Analysis paper

Xuan Lin

BA3102

Analysis Paper

Abstract

The discussion of the paper revolves around using the concept of morality to understand my personal life story with my friend. We got into a fight due to ownership of my property. I ended up choosing my friendship over my property. The property provides a deep insight of the situation.

Analysis-The Woes of Kindness

Description of the Situation

I have a reason to entitle my personal life story “The Woes of Kindness.” The people I loved and I thought they care for me betrayed my friendship which change my personality a lot. During the first years of my college life, I developed friendship with Ai, a young lady that we had grown up together since middle school. It was interesting that we had met in school after spending much time in our neighborhood together. Ai was someone I had trusted to live with because we had shared a significant part of our lives. We had attended were in the same learning institutions. I was known by her single mother, and I spent most evenings with her at their home watching popular movies and conversing about different issues in life. Chen had no secrets to hide from me, and our friendship was untouchable.

With us calling ourselves blood sisters, we decided that we would rent a house and use it as our abode while completing our college education. We agreed that we would purchase everything on a 50-50 basis. We also considered the possibility of moving to another house after we completed our education. Ai was a happy lady because she had never moved out of her mom’s house. She was excited that she had her own place to live. This was the order of the day for her, and it appeared in every conversation we had. Ai always thanked me for making it possible for us to live together and make independent decisions about our lives. She promised to become a cooperative roommate and even termed us ‘unstoppable sisters.’ The first year of our college life was all rosy, and we did most of our things together.

However, with time, the situation changed. Ai was no longer a friend. She spent much of the time in the room with her boyfriend. My friends from college always visited and saw this as a habit and they always asked the reason for her changed behavior. She stopped doing chores and we have tons of problem from time to time. Ai stopped talking to me, I had to spend more time with my classmates for me to tackle my stress. Trust that is broken is difficult to amend. I decided that it was time for me to leave. My friends came to assist in moving my things out of the house.

However, she brought the issue to her mother stating that she had bought everything and that I would not leave the house with the things I had purchased. Since my parents were not aware of my stay with Ai, I could not inform them because they would get furious. This is because they had warned me against living outside the school environment and they had refused the aspect of me living with another student, so I need to hide the situation. I felt despair from this situation, how can one person have such a huge change in their personality.

Stakeholders affected by My Decision

Ai had become an individualistic personal in the situation. She only thought about herself and not those around her. Individualism as a concept focuses on a decision that is meant to benefit a person in the long-term without considering others. Any of our individual friends could see that she had a selfish personality that had been hidden before the situation occurred. I was a person that chose to follow universalism because I believed that my decisions had a significant impact on anyone I had associations within my environment. I could not let my relationship go sour due to the things I had bought and owned during my first years in college. If Ai thought that they were important than what we had accomplished together, then it means that she was not the friend I had thought she was in my entire life. I did not want any fight within the situation and decided to be moral and think straight about starting life afresh. I did not want to cause a fight because she was my friend, and we had come a long way. The situation was somehow selfish, but I had to leave the house without anything. I told my friends that there was no need to fight back and that the truth would finally come out.

The Right Outcome

When it came to the situation, the right outcome would have been for her to let me leave with the stuff I owned and for her to keep her own belongings. It was wrong for her to deny me the right to hold my personal effects. She should not have called her mother to participate in the situation because the problem was for us to solve and there was no need to involve outside parties. I wish my parents knew about my residence because they would have defended me in dealing with Ai and her mother. The situation would not have escalated if the mother wasn’t involved, presented herself as a single mother who lacked any strength to deal with my social status. She had claimed that she was a weak and struggling mother and that she would not let other kid extorting her child.

The Wrong Outcome

Several things discussed above may be considered wrong. If Ai had not lived with me, we would probably still be friends. I never had any problem with her before, but my decision of leaving the house with everything I bought made her furious and it cause her to lie. This would not have occurred if she was truthful to her mother. She should have communicated the truth and not put herself in a situation where everyone would see her as a victim. We could not have a rational conversation because of her anger bursts and threats that she would do anything to protect any property and her mother from me. If it were not for my kindness, if it happen to someone else, this might resorted to physical violence.

Ethical Principles in the Situation

I was keen to move out. I did not want to live in such a toxic environment. I had to sacrifice my property for friendship. Utilitarianism involves the aspect of the end not justifying the means. I focused on friendship and forwent the items I had bought. I told her to have a good life and that I would always be a friend. It hurt me inside, but I also swore to start again so that I would have peace of mind. I did not want to get in more deep about the situation because of the friendship. Ai was greedy in the situation, greed has changed a girl so much.

Existing Biases in the Situation

I chose friendship over property which was a bias. I failed to understand that she was in the wrong and that she needed to be punished. My friends could not believe that I could let her get away with keeping my things. Nevertheless, I could not stand her going through many difficulties because she was my friend and I knew her mother was also a struggling parent. Her mother also showed bias because she did not want to listen to my case. She only saw her child as being one who was being pressured to give up what she had worked for in the situation. Ai’s mother just concentrated on influencing her daughter to keep the property. I also failed to fight for the truth of property ownership and moved out with nothing. The situation made me feel like a loser because I had worked hard to purchase all the house items (sofa sets, television, cooker, internet equipment, and utensils among other things). The above biases were as reasons that moved out of the house.

Preventive Measures

Situations occur differently, and they are handled through unique and diverse approaches. This means that every case has a remedy. As reiterated above, I wish I lived in my own house. I would not have trusted Chen who only turned out to be an enemy. I made many mistakes when it came to communicating with my parents about my residence in school. I had lied to them about always being in class, so that they would not visit me and know my accommodation whereabouts. They paid for accommodation that existed outside the school and not in the university as they thought, (they wanted me to live within the school environment and having a apartment room by my self). I wish I had also learned more about Ai before I chose to live with her under the same roof. This would allowed me to prepare for the situation. It is a lesson that I learn to be more precise when making decision, people will show their humanity if it involves their interest and benefit.