week 3 Cogitations for ICS 392 (Executive Coaching - Leadership in a VUCA (Volatile, Uncertain, Chaotic & Ambiguous Business Environment)

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The challenges of leading in a VUCA (volatile, uncertain,

chaotic & ambiguous) business environment

Powerpoint Day 3-5 EXECUTIVE COACHING: LEADERSHIP in a VUCA (Volatile, Uncertain, Chaotic & Ambiguous) BUSINESS ENVIRONMENT.

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David Drehmer, PhD, ACC, FAAETS, FIOCPA, CSP Associate Professor of Management & Entrepreneurship, DePaul University Executive Director (emeritus), Performance Enhancement Institute, PC Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Consulting Organizational Psychologist Senior Scientist, Neuroscience Institute Clinical Director (emeritus) & Co‐Founder, Center for Traumatic Stress Founding Fellow, Harvard Institute of Coaching, Harvard Medical School Fellow, Center for Creativity and Innovation, DePaul University  Mentor Coach, International Coach Federation Harvard Business Review, Advisory Council

Coaching: Leadership in a VUCA Business Environment

Tools Days 3‐5

What We Know Coaching is  not a  spectator  sport. 

~~ Anonymous

Good Coaching You’ve  got to  know the  roadsigns

Sir John Whitmore

Ask, Don’t Tell

Coaching Management by Questioning

The quality of a question  is not judged by its 

complexity but by the  complexity of thinking it 

provokes.

‐‐ Joseph O’Connor

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Coaching Coaching is not about filling  buckets; it is about lighting 

fires.

Paraphrased from  William Butler Yeats

Kindle the Inner Spirit In everyone's life, at some  time, our inner fire goes  out. It is then burst into  flame by an encounter  with another human  being. We should all be  thankful for those people  who rekindle the inner  spirit.

Albert Schweitzer

Success Success isn't a  result of  spontaneous  combustion. You  must set yourself  on fire.

Arnold H. Glasow

Ascending Goals If you  achieve that,  what would  be the  result?

Ascending Goals If you  achieve that,  what would  that mean to  you?

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Ascending Goals If you  achieve that,  what would  that mean to  you?

Ascending Goals If you  achieve that,  what would  be the  result?

Ascending Goals If you  achieve that,  what would  that mean to  you?

Ascending Goals If you  achieve that,  what would  that mean to  you?

Ascending Goals If you  achieve that,  what would  be the  result?

Storm It is not light that we  need, but fire; it is not  the gentle shower, but  thunder. We need the  storm, the whirlwind,  and the earthquake.

Frederick Douglass

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Good Coaching You’ve got  to know  the road  signs

Coaching Success

Find Courage

Light a Fire

Determination

Ascending Ladder

Transformation Life isn’t  about finding  yourself. Life  is about  creating  yourself. 

~~ George Bernard Shaw

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Questions to Guide the  Transformational Coach

• Contracting – starting with the end in mind and agreeing how  you are going to get there together

What would make this session a success, both  for you and your organization?

What do you want to have achieved or shifted  before leaving here?

Source: Hawkins, P., & Smith, N. (2006)

Questions to Guide the  Transformational Coach

• Listening – facilitating the client in generating personal insight  into the situation

What I am hearing from what you have said is.. What I am sensing from listening to you is ... The connections I am making between what you  have been sharing are ...

Source: Hawkins, P., & Smith, N. (2006)

Questions to Guide the  Transformational Coach

• Exploring 1 – helping the client to understand the personal  impact the situation is having on themselves

What in you is standing in the way of your  resolving this?

Source: Hawkins, P., & Smith, N. (2006)

Questions to Guide the  Transformational Coach

• Exploring 2 – challenging the client to create new possibilities  for future action in resolving the situation

What is the wildest option you can think of for  dealing with this situation? 

How would someone you admire deal with this  situation?

Source: Hawkins, P., & Smith, N. (2006)

Questions to Guide the  Transformational Coach

• Action – supporting the client in committing to a way  ahead and creating the next step

What do you need to do right now to radically  increase the percentage chance of success?

Rehearse your opening line right now, as if I am  the person you need to speak to.

Source: Hawkins, P., & Smith, N. (2006)

Questions to Guide the  Transformational Coach

• Review – taking stock and reinforcing ground covered and  commitments made.  Reviewing the process and  how it could be improved. Planning the future  review after the action has been tried

What would you like to improve or do differently the next  time you have coaching with me?

When and where are you going to review this  experimental plan you have just committed to?

Are we going to have another coaching session, if so when  and where?

Source: Hawkins, P., & Smith, N. (2006)

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• We must learn to  ask the right  questions and  we have to ask  those questions  often.

– Garry Kasparov

Video:  David Peterson

David Petersen

Coach Development

Developmental Pipeline

David Peterson

Where there is a will, there is a way.

Too much way, not  enough will

Does it ever feel like this?

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Ambivalence  Feeling two ways about a thing

Normal part of change process 

Common prior to and during  habit change

A communication trap: person  defends the other side of  argument

Defense of status quo makes  change less likely Elizabeth Jenkins, Ph.D. (July, 2017) Motivational Interviewing with Substance Use Disorders, Tampa Florida VA

Change Talk – Sustain TalkChange Talk – Sustain Talk Preparatory

• Desire • Ability • Reasons • Needs

Mobilizing • Commitment • Activation • Taking Steps

Miller, W. R., & Rollnick, S. (2013). Motivational interviewing: Helping people change.  New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Change Talk is Gold Desire: 

I want to stop cutting class 

Ability:  I can do this if I just get a handle on my anger 

Reasons:  Getting high makes my roommates not want to be with me 

Need:  I need to do this so I won’t have to live at home anymore 

Commitment:  I will fill out the applications for financial aid

Activation:  I’m ready to study and do better in school

Taking Steps:  I went to all my classes last week 

Adapted from Elizabeth Jenkins, Ph.D. (July, 2017) Motivational  Interviewing with Substance Use Disorders, Tampa Florida VA

DARN CATs

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Dog Bark = DARN Cat Meow = CAT Silence = No change talkHerie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

“I don’t have a problem with grades  – I can study anytime I want.”

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

“I have been abstinent all week, but  the cravings were REALLY bad!”

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

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“I’m not here because I want to be here.   My doctor told me that I won’t be able to  get on the transplant list unless I quit  smoking.”

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

“I’m going to keep trying for as long as  it takes – one day at a time.”  

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

“It’s unfair to make me take a class  I don’t need and will never use.”

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

“There is nothing I can do to pass.  It’s hopeless and I’m helpless.”

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

“Mom died and Dad lost his job.  I  have to work!”

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

“I know my assignment is late but I  have to study for the GREs.”

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

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“This school sucks.”

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

Herie, Marylin (2011).  Five Essential Strategies in Motivating Clients to Change, CAMH Education.

Commitment Action Taking Steps

Desire Ability Reasons Need

On Change Talk People are generally  better persuaded by  the reasons which  they have themselves  discovered than by  those which have  come in to the mind  of others. 

‐Blaise Pascal, Pensees, #10, 1660 

Delusions about Promoting Change

Insight ‐ if you can just make people see

Knowledge ‐ if people just know enough

Skills ‐ if you can just teach people how to change

Hell ‐ if you can just make people feel bad or afraid enough

We often try to give them 

Then they will change!? Adapted from Elizabeth Jenkins, Ph.D. (July, 2017) Motivational  Interviewing with Substance Use Disorders, Tampa Florida VA

When you’re not sure where to  go next, then . . .

“A Psychological Law”

I learn what I believe as I hear myself speak. Bill Miller (Based on D. Bem, 1967, “Self‐Perception: An alternative interpretation of cognitive dissonance phenomena”)

Moyers et al., 2009.

Even subliminal messages.

“What coaches reflect, they will  hear more of.”

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Affirm Autonomy & Then Zip

It is your choice whether  to make this change

You are the one who gets  to decide . . .

Regardless of what you  do, I will be here to  support you.

But if you keep using crack it will  be very hard to get your kids back

But it sounds like the cannabis is  really affecting your grades

But you know that you will  probably get evicted from your  housing if you keep using.

Equilibrium 

Arguing for  change tends to  evoke further  defenses for  maintaining the  status quo. 

Bill Miller

David Burns’ Disarming Technique

Find truth in what  the other person is  saying, even if it  seems illogical,  self‐serving,  distorted, or just  plain “wrong.”

Motivational Interviewing

Client‐centered directive method  for enhancing intrinsic motivation  to change by exploring and  resolving ambivalence.

Miller WR, Rollnick S. Motivational Interviewing:  Preparing People for Change. 2nd ed. New York:  Guilford Press; 2002.

Miller, W. R., & Rollnick, S. (2013). Motivational interviewing: Helping people  change. New York, NY: Guilford Press. 

Rosengren, D. B., & Guilford Press. (2012). Building motivational interviewing skills: A  practitioner workbook. New York: Guilford Press. 

Pantalon, Michael V. (2011).  Instant influence :how to get anyone to do anything‐‐fast  New York : Little, Brown

Motivational InterviewingMotivational Interviewing

Principles – EE DD RR SS • Express Empathy • Develop Discrepancy • Roll with Resistance • Support Self-efficacy

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Motivational InterviewingMotivational Interviewing

Resisting the righting reflex The desire to fix what seems wrong with people and set  them promptly on a better course

Motivational InterviewingMotivational Interviewing

Don’t ever wrestle with a pig.

Both of you will get dirty.

The pig will enjoy it.

Motivational InterviewingMotivational Interviewing

Micro Skills -- OARS • Open-ended Questions • Affirmations • Reflective Listening • Summaries

Change Talk – Sustain TalkChange Talk – Sustain Talk Preparatory

• Desire • Ability • Reasons • Needs

Mobilizing • Commitment • Activation • Taking Steps

Scaffolding of Motivational Interviewing 1. Engaging: listening to  understand the dilemma using  OARS 

2. Focusing: agenda setting,  finding a common and strategic  focus, exploring ambivalence,  use of information and advice 

3. Evoking: selective eliciting,  selective responding, selective  summaries toward change talk 

4. Planning: moving to a  change plan and obtaining  commitment 

Adapted from Miller, W. R., & Rollnick, S. (2013). Motivational interviewing: Helping  people change. New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Engaging  • Goals  • Build a trusting and safe relationship  • Understand the client’s reality  • Understand the client’s feelings, beliefs, values,  concerns (including importance and confidence) 

• Recognize and affirm strengths, motivation  • Accept without judgment what you have learned 

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Skills in Engaging • OARS

• Replacing questions  (fact gathering) with  reflections

• Complexifying reflections

Motivational InterviewingMotivational Interviewing

Micro Skills -- OARS • Open-ended Questions • Affirmations • Reflective Listening • Summaries

Directive ReflectingDirective Reflecting

It’s been fun, but something has got to give. I just can’t go on like this anymore.

– You’ve enjoyed yourself. – You’re worried about what

might happen. – It’s time for a change.

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening It’s been fun, but something has got to give. I just can’t go on like this anymore.

Paraphrase: So, the fun has come at a cost. Amplified: You've had a fabulous time. Double‐sided: On the one hand, you've had  a good run, and on the other you can see  that it's coming to an end. Affective: You're a bit worried about where  this is taking you.

Avoid the Dirty Dozen  UNHELPFUL BLOCKS 1. ordering, directing 2. warning, threatening 3. moralizing, preaching 4. advising, giving solutions. 5. persuading with logic, arguing 6. judging, criticizing, blaming 7. praising, agreeing. 8. name‐calling, ridiculing 9. analyzing, diagnosing. 10.reassuring, sympathizing 11.questioning, probing 12.diverting, sarcasm, withdrawal

Thomas Gordon 

Reflections

Reflect so that you move toward your goal. Military Families Network July 19, 2016 By David Christian, Ph.D.

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Moving Conversation Forward Powerful, Impactful, Challenging, Rewarding, Engaging

Surface Description (Simple Reflection)

Dip Below Surface (Complex Reflection)

• feelings,  • hopes,  • dreams,  • thoughts,  • expectations 

Herie, Marilyn (2017). https://educateria.com/2017/02/22/a‐leadership‐manifesto/

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening It’s been fun, but something has got to give. I just can’t go on like this anymore.

Paraphrase: So, the fun has come at a cost.

Amplified: You've had a fabulous time.

Double‐sided: On the one hand, you've had  a good run, and on the other you can see  that it's coming to an end.

Affective: You're a bit worried about where  this is taking you.

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening

I feel alone, no one will help me.

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening

I’m not smart enough.  It comes  so easily for others. . Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening I resent that my girlfriend gets  to go out and party while I have  to stay home and study.

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening I don’t need to do bullshit  participation in class when there is  better stuff on Youtube. 

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

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Reflective ListeningReflective Listening •I am very disappointed with this class and  your attitude. Your lack patriotism, and  your support for burning the American flag  is disgraceful. It blows my mind how a  professor of a prestigious university could  behave like that. Frankly, I’m not interested  in being told that I should support Islamic  terrorists, rapist drug dealing Mexicans and  Obamacare.

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening I know my assignment is late but  I have to study for the GRE’s. 

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening

Mom died and Dad lost his job.  I  have to work!

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening

There is nothing I can do to pass.  It’s hopeless and I’m helpless

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening I’m going to keep trying for as  long as it takes – one day at a  time. 

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective ListeningReflective Listening

I have been abstinent all week,  but the cravings were REALLY  bad!

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

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Reflective ListeningReflective Listening

I don’t have a problem with  grades – I can study anytime I  want

Paraphrase: 

Amplified: 

Double‐sided: 

Affective:

Reflective Listening • It sounds like… • What I hear you saying… • It seems as if… • I get the sense that… • I get the sense that you are wanting to

change, and you have concerns about… • I’m wondering if there’s a lot of pressure

on you to change, and you’re not sure you can do it because of difficulties you’ve had when you’ve tried in the past.

Offer a Summary Bouquet 

Periodically summarize:

The problem as they see it 

Options they like and why.

Agreements and follow‐up  plans. 

Military Families Network July 19, 2016 By David Christian, Ph.D.

Summaries It sounds like you’re concerned about your gambling use because it’s costing you a lot of money and there’s a chance you could end up in jail. You also said quitting will probably mean not associating with your friends anymore. That doesn’t sound like an easy choice.

Over the past three months you’ve been talking about changing your lifestyle, and it seems that just recently you’ve started to recognize that the less good things are outweighing the good things. That, coupled with your girlfriend leaving because you continued to be a workaholic makes it easy to understand why you’re now committed to making some lifestyle changes.

OARS: Summaries • Special form of reflective  listening 

• Structure: Indicate you’re  about to summarize 

• Be selective 

• Note ambivalence &  attend to change  statements 

• Be concise! 

• End with invitation

• Use to change directions  or ask a key question 

Keys to Change Readiness

Importance

Confidence

Readiness

Adapted from Elizabeth Jenkins, Ph.D. (July, 2017) Motivational  Interviewing with Substance Use Disorders, Tampa Florida VA

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Paradox • Maybe now is not the right time for you to  make changes.

• You have been continuing to engage in all  night facebook activities and yet you say  that you want to sleep. Maybe this is not a  good time to try and make those changes.

• So it sounds like you have a lot going on  with trying to balance health and family,  and these priorities are competing with  your commitment to school at this time.

Reflective Listening • Simple • Complex • Amplified • Double Sided • Metaphor • Roadblocks

Normalizing • A lot of people are concerned about

changing their… • Most people report both good and less

good things about their… • Many people report feeling like you do.

They want to change their___ and find it difficult.

• That’s not unusual, many people report having made several attempts before succeeding.

• A lot of people are concerned about…

Decision Balance

1 2

4 3

Good Things Not So Good 

Things

Not Changing

Changing

Decision Balance

Columbo Approach So, help me understand, on the one hand you say you want to live to see your 12-year-old daughter grow up and go to college, and yet you get into fights with your boss and jeopardize your career. How will that help you live to see your daughter grow up?

Help me understand, on the one hand I hear you saying you are worried about keeping the custody of your children. Yet, on the other hand you are telling me that you are using crack occasionally with your boyfriend. Since you also told me you were being drug screen on a random basis, I’m wondering how using cocaine might affect your keeping custody of your children.

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Motivational Interviewing

Motivational Interviewing 1. "Why would you change?" 2. "On a scale from 1 to 10, how ready  are you to change?" 3. "Why didn't you choose a LOWER  number?" 4. "When you picture the change already  having occurred, what do you see?" 5. "Why is that important to you?" 6. "What is the next step, if any?"

Instant Influence ‐ Pantalon

Instant Influence MI On Steroids

When faced with someone you’d like to influence,… Call it like it is: “We haven’t been seeing eye to eye. I can’t make you do this. It’s totally your choice. But let me ask you a few questions.”

Why might you consider_______?  What would be in it for you? How ready are you to do___, from 1 to 10? Why not a lower number? Reiterate / reflect only their good answers.

Michael Pantalon

Instant Influence

Readiness Ruler How important is it to start using some of these  strategies/tools?

How confident are you that you could apply  them in your setting?

How ready are you to actually use them?

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Practice Goals What is one thing you will commit to  practicing with others this week?

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I know I should fix more meals at home and not bring  home food from fast food restaurants so often, but I’m  exhausted after working all day, and I just don’t have the  energy to spend 2 hours in the kitchen.  And even if I do  cook at home the kids don’t want to eat what I fix and will  ask for chicken nuggets or pizza.

REFLECTION…?

FAST FOOD RESTAURANTS

PROS and CONS Could you tell me some things you like about _______

What things are not so good about __________

What might happen if you don’t change?

How would changing _______ affect your family?

Providing Information Ask for permission. Provide nothing but the facts. Let client interpret it.

“Would it be okay if I shared information with you?” “What does this mean to you?”

Interest and Confidence Scaling On a scale of 0 to 10, with 10 being the highest, how interested are you in changing (INSERT BEHAVIOR)?

On a scale of 0 to 10 assuming you wanted to change (INSERT BEHAVIOR), how confident are you that you can do it? PROBE 1: Why did you not choose a lower number?

PROBE 2: What would it take to get you to a higher number?

Summarizing and Closing • Link to core values and strengths. ‐ ‐ “If it’s ok, I would like to go over  what we have discussed today.”

• Closure – “What do you think  might be a first step?”

• If ambivalent: “Would it be okay if I shared some  strategies that have worked for other people?”

• If not ready to change: “It seems that you are not  ready to make a change at this time ….”

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FRAMES (brief messages)

Feedback              – risks and consequences of behavior.

Responsibility       – “It’s up to you”. Advice                   – professional recommendation on

reasons for change. Menus                   – variety of strategies, not single

solution. Empathy                – positive caring manner. Self–efficacy          – “you can do it”.

Troubling Situations

• Danger • Confusion • Conflict • Deficit

Diagnosis: Danger Considered Response

• Listen • Acknowledge

feelings • Explore sources • Explore nature • Elicit emotional

reality Source: Clarkson, P. (1995) Change in Organizations. London: Whurr

Knee-jerk Reaction • Teach • Falsely

reassure • Rescue • Contract

unrealistically

Diagnosis: Confusion • Considered Response

– Restrain action – Clarify issues – Clarify roles – Clarify authority – Provide models and

maps – Explore options – Assess

impact/consequences

Source: Clarkson, P. (1995) Change in Organizations. London: Whurr

• Knee-jerk Reaction – Get sucked into the

confusion – Oversimplify – Accept one frame

of reference – Fight – Take sides

Diagnosis: Conflict • Considered Response

– Learn its history – Welcome it – Model conflict

handling – Value the differences – Validate all parties – Provide arena and

referee

Source: Clarkson, P. (1995) Change in Organizations. London: Whurr

• Knee-jerk Reaction

– Pathologize it – Fear it – Minimize it – Ignore it – Take sides

Diagnosis: Deficit • Considered Response

– Establish what they have

– Find what worked before

– Find out what did not work

– Start with where they are

– Establish needs and wants

– Provide relevant input Source: Clarkson, P. (1995) Change in Organizations. London: Whurr

• Knee-jerk Reaction

– Do it for them – Work with solved

problems – Solve symptoms – Give your favorite

package – Assure there

should be a training solution

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Coaching Red Flags

Borderline Personality Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.

Unstable and Intense relationships

Inappropriate or intense anger.

Recurrent suicidal gestures or self- mutilation

Marked reactivity of mood, affective instability

Chronic feelings of emptiness.

Alternates between idealization and devaluation

Impulsivity (spending, sex, drugs, driving, eating)

Depression Depressed mood

Diminished interest in pleasure

Weight loss or gain

Insomnia or hypersomnia

Fatigue or loss of energy

Recurrent thoughts of death

Feelings of worthless or guilt

Psychomotor agitation or retardation

Diminished ability to think or concentrate or indecisiveness

Dependent Personality Needs excessive advice and reassurance

Fears loss of support / approval

Needs others to assume responsibility

Feels helpless when alone

Difficulty in expressing disagreement -- fears loss of support or approval

Goes to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance

Bipolar Disorder (Manic) Inflated self-esteem / grandiosity

Racing thoughts

Highly goal-directed

Decreased need for sleep

Excessive pleasure

Moody & unpredictable

Schizophrenia Delusions

Hallucinations

Disorganized speech

Disorganized behavior

Blunted affect

Alogia

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Paranoid Personality Feels exploited, harmed, deceived

Preoccupied with doubts of loyalty or trustworthiness of associates

Reluctant to confide in others

Finds hidden demeaning or threatening meanings

Bears grudges

Suspicious of others

Antisocial Personality Fail to conform to social norms

Deceitful, lying, use of aliases, conning

Impulsivity – fails to plan ahead

Irritable/aggressive – fights

Disregard for safety of self & others

Fails at work / financial obligations

Lack of remorse

Suicidal Tendencies Alcohol / drug use

Truthfulness

Suicidal ideation

Suicidal plans

Suicidal means

Few options / stress coping

Self-destructive impulses

Threats

Remitting depression

Narcissism Grandiose sense of self- importance

Preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, brilliance, beauty or ideal love.

Requires excessive admiration

Sense of entitlement

Interpersonally exploitative

Lacks empathy

Appreciative Inquiry DISCOVERY Appreciating

“The Best of What Is”

DESTINY Sustaining

“What Will Be”

DREAM Envisioning

“What Could Be”

DESIGN Co-Constructing

“What Should Be”

Positive Topic

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Why would someone want to be led by you?

Management vs Leadership

Always Leading, Even When Following

Leadership is not  about being in charge. 

It’s about  • supporting others’  success

• modeling integrity • being accountable • caring passionately

Herie, Marilyn (2017). https://educateria.com/2017/02/22/a‐leadership‐manifesto/

Warren Bennis

Being Present Reaching Out Expressiveness Self-Knowledge

There are two  ways of being  creative. One can  sing and dance. Or  one can create an  environment in  which singers and  dancers flourish.

IMPROV to IMPROVE

This is ______________ And (s)he is an expert on ________ And feels _____________ about it.

Big Change, Fast…

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“There is  nothing  either good  or bad, but  thinking  makes it so.”

Shakespeare & Leadership

Class Review

Class Endings