Communication 5

Activity: 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse by John Gottman

First, start by reading the article regarding John Gottman and his theory of the 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse.  Then watch a clip of Gottman speaking on the 4 Horsemen.

Article: http://www.azgrowth.com/4Horsemen.pdf

Video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=625t8Rr9o6o

Discussion Questions:

 1.     The 4 Horsemen aren’t exclusive to marriages, but are often found in romantic relationships.  Describe a time when you either were a partner using one of the horsemen or you were an observer (ex. I see my parents using criticism when Dad says, “……” to Mom.).

2.     If you were the person using one of the 4 Horsemen, how might you say it differently to your partner?  If you are the observer, how might you suggest the couple change their communication with one another?