homework

Sample for the Reflection and Analysis # 1.

Story

Last December, I was involved in a conflict with……. We rented an apartment together and could not agree on who would take the master bedroom. He thought he should occupy the bedroom because he had more furniture than I. On the other hand, I argued that I paid three-quarters of the rent. The only thing he could do was to let me choose the bedroom I wanted. We went back and forth, and he communicated that money does not give priority in decision-making. I agreed with him, but I expressed that having a lot of furniture does not give him the right to decide who takes the master bedroom. I was furious because I felt that my friend did not recognize the financial sacrifice, I was making so that we could leave together. In the end, I decided to give him priority on bedroom selection. As expected, he chose the Master Bedroom.

Analysis

Based on the Motivational value system (MVS) found in (citation). I believe I am an Altruistic- Nurturing (Blue). People with this MVS are concerned with…. (source). It was evident in my conflict with my friend when I decided to …. My strengths as a Blue are …. (citation), and when they are overdone, I become …. (Citation).

On the hand, my friend’s MVS corresponds to …. (citation). People with this MVS are concerned with …. (citation). It was evident in our conflict when he decided to …. His strengths as a … are …. (source), and when they are overdone, He tends to become …. (Citation).

Anticipate and Identify

According to Denguessi (2022), to anticipate the conflict, I should first ask how people in our styles view conflict and discern what words and behaviours may threaten people's self-worth. As a blue, conflict for leads people away from each other and I should avoid it at all costs. Whereas for my friend, which is red, conflict is an opportunity to demonstrate his toughness. People in the blue will tend to give up or avoid conflict as I did by giving in. People in the Red will confront until they get their desired outcomes.

Therefore, knowing that will allow me to prepare for my conversation with my friend.

Prevent

To prevent a similar conflict, I need to speak words that resonate with my friend MVS. For example, I could say that I understand that He wants to have the bigger room, and I am willing to get it to him. However, he may lose a friend by insisting on taking the master bedroom, and I know this is not what he wants. Speaking the language of winning and losing would allow my friends to engage in the discussion with a win-win spirit.

Managing

I should ensure that I acknowledge my friends’ feelings by asking questions related to his self-worth. For example, how do you feel when I insist on getting the master bedroom? It is also essential to share my feelings: I felt that my sacrifices were not recognized and that hurt me.

Resolve

It is crucial at this stage to ensure that self-worth is restored (citation). For example, I will say to my friend I appreciate that he was willing to speak on the issue, and even though we may have different motivations for getting the master bedroom, I respect his position. I know that his intention was not to hurt me.