Discussion: Student Response

Faith Harris

Rapport and Relational Alignment

I will Remain Rapport with Brody by being supportive and keeping his mind focused on the Goal. One way That I would support him is by continuing to shift my disc-style in being more in line with Brody is by being gentle and understanding at all times. My “D” style in leadership can be very intense. While Brody’s “S” style can be easily offended and laid back. I would ensure to be clear and concise with him, but also be careful of the words I choose making sure he understands he is being heard and supported. Being that he has had time to adjust I will be sure to monitor the pace while also ensuring that he is navigating every hurdle with ease and motivation to prevent backsliding. The aim is for Brody to be transparent, but always willing to move forward even later on after he has become accustomed to counseling. The role is for Brody to commit to a process that will help to shift his vision which in turn will boost his confidence in his day-to-day life. To help him deal with the unhealthy patterns of communication by continuing to implement healthy strategies for everyday conversations. As well as support him in understanding the importance of healthy communication and self-acknowledgment.

Phase Four Distinctive Features

The goal is to facilitate support for Brody, while also motivating and building his self-assurance. We aim to help rebuild effective communication with him and his father while rebuilding their relationship. While also helping brody to maintain a self-image that isn't built around codependency. Some techniques I would use in moving forward are using the TLC cards. This will teach him how to communicate effectively with others to not just hear them, but to be heard as well. A lot of Brody's low confidence stemmed from support based solely on how another person viewed him( his mom). Although it made him feel good about his hobbies it quickly changed his attitude once it was no longer being received due to him not internally feeling like that about himself initially. I would help him to move forward in rebuilding the relationship with his father by facilitating healthy conversations about heavy situations which Peterson refers to as technique number 23( Peterson, James 2015).

Supportive Feedback Break

I would use the scaling technique. Now that Brody has been able to express himself effectively I feel he can move onto the next phase of counseling. He has also taken steps toward forgiveness. I would say Brody is at a level where he can openly discuss his feelings without feeling the need to be defensive or offended.

Phase 4 Marker

One Marker that marks that Brody is ready to be released from counseling is that now he knows how to find solutions to his problems. Lambert states that it isn't the people who have solutions that need counseling. Now that brody has the tools to go forth and communicate efficiently even with those who might not see eye to eye with him will help him to remain strong in who God says he is.

Food for Thought

One scripture I would leave with Brody is “Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God. 7 Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows (Luke 12:6-7 NIV). I would leave this scripture with him because this is the scripture that got him through counseling sessions. Brody started off broken and afraid. Through seeing himself the way that God sees him, his Identity in who he is has been restored and it is only the beginning. I would also encourage him to join a community full of Faith filled thinkers to continue to facilitate love, peace and understanding of healthy relationships.