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Frances Gonzalez

Santos, Marialice

SPC1017

10/20/2021

Reality Check: Chapter 1 and 2

The theoretical concept for which I will be speaking about and applying to real life is the

term “feedback”. The definition given by the textbook for the word is “Feedback consists of the

verbal and nonverbal messages sent by receivers to let senders know this is how the message is

being interpreted.” (Sellnow,Verderber,Verdebrer, p.3). I relate to this term daily in my life. An

example of this concept would be between my dad and I, my dad being the sender and me being

the receiver. My dad always wants the best for my brother and I. Sometimes I feel like my dad

forgets that I have a daughter of my own to take care of, a partner, or that I’m in school and

expects me to make up for the absence of my mom. I had to grow up quick and raise my brother

and now I have my own daughter. Since my brother is younger, my dad lets a lot of stuff slide

because he feels bad that my little brother had to grow up without a mom, but so did I, and he

forgets that. My brother is almost 15 years old and my dad constantly expects me to clean after

my brother, pick up after him, do all of his homework, and a lot of other things. It infuriates me

that my dad just expects me to do everything for my brother because my dad feels bad for him.

Verbal messages between us that occur are arguments because my dad does not give my brother

responsibilities because he feels bad for my brother. Meanwhile I had grow up quick and raise

my brother. Nonverbal messages that occur is me never wanting to be around my dad, always

making myself busy so my dad does not require more of me than he already does.

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Apart from the fact that I am not his mom, I barely have time to do the things my dad

expects me to do for my brother. He expects me to drop off and pick up my brother from school,

take him to baseball, clean and cook for everyone. My dad tells me that he’s my brother and I

have to take care of him because if I don’t then who will? But every time he tells me to do these

things for my brother and everyone the ‘feedback’ he receives are mad/sad faces that I make or

me being with my arms crossed which are two types of nonverbal messages. Types of verbal

messages that occur is my dad and I arguing because I am upset that my mom has never made an

attempt to try and be there for her kids or family. It is not my dad’s fault for her absence and I

understand that. But he just forced me to grow up quick and make up for her always being gone.

My dad constantly says that my brother’s a kid and we have to work together to finish raising

him. The feedback I give back lets him know that I interpret it differently than him. What I

interpret is a mom who never chose to be there for her kids or family and now I have to make up

for it.