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Dear Adell,

I am returning you material once again. You need to select one topic.

TOPICS

1. A generalization about effective or ineffective parenting

You have a choice. Select “Effective Parenting” OR “Ineffective Parenting” but not both.

Remember this is not an expository essay when you explain correct or incorrect parenting.

THESIS: The thesis needs to focus on proving or disproving a generalization. The focus must be on

a generalization or stereotype that is clearly identified in the thesis.

No generalization or stereotype is presented.

The thesis statement must also present three examples which will be used to support or disprove the

generalization.

These examples are missing.

You need a generalization or stereotype about parenting as part of your thesis. For example:

“Pushing Sons to Play Sports (Because It’s “Manly”).” This is a stereotype.

Then provide examples to disprove the stereotype.

You need a generalization/stereotype. Example: “Generalization/stereotype - Helicopter parenting is

the safest way to raise children.”

(Helicopter parenting means being involved in a child’s life in a way that is over controlling and

over perfecting in a way that is in excess of responsible parenting.)

Following the generalization/stereotype you would then provide at least three examples to disprove

the generalization/stereotype.

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a sample outline showing how your material should be presented. SAMPLE Title: Career Paths for

English Majors Introduction Background: Many people believe that English majors can only be

teachers, if they find jobs at all. Thesis: Contrary to what people may think, that English majors can

only be teachers, English is a versatile major that can lead to well-paying jobs in a variety of fields

such as; copywriting, marketing or in the technical fields. Body Paragraphs Example 1 : English

majors find jobs in writing fields, such as technical writer, copywriter, and editor. Profita (2019)

claims that English majors can put their revising, editing, and proofreading skills to work as social

media managers, technical writers, and public relations specialists. Example 2: English majors find

jobs in technical fields. “PayScale is finding plenty of signs that humanities majors in general—and

English majors in particular—are making headway in faster-growing areas related to digital content.

Among the bright spots: content strategists ($90,500), content marketing managers ($82,100),

content managers ($72,200), and web producers ($69,900)” (Anders, 2016, para. 5). Example 3:

English majors find jobs in business and marketing fields. English majors have found lucrative jobs

as advertising executives, human resources managers, employment recruiters, and software

developers (Laue, 2019). Conclusion There’s nothing wrong with loving to read and write or

wanting to become a teacher, but English majors aren't locked in to teaching. English is the perfect

major for careers that demand good communication, critical thinking, and problem-solving skills.

The conclusion should name the three examples. REFERENCES Anders, George. (2016). 14 jobs

for English majors that pay at least $60,000. Forbes. Retrieved from

https://www.forbes.com/sites/georgeanders/2016/10/03/14-jobs-forenglish-majors-that- pay-at-least-

60000/#68eb5c834f1d (www.forbes.c om/sites/georgeanders/2016/10/03/14- jobs-for-english-

majors-that-pa y-at-least-60000/#68eb5c834f1d) Laue, Christine. (2019). Best-paying jobs for

English majors. Monster. Retrieved from https://www.monster.com/career-

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advice/article/bestpaying-jobs-english-majors (www.monster.com/career-advice/article/b est-

paying-jobs-english-majors) Profita, Mike. (2019). Career options to consider for English majors.

The Balance Careers. Retrieved from: https://www.thebalancecareers.com/top-jobs-for-english-

majors2059642 (www.thebalancecareers.com/top-jobs-for-english-majors-20 59642) .

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Title: Effective and Ineffective Parenting

Introduction

Background: Most parents want the best for their children. Right from birth, parents feel inclined to

protect their children and raise them in ways that will offer them the best opportunity to have a

successful and productive life. Some parents are deliberate about how they want to parent their

children. Such parents have a clear set of parameters to refer to when it comes to the parenting

approaches that they want to adopt with their children. On the other hand, other parents are not as

deliberate regarding parenting and parenting approaches. These parents tend to make it up as they go

but have a general moral compass, ethics, moral values, and values systems that they wish to instill

in their children. This essay will look at the habits that set apart effective parents from ineffective

parents.

Thesis: Effective or ineffective points to the presence or lack of a definitive strategy in parenting

and parenting habits that determine if a parent is effective or ineffective.

Body Paragraphs

Example 1: (Morin 2019) argues that effective parents understand the need to set house rules as

well as general rules that govern how their children are expected to interact with

other members of the society. House rules are essential in ensuring that there is sanity

in the house and goes a long way in improving the relationship between siblings by

allocating specific roles to specific children. General rules on how the children are

supposed to carry themselves out also go a long way in ensuring that they adapt well

to society. It also contributes to the children growing up with an appreciation for

other members of the community, divergent opinions, and extending courtesy to

Commented [JC1]: TOPICS 1.A generalization about effective or ineffective parenting

You have a choice. Select “Effective Parenting” OR “Ineffective Parting” but not both.

Remember this is not an expository essay when you explain correct or incorrect parenting.

Commented [JC2]: THESIS: The thesis needs to focus on proving or disproving a generalization. The focus must be on

a generalization or stereotype that is clearly identified in the thesis. No generalization or stereotype is presented.

The thesis statement must also present three examples which will be used to support or disprove the generalization.

These examples are missing. You need a generalization or stereotype about parenting as part of your thesis. For example: “Pushing Sons to Play Sports (Because It’s “Manly”).” This is a stereotype. Then provide examples to disprove the stereotype.

You need a generalization/stereotype. Example: “Generalization/stereotype - Helicopter parenting is the safest way to raise children.” (Helicopter parenting means being involved in a child’s life in a way that is over controlling and over perfecting in a way that is in excess of responsible parenting.)

Following the generalization/stereotype you would then provide at least three examples to disprove the generalization/stereotype.

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others. Effective parents are very particular about the rules they have set for their

children. It should be expected that children being children will most likely have

missteps from time to time and violate these rules. There must be a mechanism for

addressing these missteps. Every violation should be met with a proportional and

immediate consequence (Morin, 2019). These consequences or punishments should

help the child appreciate the rules and understand that there are always consequences

for breaking the rules.

Example 2: (Carrero 2019) argues that it is essential for parents to begin preparing their children

early enough to deal with the challenges that life will inevitably present them. There

are several ways parents can prepare their children to be confident enough to tackle

challenges in their lives. One way of doing this is by allowing the children to make

their own mistakes and failures so that they can learn from them. Parents should

resist the urge to rush in and shield their children from the effects of failure. The

parents must understand that experiencing and going through failure is a chastening

experience rich in lessons for the child. When parents attempt to mitigate their

children's failures by shielding them from failure when facing challenges, they

effectively deny the children a learning and growth opportunity. When children are

faced with challenges and failures, when they are encouraged to try several times

again, they end up succeeding, building their resilience (Carrero, 2019). Having open

and honest communication with children about challenges and failures also helps

them understand that things will not always be as rosy they grow up. As a parent

talks to their children regarding their challenges, it also allows them to explore the

child's fears and worries. Once a parent knows the child's fears and concerns

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regarding facing challenges and failing, they can offer encouragement and help them

make better decisions. (Carrero, 2019)

Example 3: (Gilliard 2019) warns parents about doing too much for their children as it denies

them the opportunity to develop independence. Children must start to be trained on

how to be independent at a young age. Allowing children to do specific tasks that

they have already mastered is the beginning of helping them develop independence.

Independent children grow up to become self-sufficient at an early age and are more

responsible than children whose freedom has not been set. While there is a natural

desire for parents to want to do everything for their children, especially at a younger

age, parents must realize when they are doing too much and smothering the child

(Gilliard, 2019). Some of the ways that parents can develop independence in their

children include delegating specific duties to them. House chores are a great way to

start charging duties to children of a young age. Seemingly mundane activities such

as setting the table and taking their plates back to the kitchen after eating begin

instilling a sense of independence in the child. Making the child tidy their room and

clean up after themselves also helps them grow their independence. Including the

child in decisions that affect them by seeking their opinion is another way of

developing their independence.

Example 4: Parents often make the mistake of confusing pampering with love (Nelsen, 2018).

Many parents who pamper their children tend to be compensated for something they

missed growing up or for something in their adult lives. Nonetheless, it is crucial to

understand that pampering does not equate to love. It has adverse effects on the child,

no matter how well-intentioned it may be. Pampering makes the children weak since

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they grow up feeling that others should always do things for them. This also makes

them feel entitled (Nelsen, 2018). Pampering also inhibits the child's ability to grow

and be independent since they will never take the initiative or believe that they are

capable. Part of pampering is shielding the child away from the ups and downs that

life has to offer. Parents who pamper their children always seek to make a way out

for them when faced with challenges. They may even try to influence specific

favorable outcomes for their children so that they do not have to deal with the

feelings of disappointment that life has to offer. However, this means that the child

grows in a utopic world that will not always be the case as they grow into adulthood.

Part of pampering is when parents do for their children things that they can do for

themselves. Children are born with a desire to be independent and do something for

themselves, and pampering stifles this inborn trait (Nelsen, 2018). Sometimes parents

pamper children out of a need for practicality or avoid putting in the hard work of

parenting by teaching children to become proficient in specific tasks. Some of the

ways parents pamper their children are by making for them separate meals when they

become picky about what has been prepared, letting them play video games all day to

avoid tantrums when told to stop, or even making for them their bed. Pampering is a

sign of ineffective parenting because it does more harm than good to the child.

Example 5: (Das Blah, 2019) argues that children should be viewed as unique individuals and no

two children can ever be the same. Parents compare their children with others if they

do not appreciate the child's individuality but proceed to hold standards of other

children against their child. However, the comparison of children starts much earlier

before they are born, and almost every parent inadvertently does it. The difference is

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the motive. When parents are expecting a child, it is natural for them to speak to

other parents who have already had their children or others who are also on the same

journey (Das Blah, 2019). Parents will compare notes on baby milestones, how the

baby feeds, and sleeping patterns, among other things. This is a healthy comparison

that most parents will monitor if there is anything of note they should be concerned

about regarding their children. Comparison becomes a trait of ineffective parenting

when parents use the comparison to judge their child for being different from the

others (Das Blah, 2019). When children are compared to other children, it takes away

the parents' joy because they no longer appreciate their child for how unique they are

and, as such, do not find them to be remarkable. Children are gifted differently and

have different talents and potentials. Parents should come to terms with the

uniqueness of their children and appreciate them even if they would have wanted

more.

Example 6: Children can become irritating and get on a parent's nerves, especially after a long

and stressful day. The urge to shout and yell at them during such times is a natural

one to vent out the frustration. However, it is an urge that must be resisted at all

costs. Experts now consider the psychological impacts of shouting at a child to be

very damaging (Stern, 2021). Yelling cannot be viewed as an alternative form of

discipline or a way to get the child's attention if they are misbehaving. When a child

is yelled at, it does not have the desired effect of the child being apologetic or

remorseful. It just results in a harmful psychological impact on the child. Yelling at

children is responsible for the fight, flight, or freeze reaction from children. When a

child is yelled at, their brain institutively recognizes the fear they feel like danger and

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reacts by fleeing the scene, fighting back by hitting the person yelling, or going into

shock and freeze. I yelled constantly. Children will adapt to it as an acceptable mode

of communication and will, in turn, yell at others, too (Stern, 2021). Yelling at

children leads to a breakdown of productive communication. It leads to inhibited

emotions where the children no longer open up to their parents. The relationship

between a child and a parent puts all the power in the hands of the parent. Therefore,

the parent is expected to be the one to show restraint and gentleness when they are

dealing with the child. The amount of power that parents hold over children means

that if it is coupled with yelling and shouting, it is terrifying to the child (Stern,

2021). Parents are the people that children love the most, and when they terrify

children by shouting and yelling, children automatically become afraid of all adults.

It also compromises the sense of security that children get from their parents.

Conclusion

Example 1 states that parents who are effective in their parenting relying on set rules and boundaries

for their children. These rules are also accompanied by clear consequences and punishments that the

children know and help them to appreciate the rules. Example 2 looks at how effective parenting

helps children prepare for life's challenges at an early stage by allowing them to go through

challenges even if the outcomes may be a failure, which is in itself a lesson. Example 3 asserts that

encouraging children to be independent at an early age is effective parenting. This can be achieved

by allowing children to engage in tasks that they have already mastered as they are encouraged to do

things for themselves. Example 4 looks at pampering as an example of ineffective parenting. It

argues that parents who pamper children mostly think it is a way of loving their children, yet it

makes them feel entitled to grow up. Example 5 looks at comparing children as a trait of ineffective

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parenting since all children are unique, and by comparing and judging them, children feel

inadequate. Example 6 states that are yelling and shouting at children is a detrimental way of

reacting to their misgivings and leads to a breakdown of communication between the child and the

parent. It also makes the child live in fear of the parent.

REFERENCES

Carrero, K. (2019). How to raise kids that can handle the challenges of life. Extremely Good

Parenting. Retrieved 23 June 2021, from https://karacarrero.com/raise-kids-handle-

challenges/.

Das Blah, A. (2019). Parenthesis: Why you should stop comparing your child to others. The Indian

Express.

Gillard, J. (2021). Help yourself! 8 tips for teaching kids to be more independent. Today's parent,

from https://www.todaysparent.com/kids/teaching-kids-to-be-more-independent/.

Morin, A. (2019). How to Raise Children That Are More Responsible and Mentally Strong.

Verywell Family, from https://www.verywellfamily.com/9-habits-of-highly-effective-

parents-4058242.

Nelsen, J. (2018). Avoid Pampering. Positivediscipline.com. Retrieved 23 June 2021, from

https://www.positivediscipline.com/articles/avoid-pampering.

Stern, J. (2021). What You're Doing When You Yell at Your Kid. Fatherly. Retrieved 23 June 2021,

from https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/parents-yell-affect-child-development-laura-

markham/.