mmf 5 week 8
Mario Garcia Instructor
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This is the week where you are able to put all the learnings together. This week's forum is asking you to dig deep into your own soul and respond to serious inquiries. Yesterday's junk is specifically about how those Significant Emotional Events (SEE) from your past, and the meaning you have assigned are impacting your now and future, unless you choose otherwise. Spiritual beings living in a human experience carry baggage in the form of limiting beliefs, limiting decisions and rules that are created after a SEE which don't serve you today and perhaps they did at the time but you continue to use the Rule(s) as a defense mechanism, or secondary gain. Secondary gain is about pain vs. pleasure. As Spiritual beings living in this human experience we run towards pleasure and away from pain. However, at times we are stuck and take the temporary pleasure and continue in the pain because it gives us that temporary pleasure, that certainty or variety, connection and love or significance, 4 of the needs of the personality, and abandon the two spiritual needs of growth and contribution. Use this time to dig deep for your own benefit.
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Meaning-Making Forum (MMF) 5
· “So What?!” With the following scenario in mind, can you provide a clear, convincing argument for a particular insight from the course?
As I consider the information that we have covered over the past 7 weeks, there are many things that stand out for me. However, I think that one of those things that I use to take out the trash are the growth principles: cultivate a positive attitude, define your purpose, go the extra mile, live enthusiastically, get involved, stay involved, maintain physical health, think accurately, keep the faith, and learn from defeat (Nichols, 2017, pg. 67-71) I believe that these items will continue to keep me in the mindset of moving forward versus looking back. Paul writes to the church at Philippi about the importance of not looking backwards but focusing on what is ahead and that it is vital to not think that you have accomplished your goal even when you have met the objectives that you have set for yourself. In those times when I want to have an unhealthy conversation with myself, the Holy Spirit brings these principles back to my remembrance so that I can maintain a healthy headspace because this is what is key for me as I strive to become more effective and efficiency as a “vessel fit for the Master’s use.” Lastly, Carbonell (2008) spoke about a mature “S” type in my case is one who become strong and more aggressive and less timid by gaining education through courses founded in leadership, behavioral science, or improving one’s self-image as a leader (p. 251). I have found myself understanding more about my personality and being able to see weaknesses and turn them into strengths through this coursework.
· “What’s Best Next?!” Petersen (2015) intimated that people-helping could be “thera-noxious” (unhealthy, p. 251). Locate resources that may foster a therapeutic (healthy) paradigm in three areas:
. Self-Care?
As I look at this area in my life, I recall what Jesus said to his disciples after success in ministry and being so consumed with ministry that they were going so that they had not time to eat and he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest” (Mark 6:31 NIV). Ministry is important, but you cannot be successful when you are not healthy.
. Safe and Secure Helping Relationship?
This area of the ministry is vital to the integrity of the organization and people being able to trust that all things will be well. We established that women will counsel women and men would counsel men. We ensure that couples are counseling couples and singles with singles accordingly. We also have lay counselors to submit to a background check as well as sign agreements regarding their conduct and character inside sessions and outside.
. Further Training?
In this area, it is important that you gain the necessary training to be successful in the area of counseling that may be your specialty. I know that marriages are a passion for myself and my wife, so I will be going back for a master’s degree in this capacity from LUO. My wife also mentioned to me that I should get my license as well, but I am praying on that.
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References
Carbonell, M. (2008). How to solve the people puzzle: Understanding personality patterns. Blue Ridge, GA: Uniquely You Resources. (Carbonell VitalSource edition). [MBS# 001878948
Nichols, K. (2017). Masterpiece: Seeing yourself as God’s work of art changes everything! Forest, VA: ALIVE Ministries. ISBN: 9780997682861.
Petersen, J. C. (2015). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating & connecting in relationships (2nd ed.). Portland, OR: Petersen Publications. ISBN: 9780979155956.
“So What?!” With the following scenario in mind, can you provide a clear, convincing argument for a particular insight from the course?
Louise Smith, the first lady of racing, wisely said, “You can’t reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday’s junk.”
More than likely there are moments when yesterday’s junk still keeps you awake at night.
What problem, perspective, paradigm, or perplexing people puzzle keeps you awake at night? In what way has the Holy Spirit used course materials to address a piece of junk?
“What’s Best Next?!” Petersen (2015) intimated that people-helping could be “thera-noxious” (unhealthy, p. 251). Locate resources that may foster a therapeutic (healthy) paradigm in three areas:
· Self-Care? CLICK HERE for starters.
· Safe and Secure Helping Relationship? CLICK HERE and HERE for starters.
· Further Training? CLICK HERE for starters.
Valerie Stinson
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· “So What?!” With the following scenario in mind, can you provide a clear, convincing argument for an insight from the course?
Being a seasoned Christian, there is no single event or issue that keeps me up at night. This is in no way indicating that I have arrived. I am thankful that God is still performing His good work in me “Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ”, (Philippians 1:6, KJV), however, from Petersen’s “Why Don’t We Listen Better”, I have learned how my communication skills or lack thereof have either hurt or hindered many relationships in my life. I can now put a face to my emotional overload at time as the “Flat Brain Syndrome which leads to my hearing skewed; seeing distorted and my mouth working overtime” (Petersen, 2015).
· What problem, perspective, paradigm, or perplexing people puzzle keeps you awake at night? In what way has the Holy Spirit used course materials to address a piece of junk?
The Holy Spirit has also revealed to me something about my personality that I have been accused of by people close to me but have denied every time. Family members especially have accused me of behaving one way at home and another away from home. According to my Uniquely You Profile, there is an element of truth to this. The test shows that I am a guarded and masked C/S type in the public and an unguarded and unmasked D/C behavior at home. Not adjusting my relational style could easily result in having a thera-noxious affect on people instead of a therapeutic one. My charge is to learn how to balance my personality types without offending God, family, friends or others “A false balance is abomination to the LORD: but a just weight is his delight”, (Proverbs 11:1,KJV).
· “What’s Best Next?!” Petersen (2015) intimated that people-helping could be “thera-noxious” of therapeutic.
The topic of Self-Care reminds me of Solomon’s admonition to “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23, KJV). We all have issues to contend with. Some of these issues are inherited, some self-inflicted, and some coming in the form of wiles of the devil (Ephesians 6:11, KJV). In an article by April Yamasakisuggests that pastors “Engage in regular supervision or consulting with a more experienced colleague; Set up a peer-support group; Be strict with boundaries between clients/students and staff”. This is spiritual self-care, and makes for a healthy heart, healthy pastor and thus a healthy church. When the man of God not just talks, but exhibits this therapeutic nature, people know they are with “the kind of person in whose presence good things happen”, (Petersen, 2015, p. 251).
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Pamela McClamb
Meaning Making Forum 5
· So What?
The course has challenged me to dig deep and actively address my time management issue. Developing a Guiding Principle Statement (GPS) that governs my relationship with God amid every relational context, allowed me to create the focus point to feel confident enough to move from behind the scenes and take charge. The application of my GPS provides a different viewpoint for the value-add I bring in helping God’s people and effectively operating in my calling and election. Nichol’s Masterpiece open my eyes to the junk of inadequacy and unworthiness that I held in my hand has been eliminated because of Christ love and I can claim the multitude of truths He has spoken about me. As I apply my GPS in every relational context I can see my capacity to develop a strong healthy and biblical sense of identity as I identify the elements of false identity and replace them with my true identity in Christ. (Nichols 2017, p55).
Pamela,
Great post to close out this final week. I like that you talked about the Guiding Principle Statement (GPS). When this was first mentioned in the coursework, I immediately imaged how a GPS maps out the route for you to take to get to the desired destination and that the system also has the ability to reroute should there be some unforeseen issues along that route. However, the preach of the GPS comes from the device’s ability to maintain a good connection to the source. Our source is the Almighty God! As you commit to the Lord whatever you do, he will establish your plans (Prov. 16:3 NIV). Nichols (2017) stated that when God paints a beautiful portrait of our new identity, he doesn’t start with a blank, clean canvas. There’s already a lot of paint applied in our attempts to make ourselves look competent, attractive, popular, and powerful (pg. 24-25). Continue to let God paint on the canvas of your life and try not to tell Him what colors to use. The Master knows best. Praying for your success in Him.
Reference
Nichols, K. (2017). Masterpiece: Seeing yourself as God’s work of art changes everything! Forest, VA: ALIVE Ministries. ISBN: 9780997682861.
What’s Best Next?
· Self-care The concept of self-care varies among the different veins, some think that self-care purports selfishness and self-centeredness. Jesus modeled self-care during his ministry when the press became much for him. We are informed that He found time to quietly steal away to refocus and receive the necessary instructions from the Father as to how to continue his purpose of being the care-giver. Caregivers suffer from being overworked, dealing with too many and conflicting expectation, working constantly with needy people just to name a few. It is important that a Caregiver: 1) Learn how to say not clearly and firmly whenever necessary and appropriated for them to honor important thing which they need to say yes, 2) Distribute and share overdependent people consuming needs for support with training lay caring team members and small group whenever possible. 3) Not letting the needs of dependent people deplete the essential renewal of emotional and spiritual energy. (Clinebell 2011 p 469)
· Safe and Secure Helping Relationship Pastors should consider developing lay caregivers, first to distribute and share the massive demands of care seekers that may need counseling and secondly, he is responsible for training members to use their gifts for edification and growth of the body (Ephesians 4:15-16). (Clinton and Ohlschlager 2002, p 408)
· Further Training The American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) has a cadre of programs with a diverse committed soul-care helper from a variety of backgrounds, affiliations, professions and specialties. Each year they host and annual training conference in which one can enrich present learning skillsets and obtain certifications. American Association of Christian Counselor also provide significant and substantial distance learning training programs through it Center for Biblical Counseling. (Clinton and Ohlschlager 2002, p 428)
References
Clinebell, H. (2011). Basic Types of Pastoral Care & Counseling. Nashville, TN: Abingdon Press.
Clinton, T. D. (2002). Competent Christian Counseling. Colorado Springs: Waterbrook press.
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