiate

The list does not contain relevant or actionable items; it is unclear what the student is asking for

SafeAssign report indicated likelihood of plagiarism

Did not address this question in the response

“I NEED” CONVERSATI ON

The recap of the conversation contains points of

The recap of the conversation lacks details; it is

SafeAssign report indicated

Did not address this

agreement and disagreement; provides excellent detail of the negotiation

unclear whether there was a conversation between the student and partner

likelihood of plagiarism

question in the response

REFLECTION ON EMOTION

Excellent self- awareness of emotional state; identifies the high and low points with clarity

The description lacks self- awareness of the emotional state; could benefit from exploring how feelings impact relationships with others

SafeAssign report indicated likelihood of plagiarism

Did not address this question in the response

ANALYSIS OF PERSON’S RESPONSE

Description of person’s response demonstrates excellent awareness of areas of comfort and discomfort, agreement and disagreement

Description of partner’s response lacks awareness of the partner’s viewpoint; could benefit from further exploration of how to interpret the verbal and nonverbal clues that others send

SafeAssign report indicated likelihood of plagiarism

Did not address this question in the response

ANTICIPATED RESULTS

The prediction of success or failure demonstrates an understanding of how to interpret a negotiation realistically

The prediction of success or failure lacks details, or fails to interpret the negotiation process

SafeAssign report indicated likelihood of plagiarism

Did not address this question in the response

CHANGE APPROACH?

Provides useful suggestions for how to improve if the process were repeated

Provides few details regarding how to improve if the process were repeated

SafeAssign report indicated likelihood of plagiarism

Did not address this question in the response