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There are several individuals who chose to parent their children differently than others in society in order to edify the child’s self-worth. However, Dobson (2015) mentions it is imperative for the parent to discipline their child while at the same time not “breaking the will” of the child (Dobson, 2015, p. 122). Dobson (2020) addresses in this week’s presentation, Good Family Man that father’s provide an example to their children every day by their continued support of the family as a whole (Dobson, 2020). Also, Dobson (2015) mentions that children experience self-worth when they have a sense of belonging by their parents (p.123). Children need to know that they are loved by their parents even when the parents are disappointmented by the child's behavior.
Another concept Dobson (2015) addresses is the parent teaching their child responsibility at an early age as for when they mature into adulthood (p.145). In addition, Dobson (2015) mentions that it is crucial for parents to teach their children to exhibit kindness towards others that will build self-worth within the child as well as other individuals around them (p.157). Most importantly, it is vital for parents to discipline their children in a controlled manner who understand biblical principles. Not only is this fair, it is honoring to Christ when a parent disciplines their child. Christ provides encouragement to parents in Proverbs 22: 6 who discipline their children when they are young, the child will return to what they were taught once they mature into adulthood (NASB). Jinnah and Stoneman (2016) performed a study of individuals ranging from young children to adolescents on farms in Georgia that correlated with parenting styles. The authors found that children who had parents who did not enforce consequences and/or exhibited “inconsistent” discipline towards their children regarding the rules for operating machinery including tractors and other equipment, had an increase in children being injured due to the children not understanding the dangers of the job (Jinnah and Stoneman, 2016, pp. 245-246).
Also, Brummelman,Crocker, and Bushman (2016) performed a study of children who experienced low self-esteem and found that children who were “praised” for their effort and hard work were willing to accept a challenge of a difficult task (Brummelman,Crocker, and Bushman, 2016, p. 113). Likewise, when parents provide encouragement towards their children for doing their chores and exhibiting hard work, the child(ren)’s self worth is potentially increased. Especially, when the concept of Colossians 3:23 is explained to the child by the child working hard due to it being pleasing to Christ instead of trying to please men (NASB). Dobson (2015) warns parents not to be “over-protective” but rather enforcing boundaries and explaining consequences of intentional defiance in order for the children to be independent once they reach adulthood (p.143). Most importantly, the main advice that I would provide parents is it is essentially their responsibility to teach their child(ren) to lean on and trust Christ as they mature and that relationship begins with the foundation of parenting that occurs within the household.
References
Brummelman, E., Crocker, J., & Bushman, B. J. (2016). The praise paradox: When and why
praise backfires in children with low self-esteem. Child Development Perspectives, 10(2),
111-115. doi:10.1111/cdep.12171
Dobson, J.C. (2015). Building confidence in your child. Grand Rapids, MI: Revell.
Dobson, J. (2020). DBPC 600 Week Seven, Good Family Man [Video]. Lynchburg, VA: Liberty
University Online.
Jinnah, H. A., & Stoneman, Z. (2016). Influence of permissive parenting on youth farm risk
behaviors. Journal of Agromedicine, 21(3), 244-252. doi:10.1080/1059924X.2016.1179610
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