PEER RESPOND

If I where to be a parent I would try to be authoritative. I would like to hear my kids side of the story and try to gain an understanding into why they would take certain actions. I think teaching a child if you are going to do wrong then their are and will always be consequences to those actions. With that being said there is also positive consequences to good actions. For instance mow the lawn and you will get more for allowance or get to eat out at the restaurant of your choice. Unlike my parents who would either ground me until I mowed the lawn and never offer anything for helping around the house. My mother would cry and say I don't love the family because I refuse to do chores.

I think the parenting style I had to deal with has negatively impacted me by large. I am 34 years of age in school and still trying to figure my life out. I am trying to play catchup to those who actually took initiative of their life at a young age. Unlike me where I just wasted so much time rebelling against these strict catholic, authoritative pricks I call my parents. So yes the way I was raised has made me think taking a different approach would be much healthier choice. And I have already started doing that with my nieces and nephews. Now since I am not their parent I do not do the punishing but I do talk to them and get their side of things. And try to make them see why that action was wrong. Also I try to hand out complements when they achieve something. That way they can feel good about their accomplishment.

References

Pamela Li, MS, MBA  Feb 19, 20224 Types of Parenting Styles and Their Effects On The Child

https://www.parentingforbrain.com/4-baumrind-parenting-styles/