Final Reflection Paper

My goals are simple first create the bond. With this in tack I would get more out of the person that I am coaching, they need to trust me not only with the information they are sharing but they also need to trust me with following my advice. I feel this will come into play with all the tasks at hand. When we are looking at goals to achieve as a coach, we want it all to work out in the end, we want the best for the person, we want to see them succeed and most off all we want them to come out better then they were before coaching.

2. Roles - what role do you wish for me in relation to your goals?

One of the first things I would do as a coach when we sit down is list your goals, I want to know what you want out of the situation. When we find out this information we can move on to listing your goals, just write them down in any order it doesn’t matter, because the next step that we are going to take is taking each of those goals, putting them in an order of importance to you not me then figuring out what will it take to tackle each one. This is such an import part of the process, it not only put the ideas in your head on paper so you can now see them, but it now gives you a visual of what matters most to you and what you think you can achieve in the time at hand. These goals all now have weight they have now become measurable goals whereas before they were an idea and something you wanted to do but haven’t yet.

3. Resources - what resources are needed to help you?

The Resourses I would use are what is at hand, I want to spent one on one time with you, I want to go where you go, I want to get a feel for your life so that I know how to approach you, how to deal with you when an issue comes up. I need you to keep a journal I need you to be reasonable and keep track of your ups and downs. This is a major resource, because now only are you now reading what your feeling, your documenting it but you are also expressing it even in writing and this helps to calm people, it helps to understand triggers, it helps them to see themselves in a different perspective.

4. Accountability - who else will hold you accountable?

Ideally at the beginning it is me. I don’t want anyone else in on your journey unless you want them to be. If you are coming to me to help coach you, then you are already having a hard time holding yourself accountable

5. Timetable - make a deadline, if you do not, it simply will not happen. Be realistic

You want to make a date, goal or deadline, but you also want to think about what the person is you are coaching conformable calling it. Do they want to call it a deadline, will they feel like a failure if they so not reach it? I prefer a goal, lets write our your goals set a time line you would like to complete these goals at and together we are going to work on the them so that these goals can be met, if we do not meet one of the goals we sit down we reevaluate what is going on, the methods we are using and if they are doing everything they have been asked to do in order to compete these goals in a timely manor.

6. Empowerment - for yourself, the coach and others (How does empowering you help others?)

When I am at my best, my life is in order. This may not happen all the time but when you feel validated yourself you feel Empowered. Confidence helps me to give you the best advice, the best methods for coaching. I feel confidence tin my ability to help others, I have a background of school, experance and most of all dealing one on one with different types of people with different issues they want help with. I want you to feel empowered in your own life, and with knocking out goals, with feeling better about yourself mentally and physically you will become empowered and that is how my coaching will reflect in you.

7. COACH ONLY QUESTION - what are your observations, do you feel as though they will achieve the goals? Did you chime in or lead the questions? What your method easy or hard?  Do you feel as though you were an effective coach in the foundation phase?

Early on I identified my wife and the person I look to coach, she is graduating with her BA in three weeks, she made a 3.94 GPA and will be graduating with honors. She is already self-driven, but she has not worked since she became pregnant with our oldest. This was nine years ago. She has been out of the work force for quite some time and this is where I can help coach and guide her. I always ask her what her goals are, I want to hear them, I like that she tells me them and I want her to be able to say them out loud not just think about them. I have reached out to the people that I know that can help her with information. I would say that my method is easy even though I am there to coach I want the people I am working with to do the work, they need to put in the work in order to come out on top. They need to have self-realization in order to knock out the goals that we set up. I feel this is very efficient method, I am there for them, I am working though the issues with them, and when we set up this foundation in the beginning we will be on the same page. This helps both of us know what we need to do, where the accountability will be, our time line will be as well as it will be made clear if adjustments need to be made, they will be its ok it doesn’t have to go by the book every single time. Having this flexibility is good beucase from my experance you are still holding them to time line but you’re not overwhelming them with it needs to get done, if it doesn’t its ok we redirect and tackle it again.