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"Human life is like a work of art. -9". How can we make life a work of art?The most important thing is to have your dignity. Self-respect is what everyone needs. In life, everyone wants to be recognized and respected by others. Respect is a virtue. What is confidence? What specific role does self-esteem play in life? What happens if a person loses self-esteem? In this article we will discuss the aspects and characteristics surrounding this topic.
Self-esteem, is a kind of emotional experience of self-respect, self-love and self-respect based on the self-evaluation of individuals; and the need to be respected by others, the group, and the society. Self-esteem is a psychological component of the self-regulation structure of personality. There are strong and weak points of self-esteem, too strong into vanity, too weak into inferiority. What is self-esteem? Self-esteem, namely self-respect, is the result of the individual's self-evaluation of his social role. Self-esteem is formed through social comparison and is the result of the individual's self-evaluation of his social role. Self-esteem first manifests itself as self-respect and self-care. Self-esteem also involves the expectation of respect from others, the group and society. Another way of looking at it is self-esteem, a sense of self-worth, an affirmation of your overall worth. It is influenced by social comparison, by the judgment of others, and by self-affirmation of your own success or failure..（Self-esteem is an individual's subjective evaluation of their own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs about oneself (for example, "I am unloved", "I am worthy") as well as emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame. -1）In general, human beings have many noble characters, but there is one noble character that is the pinnacle of human nature, and that is personal self-esteem. A person that is cheerful and open minded,open-minded, will feel the happiness of self-esteem. Whether it is the affirmation of their own value, or others' affirmation of their own value, self-esteem and respect, are all factors to making one happy. Only to know the shame is to have self-esteem. Respect for themselves is priceless as it is the bottom line and a bright spot in life. Means "neither kowtowing to others nor allowing others to discriminate or insult." No matter whether others respect you or not, first of all, you must respect yourself. Only self-respecting people know how to respect others, will be respected by others. (Self-esteem is an individual’s subjective evaluation of her/his/their abilities and limitations. Let’s break down this definition into sizable chunks. From textbook, chapter 3)
In European culture, Samlinski once said, "Human beings have many noble characters, but one noble character is the apex of human nature, which is self-esteem ". Therefore, self-esteem is a very important quality for everyone. However, in real life, our words and deeds are sometimes misunderstood by others; Not everyone respects and understands, and even suffers from unfair treatment and persecution of words and deeds. At such times, we may sink into an abyss of disappointment, depression and low self-esteem, as if all our self-esteem has been stripped away.
While others do not, they will face these problems easily, no matter how many difficulties, and always maintain a positive attitude, not discouraged, don't lose heart, don't give up, believe in yourself, respect yourself, and through their own efforts, further, to find the value of his life, won the respect of others, feel the joy of self-esteem. In another story, the Empress of Germany and the Crown Prince are in the midst of a heated discussion when they pass Beethoven and Goethe, removing their top hats and greeting them kindly. Beethoven just raised his head, courteously wrote the words, Goethe flattered, hurriedly shook off the dust, put up the collar, took off the hat in the hand, and then respectfully saluted the queen. At the sight of Goethe's groveling, Beethoven's previously lofty image as a poet collapsed. -3This story tells us: self-esteem is the basis of a person's moral character, image and temperament. Without self-esteem, a person's character and reputation will fall apart and be greatly reduced.
And in Chinese culture, there are many descriptions of self-esteem. Share a story about how to earn self-esteem. A little boy picked up the chrysalis and went home to see it become a butterfly. After a while he saw that a small crack had appeared in the cocoon. The butterfly struggled inside for several hours before it came out. It's obviously stuck. He did not have the heart to use the scissors to cut open the pupa and let the butterfly out. However, the butterfly that emerged had not yet sprouted wings and was too fat to fly. He soon died. The child did not understand that the butterfly did not struggle in the pupa, nor did it have a chance to grow strong wings. There are a lot of people who have no real talent in their life but are eager to succeed. They always look forward to getting help from others. Some people can't wait for "unexpected help-3" all their lives. Some people even end up saying "Can't help Liu Adou". Everyone expects success, but if there is no painful struggle, you can not succeed, you can only achieve their own self-esteem in the struggle. Zhang Heng, a scholar of the Eastern Han Dynasty, said, "Life depends on diligence. If you don't ask, how can you gain?" （人生在勤，不索何获？ -5）The "diligence" he said should refer to a process of "breaking the cocoon". Butterflies struggle for a long time to break the cocoon, in order to grow their wings and become strong. If they give up, they must die from it. To live,one must learn to love life, because life is not easy,One has to learn to truly love delete the world, because this is the basis of enjoying life. Whether one loves himself or loves or the world, only when love becomes a determination, a judgment or a promise can one truly appreciate the humbleness and dignity of life.When you work hard through these processes, you will be successful, and you will find that in this process, you slowly win your own confidence!. When you have self-esteem, you will find that it is a pillar of a person's survival, If you don't earn your dignity through hard work, people are like a skeleton with hearts that have no meaning, Self-esteem is an indispensable part of a person's soul. Self-esteem is also the manifestation of a person's self-cultivation. Only those who know self-respect will be respected by others. And only when a person learns self-esteem, will they be self-restraint. Only when a person has self-esteem can he maintain his own reputation and cherish his own personality. A person that has self-esteem, will not let others bully you or insult you.
Historically this has been discussed in many ways. In European culture Soviet writer Belinsky said: "self-esteem is a great lever in a person's soul"-6, To learn self-respect, one must develop a strong self-control ability, to resist the temptation of "food handed out in contempt-7", not to be moved by high officials and wealth, and to withstand all kinds of threats from the enemy. In the classical Chinese style, “Neither riches nor honors can corrupt him; neither poverty nor humbleness can make him swerve from principle; and neither threats nor forces can subdue him. These characteristics constitute the great man.-8” Talks about self-esteem in different cultures, every culture starts from the same point of view, all have been talking about confidence in the same sense. Because only with self-esteem, can people at any time all clearly know their own choice and their own principles. Only by striving forward can one have enough wisdom and ability to maintain our dignity.At the same time,if people want others to respect , they must learn how to respect others. No matter how, respecting others is a need for self-respect as well as self-improvement. The most basic manifestation of respect for others is to be polite to others, to respect others' work, to respect others' personality. To truly respect others, one must be good at empathizing with them from their point of view, and appreciating and accepting others. Secondly, do not harm other people's personality. In this way, not only are they happy to others, but also improve their own. In a word, learn to respect others in order to get respect from others. Only when others respect you can you become a self-respecting and confident person. Comment by Ryan Wu: ,
"Human life is like a work of art. -9" If a work of art is not well polished, it is not easy to be appreciated. No one is unable to recover and correct the past, what we can do is to start now, learn to take responsibility for life, in their own way to turn the chrysalis into a butterfly, this is the best way to gain self-esteem. From the efforts to find self-esteem, self-love, to make life a perfect work of art.Self-esteem is always the fire in our hearts, the soul and the master of our lives. As long as we stand firm in our beliefs, no one can deprive us of our self-esteem in our hearts, and no one can damage the character with which we protect our self-esteem. Can defeat their own people only yourself! Let each of us have strong self-esteem, hard to live, do their own master, do the strong life, do the success of the cause!
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1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem
2. From “Beethoven's letters”
3. From an ancient Chinese poem, it means that if you have helpful people to help you, you will achieve success easily.
4. a babe in arms, From” Romance of the Three Kingdoms”, Widely known by his infant name "Adou/Edou", Liu Shan was commonly perceived as an incapable,
Even mentally handicapped ruler. He was also accused of indulging in while consuming state affairs. A person has no self-respect and depends on others to help, then you can not succeed in the end. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liu_Shan
5. The key to life is to be diligent, not to explore (labor), then which come the harvest?
That is to say, a person's life lies in diligence, not actively seek what also cannot get.
This sentence is said by Zhang Heng in the Eastern Han Dynasty. It comes from the Book of the Later Han, Volume 59 and Biography of Zhang Heng, written by Fan Ye in the Southern Dynasty.
6. https://theholisticeducator.net/sukhomlinsky/
7.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vissarion_Belinsky
8. In 《Mencius 》 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mencius 富贵不能淫，贫贱不能敌，威武不能屈
9. https://www.philosophytalk.org/shows/life-work-art