response week 5

Take the Parenting Quality in Family of Origin Self-Assessment in Chapter 9. Based on that result, what parenting skills do you think you will struggle with? Review the 26 items and discuss two or three items that you would handle in a different manner from your experience with your own children? How would you learn these new skills?

Good Afternoon class,

I took the quiz, I want to say I was shocked with the results but frankly I wasn't. The first time I took it I found that I had marked 17 as true for my mother. The remaining false answers in my opinion were simply because she herself didn't beat me but allowed her boyfriend of the month to. I lived solely with my mother until I was 7, I experienced pain, neglect, abuse, I witnessed violence and drug use. I think of this time as a different life. I would think that I handle the entire list different than my mother, but raise my children primarily knowing that I love them, I want them to feel safe, and know that I am proud of them always. I strive to treat all three of my children fairly and evenly but unfortunately I fall short in this department. II have a daughter that is 11 years older than my oldest son, my 2 boys are 3 years apart. My youngest has had medical struggles through his lifetime and I find myself favoring him over his siblings.

Everything I have been through in my life has taught me that I am stronger than my surroundings and struggle made me who I am today. I like to believe that looking to my aunt and grandma as positive life examples there is nothing I cannot conquer.

Kandice

Hello Class,

Based on the assessment, I think I would have several issues raising my own children. It would take me some time to learn how to discipline them without using violence, I would need to show them more affection, and I would need to learn how to be less strict with them. I say this because I was hit as a child and it is in my nature to get angry quickly. I am also very strict with myself and my expectations for others. I have started doing these things through counseling and classes as well as observing my sister with her children. I think observation is the best way to learn how to do something.

Blessed, Amber Cochrane