date reflection

In this class you have been asked to find someone to ask out on a date. The date has certain parameters:

· You must have some romantic interest in this person, not just a friend. This doesn’t have to be a full on crush - just someone that has the potential that you could see yourself dating regularly.

· We have made a provision for people who already have an exclusive partner. They may ask this person out.  All other parameters apply.

· Grand gesture

· Something out of your comfort zone

· Perhaps try one of these resources:

· Card Deck from the Gottman Institute

https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/

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· 36 questions to fall in love http://www.cbsnews.com/news/experimental-generation-of-interpersonal-closeness-can-you-fall-in-love-with-36-questions/

· 5 Love Languages

http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Relationships/Quiz/The-5-Love-Languages-Quiz.aspx

http://www.playbuzz.com/larak10/which-of-the-5-love-language-are-you

http://365tests.com/personality-tests/what-is-your-love-language/

 

· You must ask the person face to face - no texting, messaging, snapchatting, phoning …

· Use the term “date” when asking the person out so that it is clear that you are going out on a date.

· You must plan the date and pay for any costs.  However, the date does not have to cost anything.

· It must take place in public. No hanging out in your room or your house or apartment.

· It must include at least one hour of face-to-face time. Keep your phone turned off for that hour!

· It is a sober event. Really try not to have any alcohol.  However, if you and your date are over 21, you may have one alcoholic beverage but again, this is NOT recommended.

· It is a G-rated date.  No sexual intimacy except maybe a consensual good-night kiss.

· You can only tell one other friend that you are asking/ going on a date besides your date. You can ask your circle of friends for suggestions of people to ask on the date or places to go on the date.  

· Details - written or pictures - of the date can not be posted on any social media.

· Suggestions:

· Do NOT tell your date that the date is for an assignment.  (You will get more out of it if he/she doesn’t treat it like an assignment.)  You can tell them after the date that it was for a class - but that did not take away from the fact that you wanted to ask them on a date.

· Pick your date up at their door for the date itself.

· Be very intentional about being self-reflective during the entire process beginning with thinking about the date all the way through the time after the date.

· The date and reflection must take place between Monday February, 25 and Saturday, March 16, 2019.  

· The reflection will be due electronically Sunday, March 17 at 4 pm.  It must be 1500 words minimum. Below are the prompts for the reflection.

· Tell your story chronologically - from planning the date through the end of the date.  

· What went well?  What would you have liked to change?

· Make sure that you include your emotions - how were you feeling at various points in the date.

· How did the parameters affect your date?

· Would you repeat this date experience with these parameters or would you change the parameters?

· What did you learn about yourself from your date?

· What do you now think about this way of getting to know other people?  Are there any “big picture” revelations that you have?